Expert: Oscar G. - 7/18/2004

Question
I've always been really interested in bondage, but I've never experimented much with it.  I told my boyfriend about it, and he was excited (yay!) and bought some handcuffs.  We've used them once, with him cuffing me, and I loved it!  My only concern is what I should do when I cuff him.  So far my fantasies have been with me as the one tied up, so I haven't given a lot of thought as to what I would do to him.  I'm afraid that I'll cuff him and then not know what to do!  He's a tough guy, and we've gotten pretty rough in the past, so I know he can take a lot.  

Do you have any ideas for me?  I'm really excited about this, but I guess my imagination isn't enough this time.  

Thanks soooooooooooooo much!

~Carina

Answer
Dear Carina:

Good for you guys! I love new couples exploring with bondage. ALways romantic and fun.

My answer for you can be very simple. You can do 2 simple things.
ONE:  You can do to him what he has done to you before or
TWO: Try any of the wild fantasies you have though for yourself on him; do to him what you would like to be done to you.

But to elaborate more on that here I go...
First be safe. Make sure the handcuffs are quality and they do not lock beyond of what you originaly clicked them and be sure to press the locking mechanism to avoid that happening.
The locking mechanism if that pin hole CLICK that you make with the pointy side of your handcuff keys. I am assuming you bought REAL police handcuffs. Otherwise i would suggest you get them. They are safer for play.

Assuming you already know your handcuffs well and you both are safe about their use, then FUN begins. Being tied up is only the begining of the fun. OK. Depends on where you handcuffed him, you could undress him or strip slowly for him but without his hands to help. I guess the tease and frustation factor are expanded a great deal. You can blindfold him  while you prepare  something else to do to him and tease him talking  about it with you get ready.
You could also use your panties as a gag (slightly wet are a wicked thing) while you give him oral sex, or a hand job.
The possibilities are endless. It is all just a question of what DO YOU like and what does he like.
The sky is the limit. But the main thing to remeber is that he has to be safe. He is in your control and charge. He is vulnerable yet you can bring him pleasure. And you can demand things of him before you relase him. And you can tease him  A LOT before he gets anything. Touch yourself in front of him and he might get more turned on. Or frustated it is not him touching you.

It all depends on the chemistryt and dynamics you 2 have as a couple. It might sound not espontaneous, but ASK HIM before you play. But not inmediately right before play. Ask him what turn him on. And also be sure what stuff he does  NOT want AT ALL. In that way you both have limits. IN that way anything between what you LOVE and have you hate is  open season. That way you may discover thing you never thought you could delight on. It is all about experimentation.

Go On and play and have fun while taking care of each other.

Best wishes to you both

Oscar G.