AboutMistress Violette Expertise I can answer questions related to the practice of BDSM, especially involving relationship issues and personal interactions. My expertise is in helping people sort out thoughts and feelings, define problems and find solutions. I'm happy to apply my BDSM knowledge and experience to this. I'm not the best person for questions dealing with mechanical contraptions, the physics of BDSM or Gor related matters.
Experience Seventeen years of real time, face to face practice of BDSM in my own personal relationships, 4 years of professional experience in distance training.
Education/Credentials My traditional education includes both a bachelor's and master's degree. I have no formal education in BDSM. I know what I know from interacting with experienced players, reading, and hands on experience.
Question I recently had my first play scene and it was wonderful I have never ever felt something so wonderful and was told that I was highly in subspace...it was in a word blissful. Nearly three days later I was a sobbing tearful mess, and I missed my Dom terribly because I hadn't seen him since the night we played because our work schedules didn't mesh. I was wondering if this could still be sub drop even though it was days later...? Please and Thank You for your opinion...
Julia
Answer Hi, Julia,
It certainly could be sub drop, which is just a convenient term for a normal reaction. What's important is what you felt, more than what it's labeled. Something very intense happened to you. Your mind and body were totally engaged, totally responsive, while you experienced something new and wonderful. You've probably thought of it and relived parts of it in your head over the past few days. While your brain was adjusting to this new discovery, your body was adjusting to the things that had happened to it.
Your body was involved far beyond the obvious. While you probably weren't aware of it, lots of muscles were making lots of adjustments. Endorphins and adrenaline were flowing. Your body was responding to the triggers. Just as if you'd done a new workout, your body is now resolving all those effects. Combine that with the feelings you're also resolving, it's no wonder that happened. It's not an unnatural reaction and it's fine to be having it, even days later.
Just because I like to cover bases, I want to encourage you to share this with your dom, if you haven't already. I'm sure he'll want to know, in case there's anything he needs to do for you now. Also, knowing about this will help him plan for the future.
I hope this helps and do let me know if you have another question.
