Expert: arani_CsA - 12/27/2007

Question
Can you go in detail in your collaring ritual? (to give an example of such a real life ritual)

Answer
Hello...

My current Master and i met through a Christian BDSM message board, and conducted a long-distance relationship for a couple of years until our jobs permitted us to be together.  Initially, we did our collaring on-line, and then renewed our collaring, so to speak, immediately after our wedding.

The first ceremony took place in a chat room with a few close friends in attendance.  All action was done in the form of role-playing, although i was in reality sitting naked before my computer.  The man who owned me at the time called me to him, and announced that he and another man (my current Master) had come to an agreement that my ownership was to be transferred from one to the other.  He then removed the collar he had formerly put on me, and instructed me to go to my new Master.  I did so, and knelt before him as he placed his collar around my neck.  He then commanded me to go to the branding rack, where my old Master fastened me in place as my new Master selected the iron he would be using.  He then gave me a belly brand, after which he ordered me to leave the room and change my screen name to the one he had chosen for me.  When i returned, we adjourned to a private chat room for a little cybersex.

Now, that collaring may have been enacted on line, but we both considered it very real.  It was about two years after that, however, before we were able to actually live together.  Four years after the original collaring, Master gave me the wonderful gift of making me his wife as well as his slave.  We wrote our wedding ourselves, and conducted it in the center of a labyrinth, with a Dom/Domme couple -- good friends -- as witnesses.

After our wedding, we then repeated our collaring, with the four of us in the living room of the cottage where we planned to spend our wedding night.  i was attired in red slave silks (as i was truly a red silk slave), barefoot with my hair falling down my back to my bottom.  Master drew a circle on the floor, in Torvaldslander fashion, and ordered me to step into the circle.  (In true Gorean fashion, when a free woman of Torvaldsland steps into a circle she is announcing her intention to become a slave.)  Master then commanded me to kneel before him, and i did so with head bowed.  He then placed his collar around my neck (a Torvaldslander collar) and locked it, announcing that i now belonged to him.  He then announced to those attending what my slave name was to be.  And, basically, that was it.  This all took place four years ago.

Gorean collaring ceremonies are not complicated, as the slave is considered to have a status equal to an animal.  She isn't considered worthy of any kind of fancy ceremony, any more than a dog or a horse is.  The girl assumes the collaring position, which is kneeling with her crossed wrists extended upward and head bowed between her arms.  The Master binds the girl's wrists together, then places a collar around her neck.  He may or may not say some words in recognition of the event.  He will then announce to the girl what her new name is.

Some of the Gorean role-players have taken to using more complicated rituals borrowed from the more mainstream BDSM world.  But in the books it was usually simply a matter of a Master seeing a girl he wanted, and marking her as his.  Girls in the books were branded as soon after collaring as possible, but most practicing Goreans leave this out as causing too much harm to the slave.  Two of my Masters have branded me on line, but my current Master and i have discussed my getting a tattoo that looks like a brand.

I hope my answer has been helpful.  If you have any more questions, feel free to send them my way.

arani_CsA,
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