Expert: Master Shadow - 7/27/2006

Question
me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 months now.  he has a major foot fetish and is very submissive.  I myself like to be submissive as well, but would like to be dom for him.  He has expressed the desire to be humiliated and I would like to know what kind of things I could do to accomplish that.  i think i would feel kind of bad for doing it, but he wants it done and i want to try. He also is curious about anal penetration and I am also, but would feel wierd doing it probably.  How can I get past this, and what kind of things could I do to be more dominant.  he is willing to do ANYTHING I ask, I just think I am not creative enough to come up with good stuff.  I am okay making him clean my feet and ass, but other stuff I need help with.

Answer
Forced feminization, with verbal humiliation would work for starters. Dress him in womans clothes, something really sexy, and add makeup, eyeliner, nail polish and the like. Call him Your lil bitch, and tell him how very feminine he looks dressed up like that.

I would also get a strapon, medium width (1 1/4" x 8" should do for a starter), and take him from behind while he is dressed up in his "girly outfit", or, tie him down over a table, or even to the bed, with his legs tied up over his head, and take him that way. Be sure to make him look into Your eyes when taking him this way. The humiliation factor in this is often mind blowing for the male sub, as You get to watch his reactions as you are screwing him.

Tell him that You know he likes it this way, and that he is Yours to do with as You please. Also, making him lick Your feet, and kneel at Your feet puts him in the position of having to look up to You from his position on the floor at Your feet, which is a psychological move to make him feel inferior to you, thereby enhancing his pleasure. While he is there at Your feet, have him do Your toenails for You.

It sounds like You care very much for him to want to do this for him. Realise, You are doing it out of love, to bring him pleasure. Once You see that he is really enjoying it, You will most likely get over any odd feelings You have about doing this for him. I hope this helps.

                                    SINcerely in Leather,
                                    Master Shadow,
                                    House of Dragon.