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I have been dating a woman for some time, she has experienced the bdsm lifestyle and two doms before (she says they weren't her doms just experiences), it is what she enjoys and wants. She wants this for us, we have talked about it and made me understand what it means in all respects. My question is how do I "learn" what I need to be the dom she wants/needs?

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Greetings Cal

Thank you for your question..

Your question is one that i could spend days explaining but first it sounds like a very exciting time for you and your partner.

There are a number of things you can do but first and for most is being a dominant partner something that you have an interest in or is your interest just BDSM One way to begin to discover your own interest is through starting with some reading. There are a number of good books our that that are non fiction. There are also some site like Fetlife.com that can give you a good over view of peoples perspective on the topic. However, the best way i see learning about SM and about being a dominant partner is through finding groups, organizations, and events in your general area ( there are thousands throughout the country) Most KinK / BDSM Groups offer a sundry of educational opportunities to help you learn and grow as a dominant partner. You and your friend could attend together since this  is something best learned together.

The best of luck to you in what you seek

warmest regards
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I am available to answer questions pertaining to the Master slave dynamic. The slaves journey into submission, mentorship, service,leather lifestyle, household management, and training. My life's focus is assisting individuals to realized their fullest potential through self awareness.

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I am a 51 year old female slave who has been part of the BDSM/M/s lifestyle since 1983. I have had the distinct privilege of sharing my perspective on the M/s dynamic throughout the US and Canada. I am the owner and producer of ABR Events an authority based relationship organization that provides quality education concerning power dynamic relationships of all kinds, including that of M/s. It is also a honor and privilege to be owned property for the past 13 years. I bring to the table no only my concepts on mastery and slavery but also real time experience.

Organizations
TES MAST ROCHESTER NY (Director) MAsT national ABR Events ( Owner/producer)

Publications
Slave quarters: "The mind body spirit of consensual slavery" Art of slavery Tryscilian society

Education/Credentials
Aside from learning from lifes experiences i have a BA in psychology and a masters in socialogy. i have studied gender and human sexuality in an ever changing world.

Awards and Honors
Southeast slave 2006 International slave 2006

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Masters and slaves

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