Expert: awhitecloud - 9/5/2007

Question
In just this past week my boyfriend of 9 months with whom I live admitted he would like to try out a D/s relationship. Given my personality and things we have tested in the bedroom, I know this could work however...
I'm not sure how to get started. Everything I read says that we need to just talk out the rules and whatnot but he has a definent nature when he wants. What are some good techniques in teaching him that to adapt to this life style there is an amount of respect needed and what are some good punishments to get the ball rolling in the right direction. And one more thing do you have a recommended book he may read on becoming a good sub outside the bedroom?

Answer
I would look for area munches to start attending so that you make friends with like minded people they can help and lead you along the way.

I would keep reading and printing information form the web, get into a few groups where you both can join and learn...talk and keep talking to each other.

As for rules, what things would he like to change?  What thing in yourself would you like to change?  Start there and make your rules, I would not make to many to begin with, you will be come over whelmed and it will not do you any good.  Once you have rules you need to look at how your going to deal with the rules, punishments and such.  He will need to work on making time each day even if it is 5 min to go over the rules and make sure your following them.

I hope this has helped you some and if you wish to ask more questions please do so I will strive my best to answer them for you.

good luck

awhitecloud