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Lady Aryana,
 I am a 53 year old male with a 34 year old wife, we have one child who is 12 so our femdom relationship has to be hid a lot. I love my wife dominating me and she loves dominating me. She allows me to be inside of her but only if I buy her things or pay her. I have no issue with this actually it excites me. She also only allows me to watch what most would call chick flicks, I am not allowed to watch any sports or guy things. This excites me as well. My question is after I climax, I feel a huge guilt or regret that I gave into her demands, I always fulfill her demands, but at times complain or get depressed because I gave in. After a few days my excitement returns to serving her with no regret and excitement. Its just the few days afterwards causes undo tension in our marriage that is my fault. Why do I feel this way? And how can I change it? I want to completely serve my wife and this feeling I have afterwards is interfering. I would appreciate any advice.
Sincerely,
Lee

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Lee,

I will be honest I have been trying to figure out what you  need to do other than talk to your wife and let her know what you are going through and ask her for help.. I know it is easier said than done when someone tells you to just do it, we are human after all and as much as we want something that part of us that wants to do what we want just makes it hard.. So really you need to sit down with your wife and explain to her what you are going through and ask her to help you work through it in a manner she can and you can handle.. Other than that I would say get some books on Fem Dom relationships, connect with others who are in the same kind of relationship and find out what has helped them work through the issues you  may be experiencing. Fetlife has alot of Couples which I am sure you will see you are not the only one with these issues..

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Victorian Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Web pages and site for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either D/s or Mistress/slave, or simply learning more in order to help others. I am always reading, either on the net or books.

Experience

I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment. I just moved to Indina with in the last year. I can be found on Fetlife.com as LadyAryana. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me. Slowing I am returning to being active in the community here in Indiana. In the past I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 20+ yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I am semi active in Indiana since moving here, I attend munches and demo's / play parties GRALE, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and and Gorean, I understand that training varies in each relationship so you adjust to what it is you do for the relationship you are in. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

Past/Present Clients
Master, slave, submissive, Tops, and Bottoms. Along with those who simply wanted to learn how to be kinky in the bedroom

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