About Master Shadow Expertise Can answer your BD/SM Lifestyle questions regarding flogging, caning, paddles, whips, scening, fear play, wax play, sensual knife play, humiliation, fisting, anal, violet wands, clamps, cbt, ice play, books, breathplay including blood chokes, cuffs, collars, furniture, collaring ceremonies, links, gags, toys and other items used in the lifestyle, Will not answer questions regarding medical advice in regards to the Lifestyle. I am a sadist, married to a Domme, who is also a sadist, am the owner of two, in a poly relationship, and enjoy the 24/7 lifestyle.
Experience 31 Years experience in the BD/SM Lifestyle.
Organizations Terre Haute S.I.N. Social Interaction Network (CoFounder).
Publications Alt Magazine, on "Honor and Respect".
Education/Credentials , Member of The Dungeon Monitors Association, as well as The Violet Wand Guild, and life experience.
Question Hello, my girlfriend and I have been enjoying the practice of bdsm for a while now but are starting to move into new area's. one subject that has been mentioned is anal play and the male g-spot. I understand that this is the prostate gland. Could you tell me a little about why people do this and does it pave the way for multiple, non ejaculatory orgasms?
thankyou for your time.
Answer Anal play is an exciting thing to many. There is nothing that says submission like having the Mistress invade a place which is considered by many to be taboo, and off limits. As to it being a g spot, I believe it is because that is where a doctor will go to force ejaculate from the penis.
I understand that many who have had this done consider it quite painful, and not at all pleasant. To many men, the g spot is the place between the testes and the anus, which is quite sensitive to the touch, and very sensual.
As to non ejaculatory orgasms, and multiple orgasms in the male, this I believe is nothing more than a myth. I too have been to the website, and did not find convincing evidence that what was presented there is truth.
This does not mean that you cannot explore the possibilities for yourself, and I would be interested in hearing of your results, either positive, or negative.
When starting out in anal, you must move slowly, so as to not tear the sphincter, a circular muscle which prevents non controllable bowel movements. Start out with a beginners dildo, or butt plug, and slowly insert it, being careful to allow the muscles to relax, and stretch. Be sure to use a quality water based lube, as silicone lubes will destroy most toys. Work your way up to increasingly larger toys, until you are satisfied that you have reached a physical limit for your body. Be sure to not go too deeply, as it might lead to irritation of the transverse colon, which would not be enjoyable.
Do not use such things as vegetable oils, as they will allow bacterial growth, and possibly cause an infection. Be sure the toys you are thoroughly cleaned, both before and after, and do not share toys with others, as this opens one up to possible cross infections of std's. Be sure to also clean yourself thoroughly both before and after play, to lessen the chance of infection.
I hope this helps. Be well, play safe, and have fun.
