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| Subject | Date Asked |
| husband/ wife | 4/9/2012 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for over 10 years. I have been trying to get him in to a Dom/ sub ... A: Greetings s.m. Thank you for writing. It sounds like you've put some time, effort and committment ... | |
| new | 4/1/2012 |
| Q: my name is Jake and i am 18 years old and i have taken an interest in M/s and i am looking for some ... A: Welcome to the world of being and becoming a Master! And you are off to a great start, finding out ... | |
| Being Domed | 3/22/2012 |
| Q: I'm Ame and I have a few questions I would like to ask if that is okay. I'm 20 years old and in a ... A: Congratulations on opening your conversations to such sensitive subjects, I say continue to sort ... | |
| Denial of speech | 3/3/2012 |
| Q: Sir hope you are doing good. Need your advice Sir. i am into online relationship with my Master ... A: Yes, there do come times in a slaves life where the “HEY! What about me!?” voices are loud. ... | |
| being a slave | 2/23/2012 |
| Q: I want to learn how to be a slave for my boyfriend. In the bed room and out of the bed room. please ... A: Greetings Erica, Thank you for writing. You want to learn to be a slave!! How fun! There are many ... | |
| help with my relationship | 11/25/2011 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a Dom. Started out as a Master/slave, and was going quite well. ... A: I am sorry to hear about your loss and congratulate you on your great determination. I’ll answer ... | |
| New Switch (from bottom to top) | 11/20/2011 |
| Q: I am a 24 year old female and I have been involved in the kink scene for about a year, but been ... A: Greetings Artis, Congratulations on your exploring! I’m happy to hear that you are finding more ... | |
| Long Distance DS with a MPD Sub | 11/16/2011 |
| Q: Short Version: I took on a slave long distance after several months of getting to know her and ... A: Greetings X, If this person has a true split personality/psychiatric disorder, then she will need ... | |
| In Need of Advice | 11/9/2011 |
| Q: Sir, I am a submissive. I have been with my dominant for almost a year now. I have never been in a ... A: Greetings Kira, Thank you for writing. I’m hearing a couple of questions here: 1. Is what I am ... | |
| Ultimatum | 11/8/2011 |
| Q: Eight months ago I entered into a M/s relationship with my Master. At our initial meeting, he made ... A: Should you give him an ultimatum or just walk away? I say neither… Ultimatums don’t work… I’d ... | |
| Help with a D/s Story | 10/29/2011 |
| Q: I don't know if you want anything to do with answering a question for a writer or not, but I figured ... A: Greetings Dina, He sees that the sub is damaged and he knows that forging a relationship will take ... | |
| My Girlfriend and her Slave | 10/23/2011 |
| Q: I've been with my girlfriend for a while now, and because we are somewhat a long distant ... A: Greetings Callum. Masters/Mistresses do take on slaves for service other than sexual, yes, it ... | |
| new | 9/17/2011 |
| Q: From a Master's perspective, can you tell me what exactly happens at clubs? Let's say a couple new ... A: As a Master, when I go to a club with My slave, I DO have a particular set of expectations; My slave ... | |
| dom/sub lifestyle with children | 9/9/2011 |
| Q: Ive been struggling with this for sometime. My master and I have been together for quite sometime ... A: Greetings loyal loving one, Congratulations on your journey of service with mothering; each role ... | |
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Sir Jim Bliss
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Expertise
Expertise: Interpersonal communication and relationships; agreement building, conflict resolution, Master/slave theory and practice, Hypnosis, Spiritual living, RBD rough body play; FEAR play and Weapons play. I invite any questions related to: -relationship issues, communication problems, how to make agreements clear, how to explore emotions, spirituality and the lifestyle, any questions about hypnosis, NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP) and "The Ennegram" -Questions related to many forms of play with a variety of 'tools' including but not limited to: Walking Canes, Canes, Floggers, Rough Body Play (RBD), chokes and choke holds, bruising, blunt intruments, etc..
Experience
Seasoned family and couple therapist, hypnotist, and communications trainer. Author of “Getting What You Want: The Art of Living On Purpose” and Co-author of “Success is a State of Mind”. Other published works include: DVD & Workbook: “The Secrets of Instant Rapport-for anybody!”; DVD & CD: “The Compassion Exercise”; & “Presenting to Win”. A lifelong interest in martial arts and weapons including: Shaolin Kung Fu, Hapkido, Tae Kwon Do, Brazilian Ju Jitsu, MMA and most recently Bartitsu (The art of cane fighting). Currently entering year 3 with My slave chela as part of an 11 year journey in the BDSM, Polyamory and Tantra cultures.
Organizations
Windy City MAsT, MAsT of Greater Chicago
Publications
I have written over 100 articles posted on www.trulyhumancoaching.com and click "Free Articles and Resources" link. Also, on my products page you can order your free copy of my 1st book: "Getting What You Want: The Art of Living on Purpose".
Also, visist My website kinky website: www.BDSMCoach.com... for even more resources.
Education/Credentials
Certified Trainer of NeuroLinguistic Programming, MA in Managerial Leadership; BA in Counseling Psychology, Certified Consultant Hypnotist, Certified Professional Co-Active Coach, Certified Systemic Family Therapist.
Past/Present Clients
I work with 20-25 individuals and couples at any given time. I’ve been a successful Personal Relationship Coach for the past 12 years with a focus on helping my clients to get past the social dictates they were taught and to discover their gifts while they create their own rules building a life they love. Most of my work in the kink world has been helping individuals to embrace their preferences and helping couples to build intentional relationships amongst some very tough issues.
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