Expert: arani_CsA - 12/14/2007

Question
QUESTION: Hi   i just recently lost my Master because of him being married.i have just found another Master.my question is he lives in Mississippi and i live in Texas.we have contact by email.i tend to not have as much discipline as i should have. i feel that since he lives so far away that he won't know.i am already in trouble with him as far as me getting a punishment.i need to know how i can keep myself from doing things that i know is wrong? can you help me.i am not out of place as a slave just misbehave at times.

ANSWER: Hello...

Good question!  I hope that I can help you find the answer that will help you.

First of all, all slaves misbehave at times -- even me.  (Much as I hate to admit it.)  A good part of that is just human nature, the other part is due to a need for more training.  I can guarantee you that even slaves who seem perfect will occasionally need correction, or even punishment.  Sometimes the temptation is just too strong.

I think that part of your problem is that of adjusting to a long-distance relationship.  When you are not with your Master, he's not there to see when you misbehave or need correction in some way.  Basically, the only way he can truly know what you are doing is if you tell him.  And that requires self-discipline on your part.

When my Master first collared me, we lived apart for the first couple of years.  He set a strict daily ritual for me, and I had to report to him -- several times a day -- that I was doing what he wanted of me.  I had to e-mail him when I woke up in the morning, when I left for work, when I got home from work, and then when I went to bed.  I had other tasks that I was to perform during the evening, and report to him on my performance.  By doing this, I was always conscious of his expectations for me, and he was instantly aware of it if I disobeyed.

But it also means that you are going to have to discipline yourself more.   It's easy, when your Master is not present, to lie and say you've done something when you really haven't.  But, just as you don't slack off on your job when your boss isn't around (or, at least I hope you don't), the same thing applies with your Master.  Learn to think of this as not something you DO, but something you ARE.  Before long, it will become second nature, and you will find yourself tattling on yourself, just as I do.

Do you keep a daily journal?  This is a good way of letting your Master know about your daily activities, and also your feelings.  There are several websites where you can set up such a journal, and you can even make it private, so that only you and your Master can see it.  There is also a way that he can respond to your journal.

I hope that you are also spending some time every day in getting into better contact with your inner drives and desires.  One of the first tasks my Master set me was to learn what made me the way I was, where my desire to be a slave came from.  Journaling or meditation is a good way to do this.  (And this will be a life-long process, not something you can solve in just a few days.)

If you can, find a group where you can discuss problems and learn from other slaves.  Find out what they do, and how they got where they are.  I do run such a group on Yahoo; if you're interested follow the link that is on my bio page here.

Good luck to you.  If you need more help, feel free to contact me again.  And be sure to leave feed-back on my response.

arani_CsA,
devoted property of Clampius_Arelius

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QUESTION: Hi
thanks for your answer.i just wanted to ask you what websites that you can put journals on and also be private.i'm not so sure how to go about finding them.

ANSWER: A lot of my friends use www.livejournal.com.  It does have a feature that will allow you to limit access.  I have an account there, myself, but haven't posted in quite a while.  It's not something my Master requires of me.

Again, good luck!

arani_CsA,
devoted property of Clampius_Arelius

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QUESTION: Hi
My Master for the past 2 days will not talk to me. He will say a few things but then he will not say anything.i'm wondering if he is testing me or what.We both have yahoo messenger and when he came online the laast 2 days he wouldn't answer my questions or anything. I haven't done wrong.He stayed online until late in the morning and was afraid to go to bed w/o permission,but i did.Why is he doing this? i don't understand why.Any help that you can give me I would appreciate it.Also he told me to  ask permission for everything and i do but he will not tell me if I have or not.

Answer
Hello...

I gather that you have not been with this Master for very long.  Has he ever done anything like this before?  Does he have any other slaves?  Have you started your journal, and how does he feel about that?

When I was active on line, it was unfortunately not at all uncommon for men to collar slaves and then drop all contact with them -- basically, abandon them.  I had one friend who waited six months with no contact at all from her Master.  These men often enjoy the conquest, but then once they have the slave in their control have no idea what to do with her, or lose interest.  They change their names and go play with other slaves on other forums.  However, these men are not really Masters.  Just because a man calls himself a Master doesn't mean he is one.

You may want to think about whether this is the Master that will give you what you need.

Good luck to you,
arani_CsA,
devoted property of Clampius_Arelius