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Question Hi.. My new man has admitted he would like me to take on a dominant bossy role, and use him as my pay pig, verbally abuse him and get him to polish my boots!. This a completely new thing for me, i'm willing to experiment but I'm not quite sure where to start and i dont want to overstep the mark! Is there any etiquette i should know about? Thanks!
Answer Did he say "pay pig" or "pain pig" there is a huge difference. A pay pig is someone who buys things for you on demand while a pain pig is someone who wants you to give them pain. The same guy whether a pay pig or a pain pig can want verbal abuse and want to be made to do menial chores such as polishing boots.
I can't resist a shameless plug for our own store extremerestraints.com since you can get things like riding crops or floggers to use to 'punish' or 'correct' him for his mistakes. We even have sexy dominatrix style apparel that can add to your sex play. I find a little dressing the part can really help me get into role playing. Personally I don't think there is anything hotter than a sexy woman in boots with a riding crop telling a collared man kneeling at her feet to lick her boots. And if he doesn't lick right, is too drooley or doesn't use enough moisture for a proper spit shine... you can spank him using the crop to encourage him to do it right. I find rubbing the top of the crop against his naked balls will also give a little bit of threat to comply. They are always so worried about their jewels.
Though if you have a 'pay pig' on your hands.. I think I'd buy a new jewelry box and start shopping! You'll have to be creative and tell him things like "If you're a good boy, Wally, and buy me that pretty sapphire ring, I might let your good for nothing self lick my boots later tonight".
We have a really good book for someone who is interested in beginning and learning about BDSM play (which your new man is obviously into) called "Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns". I give this book to all my newbie friends who wonder about my own lifestyle. It goes over why people might find BDSM desirable and talks about different roles. It even gives a few scenes that might help you figure out how to act 'dominant'.
