Expert: Oscar G. - 5/17/2007

Question
I am a 61 y/o collared sub to a Dom 21 years my junior who was a sub for over 20 years. We are not in a Master/slave relationship and we enjoy intensive BDSM scenes with some limits & restrictions. I realize that specific protocol is an individual D/s preference, and I am looking for some protocol basics that I can present to my Dom as an assignment. Some things that I have come up with so far is frequent and ample use of "Sir," not speaking/interruption when my Dom is speaking, walking one step to the side and one step behind the Dom, opening doors, standing at "parade rest" (I'm former military) when waiting for instructions or activities. I am not looking for a contract, just ideas that  reinforces my submissiveness and my Dom's superiority. Thank you. will

Answer
Hi Will:

The military background is useful and at times flattering to those who have not been in the environment before, in a BDSM context (even if i am a veteran myself). However going more into the "protocol", you can build upon the Victorian rules of etiquette. You cannot get more formal that that, and polite, specially if the focus is on ritual, position and rigid rules. But if you seek something more on the Adult mind set, the GOR rules could help. Gor is a fictional world of master and slaves, with a heavy formal protocol that some people enact in their lifestyle, hence the name Goreans. The emphasis is more male dom/female sub, however it could be modified to suit your needs. One of the aspect that sticks out more in my mind is the so called "slave positions", a series of very specific body positions of the subject to the master to offer for service, display, servitude or play. The best way to get more in depth is Wikipedia and Google, using the search words "GOR" and "basic slave positions". I have checked and there are plenty resources already placed on line for you to read at your leisure and at length.

I hope this works for you in your assignment.
Be well, have fun and be safe.

Oscar G.