Expert: Master Shadow - 5/16/2007

Question
My boyfriend like me to come up with things for him to do to humiliate me and i am running out of ideas, can you share some with me?

Answer
Well, puppy play comes to mind, including making you eat petfood and drink out of pet dishes without the use of your hands. Stripping you naked in front of His friends, then making you orgasms also humiliation. So is giving you a name that is derogatory.

There is also leading you around in public on a leash, depending on where you live, of coarse. Over the knee spanking is also considered humiliation play by some, especially if done in front of company, as is being forced to kneel in front of Him, and kiss His feet.

Without knowing more about you, and your hard limits, it would be difficult to tailor this answer specifically His and your needs. Being watched while going to the bathroom is also humiliation.

A lot of this depends on you, and your state of mind. If you are really deep into the bdsm relationship, then you are pretty much willing to do most anything your Dominant tells you to do.

Remember, though, that past issues may creep up out of nowhere during some humiliation play, and it is important to have a safe word in case this happens. The same with hard limits. being forced to do something that would hurt you emotionally is not what humiliation is about. It's more about pushing your limits, and making you feel humble and exposed to your Dominant.

Many forget that aftercare is also necessary for this kind of play as well. The object is not to make you feel bad about yourself then leave you there, but to basically tear you down, then rebuild you stronger than before.

There are many bdsm sites online that deal with humiliation play, and what works for you may not necessarily be what works for my sub. Humiliation play requires that the Dominant know something about you, and what makes you tick.

Over the knee spankings and kissing my feet comes natural for my sub, so she probably wouldn't consider it humiliation at all. Check sites like steeldoor.com, irongate.com, castlerealm.com for more information on humiliation play. This way, you can find and tailor the humiliation to suit your Dominants needs. I hope this helps.



                                    SINcerely in leather,
                                    Master Shadow,
                                    The House of Dragon.