Expert: arani_CsA - 4/26/2007

Question
I am seeking a femnale slave for a rt 24/7.  I have gotten several responses from the different personals and all turned out to be nut cases or professionals.  I am seeking a Female slave between 30-40 years of age with no kids or pets (after all it is all about me).  I am ready to give up my quest.  Is there some place where one can actually find a true slave?

Ark

Answer
Hello...

It is very possible to meet a Master or slave on line, through personal ads or in a chat room.  I met my own Master when he answered my personal ad over 7 years ago, and we have been married for 3 1/2 years now.  Prior to that, i belonged to two different Masters that i met in a role-playing chat room.  Unfortunately, a lot of the people that look for partners on line are actually looking for a play partner, and are often not very truthful about themselves.

The best way to meet a prospective partner is to do so in person, or over time.  I suggest that you find a BDSM-oriented group that meets in your area.  (You can find a list of groups by state at http://www.drkdesyre.com)  There you can meet both Masters and slaves, and not only get to know them and discuss lifestyle-related matters freely, but they can also get to know you.  There may be a woman in the group who is looking for a slave, or someone may know someone who knows someone, and can recommend you to her.  In the process, you can find out what she is really like, over time, and see how she responds to others in the group.  

Another good way to do this, whether there is a group in your area or not, is through an on-line discussion group.  Again, here you can learn about people by reading their opinions, and learning how they interact with others -- both Master and slave.  And, by expressing your own thoughts, you will be allowing them to learn more about you.  

It has been my experience that many off-line BDSM practitioners are very distrustful of strangers who place personal ads without revealing anything about what they think about different matters.  Many of these people are viewed as either desperate, or newbies, and can be the subject of ridicule.

Think of it like picking up a woman at a bar.  It is possible to make a deep and lasting connection with such a woman, but most of the time she's not really looking for that anyway.  And you can't really know what she's really like after spending an hour or so flirting over drinks.

Good luck to you in your search.  If you have any further questions, feel free to send them my way.

arani_CsA,
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