Expert: Mistress Violette - 9/7/2007

Question
I am new to bdsm but I am very turned on by it. I am with someone that is truly the man I want to be with.  He has so turned me onto this world and i am completly enjoying every minute of it.  He has mentioned collaring....can you give me maybe some more information on this or some sites that gives details on the subject.  Thank you so much for your help

Answer
Hello, CJ,

Welcome to BDSM. I'm glad you found someone someone special to introduce you to it. :)

As with most things in BDSM, there's no one right definition of collaring. To some people it means simply that a dominant has accepted his or her partner's submission. The submissive now belongs to the dominant or "is collared." To others, collaring is a symbol of a deep and committed relationship, much the way a wedding ring is to vanilla people. In this situation the giving of the collar is sometimes accompanied by a formal ritual or ceremony, often with guests in attendance. No matter which context, collaring shows important progress in a relationship. Once a slave or submissive has been collared, he or she is no longer available to other dominants, except with the permission of his or her partner. Whether the dominant has, or interacts with, other submissives is a matter between the members of each partnership.

I'm including a link to a site, DomSubFriends. This particular page has a number of links to good articles about collaring. Some will be especially helpful if you're going to have a ceremony, either public or private. More than that, the site is a great resource in general and a good place to educate yourself about BDSM. I know I'm always happy when a submissive has taken the initiative to learn on his own and I hope your dominant thinks the same when you tell him about this resource.

I hope this information is helpful. If you need any clarifications or discover something else I can help you with, please don't hesitate to ask another question.

Link: http://www.domsubfriends.com/cgi-local/wwwdir/db.cgi?db=res&uid=default&category...

Mistress Violette