Expert: Oscar G. - 6/17/2007

Question
i've recently started to like anal play -- butt plugs, fingers, and my partner's very large and thick penis. i'm actually surprised that it fits and that it doesn't hurt, and that i find the whole thing (really really) pleasurable. as long as it involves lots of good lube (e.g. Silk works great, some Wet! works well and some is too thin, etc.)

my question is: when he comes inside me, the next morning i usually have some moment about an hour or two after i wake up when my body expels his cum, like a wet fart, and once after a really intense session, as diarrhea. and i didn't have a lot of control over expelling. one time i couldn't make it to the bathroom on time .... anyway. i don't know if this is normal, if there is a way to prevent it, or a way to deal with it so i don't have the unpredictability of having to find a bathroom the next morning .... ?

thank you!

Answer
Hi DPW:
It is not uncommon that happens specially with such larger object inserted. After all it stretches out the rectum walls, so proper strength may not be back that soon after  such play. It all has to do with size and intensity of play.
The larger and more intense the play the more "wear and tear" could happen.
The best way to deal with post anal sex is an enema. Or going to the bath and releasing the remaining fluids. The enema is more thorough and leaves you with a more refreshed feeling. And obviously you do not have to worry about  any messy follow ups. Besides the process could be relaxing and enjoyable, depending on the form of application. And there are some people who even have enemas before anal sex.
But the fact is it is better to be a bit proactive after sex and tidy up afterwards, to avoid such incidents.

I hope this tidbit helps you and reassures you.
Be well have fun and be safe.
OG