Expert: Oscar G. - 8/27/2007

Question
hello
i am a 43 year old, straight, female submissive, fairly new to the lifestyle, still learning
i am searching for information on Dominate to Dominate protocol when one is a mentor/protector and the other is wanting to meet me , the submissive
so far, all the Doms i ask have a different answer and all seem to puff up over having to speak to another to get to me
i asked for help so i would not get hurt, so i would be safe as i learn and search for the One, is this wrong?
thank you so much for your time
blessed be
mLady

Answer
Dear mLady Dragon:

There are no hard and fast rules in how to deal in a circumstance like this. But "common sense" would tell you the mentor you chose has your best interest at heart. And once assumes mentors not to be involved physically with you as to be able to be objective in your training. But i have seen that overlooked at times.

If other prospective "doms" do balk at the idea of having to be scanned by someone else, or having to go through your mentor, most often they are inflexible or not serious enough to understand you needs and your own seriousness.
Some hope they could be the mentor themselves and see a bother on that arrangement, when they feel they are qualified enough to give you what you need  in training, knowledge and emotional needs.

But you have to explain that your mentor is the path you want, as to be able to take it slow and be able to be objective (since it is assumed you are  not intimate with the mentor, but some people would assume the opposite...go figure). The people who don't like it either are not serious enough will give up or not bother, but the ones remaining and willing should have enough understanding and control to work well for you.

You are doing  it in a different way, not in a wrong way. So rest assured, and explain your position to people and you will see if they are threatened or just plain uncomfortable. After all The One, will want to take over from your mentor as soon as you establish your link.
Be safe and have fun.
Best wishes.
Oscar G.