Expert: Miztress_Highlander (Anima) - 7/19/2007

Question
I recently made a mistake in my relationship with my wife and we agreed that I should be punished. It was a severe offense and we agreed my punishment should reflect that.
We agreed on 60 separate punishment sessions and she uses straps, paddles and wooden brushes. sometimes a bamboo pole. usually its a combination of a few different items per punishment and ranging from 100 to 300 and has been as high as 400 swats.
my butt almost always is black with bruises.
My question is she never once was able to make me cry and it seems I don't get a emotional release .
is this normal and is there any way this can change?


Answer
Dear Frank,

First off let me say that the extreme type of punishment you are speaking of 400 swats in one setting can be very dangerous to your bones in the pelvis as well as over time causing break down of the skin. SO please be careful to the 400 per setting swats. Second the lack of emotional release is more than likely due to the fact you look at the situation more as a play setting than a serious relationship in BDSM therefore the play view can  sometimes prevent the emotional release not to mention that men sometimes are more conditioned not to show emotion than females. I don't think it is a situation of being normal or not being normal but one of simply looking deep within and viewing what wil trigger your own emotions.

If you have any further questions please feel free to email me again anytime.

Sincerely,
Miztress_Highlander(Anima)