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MasterExcyte wrote at 2006-06-22 18:10:41
There are Dommes in India, .. other then that you could role play with your gf, one never knows she minght get interested.


Lady J wrote at 2006-08-28 09:31:11
Hi Kris,



To begin with, let me state that I am an Indian domme residing in India. And though I am not looking for a submissive, I would like to state there are people in India within the BDSM community. For reasons that must be obvious to you, we just try and keep it very, very private.



All of us at some point or other went through the realization of submissiveness/dominance in ourselves. The choice was either to accept ourselves as we were created, or deny our sexual preferences as 'deviant' or 'abnormal'. That is a choice you are going to have to make for yourself at one point or another.



If your upbringing is getting in the way of your feelings, or vice versa, then I suggest you consider holding off all BDSM activities for six months and see how you feel about it. Or try a BDSM relationship for 6 months and see whether it is ruining your life. You may then be better prepared to make a decision.   



Hope that helped...  


Pinky Seth wrote at 2008-02-07 07:06:06
Hi Kris ,



I agree with you that India completely lacks the BDSM .I am impressed with the professional services available for doms & subs in west . Please remove any guilty feeling from your mind about your submissive personality and that is the way nature has created you . You are absolutely normal.You may explore collorme to find your right match dom.



Bye


Dan wrote at 2008-10-02 19:57:20
hi Miss J,



I am a sub male now living in india. I was quite active in the lifestylw qhile i was in canada. I wanted to know how one would go about meeting people in this lifestyle.  


Joy Willingly wrote at 2009-04-28 18:58:31
Hi there!



If you are serious about BDSM lifestyle, please feel free to join the Real Indian Kinkstars at http://fetlife.com/groups/1535 .



But if you are just looking for a partner and some instant fun, it is not the place for you.



Be well and play safe.


reyanosh wrote at 2010-01-25 16:29:19
kris,

i have been living the same life as u do and suffering from the same problem but i could not find any solution. I have never experenced real femdom and domination yet it is just in my dream annd fantacy. What i feel is if i could sumit myself to a real mistress for some time it will satisfy my gerat pleasure and i could be able to get out of this abnormal life style.




jerry wrote at 2011-03-23 09:43:48
Kris,



The feeling you have is not unnatural and lacs of males have the same kind of feeling in India even. I can understand your situation and in India there are a few dominas who does real time sessions and keep men as slaves. Also as you are doing MBA you will get oppurtunity to go abroad and there this kind of lifestyle is very very common.



So do not get hurt by yourself in mind as it is quite natural and many men have the same kind of feelings.


Skluki wrote at 2015-04-30 09:54:47
Hi Kris i am also having the same desire as yours and found solution.  If you can send an e-mail me on sklukiseem@gmail.com I can explain you.


Jackie wrote at 2016-08-14 10:13:52
Kris,

I know you posted this a long time ago and I hope that you are now in a different place of self-acceptance. As an experienced therapist and a domme myself in my private life, I feel so strongly about what you have written. I am also from India though I live abroad now. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you ! The anguish you are feeling is real of course but that is not because you are unwell or damaged in anyway. There is nothing to cure except perhaps a lack of love and respect for yourself. Not many people understand D/s relationships, but they are perfectly "normal" as far as human sexuality goes. It's fine if you no longer want to participate, but please be rest assured that you are perfect ! Submission is a very brave way to express your sexuality, not everyone can do it and I value it very deeply in men particularly. It is healing to the world in general when men explore their submissive side. There are various metaphors that can be used - I find great solace in the archetypal idea of the great Goddess, who was once worshipped in every religion on the planet, and especially so in India. This archetype remains in your psyche and just because we live in a misogynistic world now it doesn't mean we still do not have the psychic needs to surrender to divine femininity. You are not flawed, you see something others refuse to look at because of their own woundedness around the feminine. Take care of yourself and honour your needs and desires. Much love to you !  


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