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please help me, ok so i have a bf who doesn't know how to do the petplay thing like training or anything else about it, he lovs fucking me hen i have my ears paws and tail he thinks im really cute and pets  me. which is great and all but, i feel like i need some training because i have moments where i forget im a pet who doesn't make decisions i just want to be obedient and do my very best for my master. im just having a hard time getting myself in the head space. i wish there was more info online about everything about pet play, cuz see im pretty new 2 and . i have done my research that i am a kitten and i am his. iIs there anyway i could improve my submission to him and help me give in to him  and stay close to 24/7 pet i mean ill be human cat so im submissive. because he doesn't know how to train or start. sorry its hopefully not too confusing i just don't know what to do to get into my headspace and stay that way i crawl around on the ground right its hard to find kitten petplay videos to help educate me and train me

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Hello,

I am not well informed in pet play as it is not something I am into, but not everyone is into everything.. So I am not sure how much I will be able to help but I shall try..

First when you are at home, it should be you are on all fours, and dressed as the cat you wish to be. If there is issues with your pet side, I would suggest a gag to help you communicate as a pet and not as a person.. Mind you this will help you learn to ask for things in a manner a pet would. I would also suggest he give you a pet name, which is for the kitty in you, this is to be used when you are alone or when he wishes to get your attention or remind you of your place.

When it comes to feeding, you should be fed as a pet would.. So this means unless he wishes to have you at the table with him as his submissive he should get you a bowl where he can put your food in it at his feet when he eats.. He can also hand feed you since pets are spoiled at the hands of their owners..

Depending on where you live, in the country or in a city, you can be taken outside to do your business. If you live in a city you can get a kitty box which will allow you to release into that, as a cat would.. I would suggest for a while you do these things and other things which I will hopefully get you information on until he is used to having you as a human pet, and you are able to become his pet when in private..

Here are some sites with more information on petplay..

http://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/04/pet-play-human-pets-primer/

http://asibdsm.com/pet-play-by-mistresskay/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MHvBEwXilmw

https://bdsmcontracts.org/owner-and-pet-relationships/

http://kinky-world.net/?p=539

I would also suggest you sign up for fetlife.com it is a free site, and you will be able to find others who are many close to you in which you can learn from, and get ideas.. I have provided a few groups on fetlife which you can check out when you get on and learn so much more from other pets, and their owners.

https://fetlife.com/groups/5352

https://fetlife.com/groups/71336

https://fetlife.com/search?q=pet+play


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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Victorian Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Web pages and site for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either D/s or Mistress/slave, or simply learning more in order to help others. I am always reading, either on the net or books.

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I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment. I just moved to Indina with in the last year. I can be found on Fetlife.com as LadyAryana. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me. Slowing I am returning to being active in the community here in Indiana. In the past I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 20+ yrs in BDSM in one way or another

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I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I am semi active in Indiana since moving here, I attend munches and demo's / play parties GRALE, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

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Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and and Gorean, I understand that training varies in each relationship so you adjust to what it is you do for the relationship you are in. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

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