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Greetings and salutations, Miss L. I am a female sub who has been caught masturbating without permission by my Mistress then even attempted to top from the bottom by telling my Mistress how to punish me. My Mistress ordered me to write this and wishes to let you decide what punishment you deem best. I have compiled a list of likes and dislikes and will describe my pain tolerance to the best of my ability in order for you to grasp the situation more clearly. Firstly, I am not a pain slut. However, I do get off on spankings and the feeling of being whipped by my Mistress. I dislike many things, but some of the more major ones are being denied of an orgasm, having nipple clamps put on me, having things inserted into my ass, and slight distaste for public play. I deeply regret my actions and wish that I hadn't acted with thinking beforehand. Please have mercy on me.

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joanne:

Miss L. kicked your question to the pool so I figured I'd pick it up. First off anything that is enjoyable is most likely not something that would be viewed as punishment. It is clear that the orgasm denial is the best in this case, but very hard to reinforce. But I would suggest your Mistress buy you a chastity belt and lock you in it for a period of 14 days. Only removing it when when she has you wash under supervision of course. Immediately after that humiliation is the best way, so a t-shirt with "I wank" on it front and back worn in public should suffice.

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I will answer any questions concern the lifestyle and may annoy a few because I do dive into the history and psychology of this lifestyle in many of my answers. I have a partner a Femdom Mistress who shares my experiences and assets, as I hers. Also belonging to a couple groups in Europa and Asia. Traveling frequently between the continents. We tend to share information and discuss many of the topics frequently. I will focus on the core items around, training and relationship management for those that are interested.

Experience

I have been involved in the lifestyle since being introduced to it by my father at the age of 13. He was a master in the 50's to 80's but predated the popularity of Gor, and was Pharaonic in nature. I owned my own slaves since my early 20's. I have usually been part of a poly household. For about 6 years three of us ran a BDSM club in Prague until it was "acquired" by the Russian "businessmen". I do not hold any moral taboos about this lifestyle and at one time or another have experience or seen everything imaginable. It is in this absence of mrals that principles, protocols and personal honour must determine the worth of an individual. It is their clear and unwavering adherence to these ethics that make for stauncher things than those which some observance by mere lip service to common morals. When men/women of honour lead, then they do so without malice, without negativity and without thought of personal gain. It only then that they truly attain Dominon over others. Therefore in mastery comes a devotion to duty, and the existence, needs and desires of others that exceeds the submission mere slaves give to the Dominant. A Dominant one must lead, govern, educate and enrich the lives of subjects beign ruled... for otherwise they are but a sycophant and a tyrant. Hedonism and narcissism plays no part in this, it is an apparition that forms from acts done at much higher levels of meaning that mere morally bound persons can not see.

Organizations
I belong to a number of local clubs, and a loose association (not formal) of about 25 masters and mistresses here in Western Europe and Asia who share experiences, training and some exchange trade assets.

Publications
I have not published on BDSM under my name, but contribute frequently to forums. I am consolidating my writings slowly on DarkCastleSin.org for any that are interested in reading.

Education/Credentials
Not relevant although I do have a DCS and DT but I am not Christian so have no moral dilemmas with this lifestyle.

Awards and Honors
Not applicable here, come on in our lifestyle these do not exist but should. When was the last time we had public awards for Worlds Darkest Sadist, World's Most Gifted Shibaru Artist, Worlds Most Diligent Mentor, World's Most Gifted Enthusiast,

Past/Present Clients
Not relevant; private consults remain so.

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