Expert: Oscar G. - 4/29/2007

Question
I have a husband who I can't satisfy, the more I dominate him the more he wants. He is the dominate one in all areas of life.  He asks me for this in the bedroom. I will give in to him because he is that awesome. What a man wants he gets. How do I take him  OVER THE EDGE?

Answer
Hello ME:

You need to dig into his mind and see what limits (if any) he has. If you want to please him and 'dominate' him, you have to know what he does not want or like. And once you know that, you can explore from there and have the boundaries to where you could probably push him.
The trick is Tease, tease and tease. Promise, hint, and give him a taste. Eventually you will give it all, but elongate the delivery. One sure way to drive most guys nuts.
Keep him guessing, but without making him lose interest.
But it all start communicating finding what he likes.
If you are going to be the one in charge in bed (taking initiative/being the DO-er) there are many ways to do this, but only if you are aware of what he doesn't like. In that way to avoid those areas and explore  some of the ones I will mention.
Try bondage: restrain and tease him, you control the pace, and almost make him come until You stop and delay his climax. Also once bound, you could gag him so he is not dominating/distracting you. Even if you both know it is all done for his pleasure. Figure out if he is open to more intense play, such spanking, or flogging, or open to you probing him into anal play.
I mention a bit edgier play since i am not aware of your ages, or you  type of communication. But it sure sounds like he needs INTENSITY, and as such he may be suited  for some SM play or strong sensations. Either the adrenaline or endorphins of the  strong play, may give him what he desires from you for him. If you find out  and hit that button, he will be quite grateful and come back every time.

But as I mentioned, you gotta ask, since dominants  are NOT mind readers. But asking the right questions helps a lot.

I hope this gives you some ideas what to do. If you have a bit more specific question, please give me  more details and i will try to give you more ideas or resources such as books or pictures.

In the meantime, be safe and have fun.

Oscar G.