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"How does a slave serve and please her Master (poly) in an LDR.
I am entering into an online long distance relationship dynamic as a slave with a poly Master and would like to know how I can serve him and please him in the LDR.

I was introduced to the LS over 23 years ago as a slave, was in that dynamic for about 5 years and have not been in the lifestyle since. My first dynamic was real life, we lived down the street from each other and I was very young so I am trying to reintroduce myself and relearn everything."

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Hi tabby.

I will admit my experience in a LDR was because circumstances prevented us from being together. When those circumstances change she moved to me. That was 8 years ago and we are still in a joyful M/s relationship? We get into relationship for the purpose of some sense of satisfaction, fulfillment, even happiness. I he is there, and you are not there, then how will this meet your need to, for example, be of service to him.

Will this be a "forever" LDR or temporary? A real issue with and LDR is trust. Is he really what he says he is? Has he earned your trust or simply expects you to take it in his statements?

A critical question, which only you can answer is, What will YOU get out of the relationship?

You have been in a "residrnt" relationship then you know the closeness that can develop because of the proximity. You have watched his face, heard his voice when you have been successful, or felt his discipline when not successful.

By the very nature of a LDR, this will be different.

How to serve? Follow as best you can his orders. If uncertain, ask for clarification. Never, ever, lie or even distort the truth.

And for your good, be prudent in your trust.

Brian

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I will answer questions related to long term Master/slave relationships.

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We have been married since 2007, and I collared her on November 1, 2008. My slave and I are married, monogamous, and committed to each other. My relationship with my slave is based on mutual love, respect, and frankly fun. Race Bannon has said "if you are not having fun then you are doing it wrong." We are having lots of fun so we must be doing something right! My slave is an intelligent (BS in Mathematics actually), and strong women who chooses to put her power into my service and, perhaps seemingly paradoxically as she is my submissive, my equal. She is my slave, my wife, my best friend, and my only lover. I respect her for her ability to submit and truly believe that it takes more strength to submit then to dominate. She follows, but not blindly.

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Masters and Slaves Together - Marysville (Washington) (founding director) MAsT International - Assistant Northwest Regional Representative 2015, Regional Representtive 2016 BDSM Writers Workshop (April 2016) http://bdsmwriterscon.com/

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My essays are on Fetlife under BrianR (https://fetlife.com/users/9389/posts)

Education/Credentials
Engineer (however this probably should be under the category "barriers your slave has overcome")

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With my lovely slave we were Northwest Master and slave 2013

Past/Present Clients
With my slave I have presented at national and international events since 2013. While we enjoy presenting at national events, we find more satisfaction in talking with small groups from Boise ID to Singapore and Hong Kong. Our list of classes is available at

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