Expert: Oscar G. - 8/2/2007

Question
I am in the first month of a D/s relationship.. I am collared, and we're in love. I gave up most of my decisions-- He must know where I am at all points of the day, and he schedules my days out. My question is this.. I'm 20 y.o. and He is 49.. Do you find that D/s relationships often have significant age differences? Is this completely wrong? He respects me and I enjoy being his slave.. but do you think the age difference is too much?

Answer
Hello Lil:

Not all relations have that big of a gap in age. Some have worked and others have not. And other works regardless of age difference or not. Often times it is the older one that is the Dom. Nothing wrong per se in the relationship, however you have to consider the future more than the present and how it is good NOW, and look a bit farther up.
29 years difference is no insurmountable, but once he is older other need will surface, other plans and horizons could pop.  He knows what he wants, I assume. DO you know what you want? Besides making him happy...
Can you live with so much control in you life? do you need  it? is you lifestyle 24/7? anything you want to be/do in life, without being the reflection of somebody else, and straight from your inner core.

If you can answer without hesitation and honestly to yourself what will you want/need in 20 years and you are happy as you are now and you think nothing will change in that time: go ahead and forge you path as you are, without worrying what will others say. If you have reservations about the future, then talk to him to insure your security and patrimony or a way for you to fend in the world and stand on your own if necessary. You may not need it, but would make you a stronger person and hence a better sub/slave by being able to not need anyone, but CHOOSING to lean  on someone strong who can trust you being on her own 2 feet at times.

Those are my 2 cents. I hope gives you the insight you needed.
Best wishes.
Oscar G.