Expert: arani_CsA - 12/1/2007

Question
Alright... Here's the basic situation. My sub (I would describe her as a Gorean slave) has recently severely displeased and disappointed me, and will, of course, need to be punished. The catch is, we are half a continent away. She is very good with carrying out her punishments, but there's only so much I can do. She is 18 and in high school, and my normal punishment of sending her to classes without panties or with a vibrator is simply not enough this time. So, I need help and ideas for her punishment. I favor humiliation, clearly, but I've simply run out of ideas. I need some form of punishment that she could perform herself (and I have no doubts that she would perform it) that would let her know that I will not tolerate her behavior.
Hope that was clear enough, and thanks in advance.
-N

Answer
Greetings, Sir...

Thank you for addressing your question to me.  I hope that I can help you find a solution that will be helpful to you and your slave.

My Master and I have, at various times, been forced to conduct our relationship at a distance.  When I was first collared, we lived 350 miles apart.  Later, after we were living together (and married), I took a job which required me to live apart from him for almost three years.  It is quite possible to conduct a long-distance Master/slave relationship, but it does require some serious commitment from both parties.  The Master must trust that the slave will, indeed, complete tasks as well as punishments that He decrees.

From the very beginning, I was required to go without panties as a routine matter.  I am also required to be clean-shaven.  This is not done as a punishment, but to serve as a constant reminder of my status.  But, whether punishing a slave or a child, something that works very well is to with-hold something that she enjoys.  For instance, is there a television show that she particularly enjoys, or a hobby?  Or a group of friends she spends a lot of time with?  

Humiliation can be a good tool, but for some slaves it is more of a turn-on than a punishment.  For some that I know (including myself), such things would not be a punishment but actually a reward.  But by taking away something that she enjoys, she will come to understand that even her leisure time belongs to you.  

This should also be accompanied by some sort of writing exercise; something that she has to spend an amount of time completing to a standard that will be acceptable to you.  I discussed this with my own Master, and he recommended having her write an essay, of a prescribed length, where she details how her actions defied your commands and were displeasing, and how she intends to modify her behavior in the future.  In addition, she should keep a journal, which you have access to, where she daily reports her efforts toward becoming more pleasing -- and also describes her feelings and how this is helping her to grow as a slave.

My Master reserves such punishments for willful disobedience -- in other words, where I know what his rules are, and consciously make a decision to go against them.  Thankfully, this is something that happens rarely, as it is very painful to me to even think about disobeying him.  This is also something that is kept apart from training exercises, during which I am learning and growing in his service.

My Master also recommends that any such punishment be carried out for a set period of time.  There are various bio-rhythmic cycles that have been determined.  The physical cycle is 21 days, the emotional cycle is 28 days, the mental/intellectual cycle is 33 days, and the spiritual/soul cycle is 40 days.  To his thinking, any punishment given should last at least throughout the emotional cycle, including weekends and holidays.  If you think about it, a woman's menstrual cycle lasts 28 days, and many religions utilize the spiritual cycle in their rituals.  So, at a minimum, any punishment should last for 21 days, so that it is drilled into the body.  But by doing it for 28 days, it becomes part of the slave's emotional make-up.

One last comment here.  I hope that, in your slave's training and punishment, you are protecting her privacy.  The threat of possible discovery is very real, and very thrilling.  But to ask her to do something that might cause her activities to be detected by her parents or those at her school, might cause you problems as well as her.  

I hope you find these comments helpful.  If you have any further questions, please feel free to send them my way.

arani_CsA,
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