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Hello,
I am a Sub, and I have a Dom,
We have at the moment a long distance relationship which makes it hard,
I find it sometimes hard to explain myself and I think that I keep giving him the wrong impression as tho I don't want to carry on,
but I do, and now he has been silent
what can I say to him that would make him no that I want to submit  to him, and that I am ready to be his Sub

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Hi Naomie,

If you truly want to submit as you say, then tell him. It doesn't have to be a grand gesture to get his attention. But I would suggest writing down what you're feeling, no barriers and tell him that you have trouble explaining yourself. Ask him if he has any suggestions on ways you can communicate more effectively in the future so that it doesn't appear as if you're pulling back.

The key to most things is talking honestly with those involved. If he responds back take this as a lesson on what might not work in terms of expressing yourself with him and grow from there.

Good luck!

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Natali Noir

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I can answer questions related to Mistresses/Dommes and their relationships with subs and slaves. I can answer questions about different fetishes, give advice, explain BDSM and dungeon etiquette or just explain overall BDSM practices and protocols as I've learned. I can also help with creative ideas related to kinky scenes, role-plays, punishments, or rewards.

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I've been into BDSM for about 10 years and I've a Mistress for 8 years and have had my fair share of subs and slaves. I have experience with what it's like to be on both sides of the paddle.

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I'm part of the local TNG and Black Rose, and several FemDom groups. I also frequent the BDSM clubs and parties in the surrounding areas.

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I have no educational credentials in this area, only years of firsthand experience and knowledge gained through reading, workshops, and listening to ideas from other individuals I deem more experienced in certain BDSM areas.

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I write my own blog.

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