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Hey I'm kinda new to this and I was wondering if you know any good sites that I can watch to learn more about it and see how it is. Thank you.

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Hi, Gracie, thanks for writing...

"Facebook" for us kinksters is www.FetLife.com  It's free and there are dozens and dozens of "groups" (such as for Masters or slaves or submissives) where you can find LOTS of answers.

To some extent, you can search YouTube for special topics, such as flogging, spanking, etc, but while you get some great clips, some are either pretty stupid or the person just doesn't know what they're doing.

If you join Fetlife, I'm Dr_Bob.  Feel free to send a friend request.  While on Fet, so a search for the city you live in and scroll down... you'll find groups in your area and you can start going to munches (social get-togethers in public) and join clubs.

At the risk of sounding self-serving, you'll save yourself a LOT of time, trouble, and heartache if you'll pick up a copy of our two BDSM Mastery books. One is on the basics of play, parties, and scene protocols, the other is on Dominant/submissive relationships.  Our website is www.KinkMastery.com

Most BDSM clubs offer training. Also -- depending on your pocketbook and amount of interest -- you can find BDSM weekend conferences somewhere in the US virtually every weekend.  See: thebdsmeventspage.com

Again, thanks for writing and welcome to our world,

Bob  

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Robert Rubel (Dr. Bob)

Expertise

Anything related to BDSM or Master/slave relationships or activities.

Experience

See: www.KinkMastery.com I live 24/7 Master/slave lifestyle and have since 2002 both as Master and slave. My Owner and I present and do "weekend intensives" internationally and at BDSM conferences practically every month.

Organizations
Masters And slaves Together (MAsT) National Leather Association - International (NLA-I) National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)

Publications
+++ BDSM Mastery—Basics: your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols. +++ BDSM Mastery—Relationships: a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives +++ Master/slave Mastery: Updated handbook of concepts, approaches, and practices +++ Master/slave Mastery--Advanced: Refining the fire; ideas that matter +++ Master/slave Mastery--Protocols: Focusing the intent of your relationship +++ Is THAT What They Meant? A book of practical communication insights

Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison. EdM, Boston University with specialty in urban education Presented 80+ BDSM weekend conferences worldwide since 2007.

Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008

Past/Present Clients
Not applicable.

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