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Master and I are growing our relationship and it's definitely headed in the right direction. But I am struggling with how to talk to him during scene. I have my safe words- but I think it would be more beneficial to talk through some challenges as they and work through them in the moment but not sure how to. Any advice?

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Rachel,

I would just suggest you talk to him instead of using a safe word to just tell him how you are feeling, and working through it as you think would help. There is nothing in writing that states you have to safe out, but none the less you simply need to communicate with him.. One of the things that is most important in this lifestyle is communication.. Just let him know before you play that safe words are not what you wish to use to you would like to talk about what the issues are at hand, and how and what he can do to help you through them.. If he is willing to allow you to grow in both your mental and physical he will be more then willing to do what it takes to help you get past any and all issues on the levels you need.

Good luck and I hope you can do the steps you need to get past these issues..

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Victorian Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Web pages and site for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either D/s or Mistress/slave, or simply learning more in order to help others. I am always reading, either on the net or books.

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I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment. I just moved to Indina with in the last year. I can be found on Fetlife.com as LadyAryana. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me. Slowing I am returning to being active in the community here in Indiana. In the past I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 20+ yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I am semi active in Indiana since moving here, I attend munches and demo's / play parties GRALE, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and and Gorean, I understand that training varies in each relationship so you adjust to what it is you do for the relationship you are in. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

Past/Present Clients
Master, slave, submissive, Tops, and Bottoms. Along with those who simply wanted to learn how to be kinky in the bedroom

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