Expert: arani_CsA - 4/29/2007

Question
I'm a male and I have a really big fantasy about my girlfriend using a strap on me.Everytime I try to drop hints or something , it doesn't work.So I want to know ,how can i convince,persuade,or trick her into using one on me.

Answer
Hello...

I have a very simple answer to your question, but it may not be what you were hoping to hear.  You can't "convince, persuade, or trick" your girlfriend into playing with you if she really doesn't want to.  Consent is one of the big "rules" in our lifestyle, and just as a Dominant shouldn't tie you up to a pole and flog you without your consent, neither should you coerce a Dominant into using you in such a manner.

I suggest that you be frank and open with your girlfriend about what it is you want her to do.  Share some information  with her about the lifestyle in general, and reassure her that people like us are not twisted or demented, but merely have different tastes.  Rent a movie called "The Secretary," and watch it with her, then discuss it.  And, lastly, if she decides she definitely wants no part of this, then you will  need to respect her wishes.  Either find another way to meet your needs, or find a new girlfriend.

Here are some good general info sites:
www.castlerealm.com
www.leathernroses.com
www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html

I wish you luck.  If you have any further questions, feel free to send them my way.

arani_CsA,
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