Expert: Master Shadow - 7/1/2007

Question
Hi,

I've been with my gf for 2 years and we've done bdsm all the way through the relationship and especially spanking. My gf has now told me she wants me to tie her up and give her a hard punishment and not to stop until i've finished, no matter how much she begs or is crying. Please can you offer advice on what i intend to give her. I was thinking blindfold, gag, handcuffs and tie feet together. Over the knee with my hand first and then a paddling. then over the bed for paddle, whip, cane and then bend her over different things for more caning. Then strap her to the bed and paddle and cane her feet and legs. maybe force her to do anal/oral aswell. we have done both loads before so she's use to it and knows what to expect from it. what do you think to my idea and can you offer info/advice on how i can make her enjoy it the most. whats the best thing to do afterwards? we normally just untie each other and hug and lie in bed for abit.

any help is welcomed. thanks.  

Answer
Personally, it sounds as if You have things well in hand already. You could also throw in flogging, should You own a few floggers. If not, home made floggers are readily made from three foot leather boot laces available at many stores.

Another flogger can be made from fishtank airhose, but it is pretty intense, so the choice is basically up to You. Another fine flogger material is the beading used to secure window screen into the frame. It is available at most hardware stores, and is extremely painful, especially if used full force.

It sounds as if the T/two of you are into heavy sm play, or possibly an extreme sadist/masochist couple. If so, congrats! That is also my kink.

Aftercare is important. Use Curell or something of that order to apply to the marks afterwards, as well as triple antibiotic ointment on any open wounds to prevent infection, and do this for at least three days, until healing is well under way.

Also, hold her afterwards, so that she still knows she is loved, and cared for, and that You were not angry at her, but rather at her behavior. This is important. Many will confuse the two, and think it is them that you are displeased with, and not see that it is the behavior that is the problem.

Personally, this doesn't sound like punishment, but rather rough sm play. Punishment is done for behavior or acts that are displeasing. From what I have gathered here, it sounds as if You are not angry at her, but rather enjoy extreme sadomasochism, which is different.

Enjoy!

                                    SINcerely in Leather,
                                    Master Shadow.