Expert: Oscar G. - 6/26/2002

Question
hello i have ben tieing a women up she seems to like it she will go to sleep then i will do it i want to do more i have used didos on her and some times she will ask for me to use one on her i think this is a good sing what else i can i do to please her she also likes force when i take her with force it is all most like it turns her on she will talk about it for days once i draged her to the foot of the bed and did her doigie sttle she told me about it for days help what else can i do to please her with toys do you know of a real good didle and toys to turn her on pete

Answer
Hi Pete:
If she is talking about what you do is good for her, keep doing it. But do you want to add more? ask her what parts excite her the most. If she really likes force, perhaps you could arrange for her 'abduction/kidnapping' in a roleplaying manner where you both play and act out a mutually enjoyable fantasy.
In respect to toys, there are many out there, that canbe bought and used on anyone , some are  sexual toys, others are more of a S&M nature, like paddles and whips. But you do not need to buy anything, since you could  just be creative and use household items to play games. Duct tape, for example, is great for bondage and restraining and gagging (ask her!). Also you own hands can be useful  to pinch tickle  and caress the most sensitive parts or her (it is fun finding out what her sensitive spots are!). Also you can spank her lightly , if you both approve of that.  The best way to know how to please your partner is to ASK HER what she likes and/or  what are her fantasies. Her fantasies hold the key to the stuff and toys you should her for her and what she will turn her on the most.
It is nice to  come across stuff that she enjoys wihtout asking her and playing it by ear, but at some point you will need to ask her. But on the meantime, try your own fantasies on her and do it MILDLY to start, so she can reject or accept the idea. IF the fantasies are too intense they might scare her, so it is always nice to talk  of some things before hand.
I hope  this helps you.
Best wishes,
Oscar G