Expert: Oscar G. - 8/29/2006

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thank you for your answer and i do know that he like all of what you ask me and i know its not your job but please help me by telling how to play games useing this and ill add my style it just i never do it befor and i need more to tell me about let him teast my pee,,plss i need to know
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hi my name is mag iam just a normal girl i think i have an problem or an issue with my boyfreind i love him so much and i wanna make him happy as much as i can ,, i notes he is not fully satisfied with me on the bed and he always mention and talk about my feet and them smell and he love to smell them i dont know why and also he is talking about teasting my pee i dont know what is this but also i dont want to upset him what can i do iam not into this things and he ask me to let him lick and smell my shoes ? pls help me as he become cold with me in the bed

Answer -
Hi Mag:

Well Mag, you seem  to describe your boyfriend having a serious foot fetish. ANd do not worry it is not a bad thing per se. If anything itis something you can use to your mutual enjoyment, but only if you understand and willing to play these games with him.
First I would try to find out if he enjoys being submissive to you. If that is a yes, youhave to find out if you are comfortable being the one in charge intimately. Usually foot fetishists are submissive and would do ANYTHING for the privilege of the feet (and legs) of their beloved. It may sound a bit odd perhaps so much attention to a part of the body not that obviously sexual, but hence comes a lot of psychology and redirection of desire.  In any case the point here is to find out if you want to still give him his feet jollies or not. If you do, it is up to you to decide what you can give him (or what he wants with you/from you).

That requires communication, both ways. You need to define what you want and need. If you do not understand his needs, ask him to explain it a bit. And along his line of desires, you can decide if they can be modified for your own fun or make them more erotic for you. Example: does he like your stappy shoes, your pumps or sneakers? does he like your feet with socks, bare or stockings? Would he massage your feet and toes for you with adoration? does it EXCITE and arouse him?...ALl those questions and more you are better off knowing. So you can figure out if you can play along or not. But as i said, It may require you being in charge of the situation or being the dominant partner intimately, deciding how much and what to give him from your cute feet. (otherwise if he did not like that of you, you think he would ask you?) So perhaps he is willing to follow your wants and desires too.

But it may be too strange and diferent for you. And you have the option to choose otherwise. But find out more info about the fetish itself. Figure out what he likes and dislikes about it and and see if you can find aspects of the fetish you like yourself <smile>. And then you can compromise. After all this feet foreplay is just foreplay and i am sure he does appreciate the person you are too. Since after all you allow him to play and be intimate with him.  I would suggest reserach the topic in en.wikipedia.org or even better wipipedia.

The topic about pee is better left for later once you talk more in depth about your needs and your roles. I hope this helps you a bit.

Oscar G.

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Re Hi Mag:

As I said before...  for feet let him buy you some shoes  he likes for you and from there, dress and match up you clothes and use your feet as if they were your hands on his body.
for pee:Remember that nothing is wrong with these type games as long as you remember pee/urine is ineherently clean and sterile and you cannot get sick bit tasting it. The aspect of tasting it is up to the receiver if the enjoy the act, taste arome, humilliation aspect or control aspect you have over them. It may be that  they like the warm flow coming from you.
Sexy sensual ways of incorporation that into play vary a lot, but it all depends on what he and you like. Fantasies are a good blueprint to start and follow on from there. maybe you can take a shower together where he can play with your feet, and you can direct him to play with your feet and once confortable and ready maybe play a bit with pee and not worrying much about where it will flow, it can be either shower or bath, but you will figure it out. Maybe you can use a cup to flow onto or depends on your style and tastes you could flow into his hand, shoulders chest or depends if you can to tease him or please him.
You have to find out what he wants and needs and you decide how to implement it. What i suggest is just one idea but there are others that you have to dig around for. Golden shower play, as it is known, is not my specialty; but i hope this can help you  get started.

Best regards

Oscar G.