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| Someone who understands | 8/31/2008 |
Q: ..this is much appreciated!!!!! Background: I am a male master, 55 yrs old The slave I am talking ...
A: Pardon my delay, yet I had to give the matter some thought. Regarding # 1: Perhaps she was not a ...
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| BDSM | 7/7/2008 |
Q: I like to be claimed by men. I am a lesbian but really enjoy the danger of being taken! Where could ...
A: The fact of your gender orientation might either turn off or entice too much certain guys. But the ...
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| grin | 6/12/2008 |
Q: At school, everyone knows me as a sweet, innocent, kind, friendly, fun girl. I'm also a virgin. So ...
A: I am not sure this qualifies as a BDSM type question. And it barely fits within the realms of dating ...
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| How a person become interested in BDSM? | 5/1/2008 |
Q: How a person become interested in BDSM? From Birth? Environment? or Both of them? In my case. I did ...
A: That is a "chicken or the egg" issue, since many people will tell you they had the drive and ...
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| Unruley sub/babygirl | 4/1/2008 |
Q: "This is more like a issue I'm having rather then a question , I'm going to explain as much as i can ...
A: Subs and even other Dominants forget we are all human and we are not perfect. Some Dominants like ...
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| Unruley sub/babygirl | 3/31/2008 |
Q: "This is more like a issue I'm having rather then a question , I'm going to explain as much as i can ...
A: Sir Dean: Your story strikes close to home since I had a situation similar to yours at some point. ...
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| confusion | 3/25/2008 |
Q: I am a 24 year old male from England. I am quite a good looking lad and don't really have any ...
A: Even if you like and fantasize about submission and service to a strong woman, that does not mean ...
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| new to being a slave | 3/18/2008 |
Q: I am new to this, my partner has been in this lifestyle for 11 years and desires to make me the best ...
A: Attitude is everything, but also acting and showing your attitude in the right proper ways. You ...
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| Hola pregunta de marca! | 3/4/2008 |
Q: Hola Oscar G. Espero estes bien, tengo una pregunta y la hago en espaņol por que dice que puedes ...
A: Saludos Carlos: La pregunta deberia ser mas a ella que a mi, ya que la que sabe es ella y yo solo ...
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| virgin Master? | 2/26/2008 |
Q: Is being collared by a virgin is as rare as it feels to U/us? He is 22 and i am 19. When i was ...
A: Virginity is a double edged sword. In one hand is something to be treasured and appreciated by the ...
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| Armbinders/Singlegloves/Monogloves | 2/20/2008 |
Q: I have been searching the web high and low for a place I can purchase an arm binder such as the one ...
A: While I had not seen the site for a while now, I remember Ledermeister as high end high quality ...
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| I want to make my wife my slave | 2/16/2008 |
Q: i Want to have my wife at my feet beging to let her lick my feet. How can i do that
A: As simple as asking her. But then again the dynamics must be established about who is in charge and ...
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| Armbinders/Singlegloves/Monogloves | 2/10/2008 |
Q: I have been searching the web high and low for a place I can purchase an arm binder such as the one ...
A: I have seen several of these on different models and I happen to own one in spandex (very ...
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| online bdsm and christians | 2/5/2008 |
Q: i am a 51 yr ole married female and i have been in online bdsm for past 12 yrs...my hubbie is ...
A: I would be the last person judging you on having fun and exploring new feelings and sensations. If ...
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| spanking | 1/29/2008 |
Q: Que bueno que usted habla espanol que es mi primer lenguage. Recientemente he estado experimentando ...
A: Querida Gabriela: Cada cabeza es un mundo y realmente lo que le gusta a algun dominante maduro, no ...
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| bdsm question | 1/23/2008 |
Q: i was invovled with the lifestyle for some time now i am deeply in love with a vanella woman and i ...
A: I am not sure about the whole story and how it relates to her, another domme and the guardian. But I ...
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| Punishment at a Distance | 12/1/2007 |
Q: Alright... Here's the basic situation. My sub (I would describe her as a Gorean slave) has recently ...
A: Sorry for the delay with the holidays. Humiliation is a very relative thing for each individual. ...
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| Figging | 11/3/2007 |
Q: i am a gay sub my dom wants to try figging he has tried figging with a ginger , but he want to pur ...
A: It is my first rule of play for it to be safe. Some people are hardcore play very hard. But even ...
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| Dating a Sub girl | 10/16/2007 |
Q: I recently met a girl who I like quite a bit and she is a bisexual sub into pain and bondage. I'm ...
A: If you feel you are capable of being on the dominant role without being against your nature, by all ...
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| Where to begin? | 10/1/2007 |
Q: I find myself attracted to the idea of BDSM. I want to be a Dom, but have absolutely no idea where ...
A: The main subdivisions are within the abbreviation "BDSM" itself:Bondage & Discipline (B&D), ...
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| Where to begin? | 9/28/2007 |
Q: I find myself attracted to the idea of BDSM. I want to be a Dom, but have absolutely no idea where ...
A: All valid questions and need to be addressed. The thing is to go by parts and answer a few questions ...
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| master & slaves | 9/1/2007 |
Q: i just found out that my wife is wanting to seperate and is talking very heavly with a master she ...
A: The issue is a bit muddled since i do not have too many details. But from what I gather she has ...
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| bdsm, Dominate to Dominate protocol | 8/27/2007 |
Q: i am a 43 year old, straight, female submissive, fairly new to the lifestyle, still learning i am ...
A: There are no hard and fast rules in how to deal in a circumstance like this. But "common sense" ...
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| submission | 8/25/2007 |
Q: I've been with my husband for ten years. In the last three years I've realized that I have a need to ...
A: Having those more specific details I could say that perhaps a 3rd person could work, specially if ...
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| submission | 8/25/2007 |
Q: I've been with my husband for ten years. In the last three years I've realized that I have a need to ...
A: It is indeed a complex situation. And there are no easy answers. 24/7 is an all-encompassing ...
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| Switch day | 8/23/2007 |
Q: i am and have been in a long distance relationship with a Dom in the UK for the last 3 years. ...
A: To elaborate a bit more on some points: 1.-If you want to make him squirm: Dress him with your ...
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| Switch day | 8/23/2007 |
Q: i am and have been in a long distance relationship with a Dom in the UK for the last 3 years. ...
A: Just of the top of my head. Ideas to play with: -Make him dress up to you liking (not his) while ...
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| single, kinky, and going nuts II | 8/17/2007 |
Q: While there is a fetish community in my area, I am averse to joining. Even if nobody actually has ...
A: Often enough venting out and letting stuff out is the first step in a fresh point of view or a break ...
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| single, kinky, and going nuts | 8/15/2007 |
Q: Maybe this is more of a cry of frustration than a question... I'm a 27 year old girl. I have known ...
A: There is always room for compromise. But takes time and patience to find not what we want but what ...
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| age and D/s | 8/2/2007 |
Q: I am in the first month of a D/s relationship.. I am collared, and we're in love. I gave up most of ...
A: Not all relations have that big of a gap in age. Some have worked and others have not. And other ...
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| a question on protocol | 7/6/2007 |
Q: I have been a Sir for some time now but have never followed many of the formal rules of M/s protocol ...
A: First I must apologize about my delay to contact you, since the holidays got on the crossfire. While ...
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| New to BDSM, but my fiancee is new to sex entirely! | 6/21/2007 |
Q: . I've been interested in BDSM for as long as I can remember and only had one small experience in ...
A: The only way to do it depends on his personality and temperament. If he is intellectual and ...
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| submission | 6/19/2007 |
Q: Do they have actual places you can go to to learn/explore/train/grow in submission? I am new to ...
A: I am aware of the limitation of BDSM workshops and outlets outside larger cities. It is somewhat ...
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| diarrhea after anal play? | 6/17/2007 |
Q: i've recently started to like anal play -- butt plugs, fingers, and my partner's very large and ...
A: It is not uncommon that happens specially with such larger object inserted. After all it stretches ...
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| ageplay | 5/31/2007 |
Q: Im a 20 year old female and after a long seperation from my paartner who is a 24 year old male- we ...
A: It is a complicated mater. But i will give you my own opinion. It all depends on what he needs to do ...
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| D/s Protocol | 5/17/2007 |
Q: I am a 61 y/o collared sub to a Dom 21 years my junior who was a sub for over 20 years. We are not ...
A: The military background is useful and at times flattering to those who have not been in the ...
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| beginning bdsm | 5/10/2007 |
Q: i'm 23 and recently realized that bdsm might be what i'm looking for out of a sexual relationship. ...
A: You are quite perceptive in your questions and i will try to give you the best advice to get you in ...
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| S&M, noise and location. | 5/7/2007 |
Q: I am a novice Domme and I am going to engage in some noisy activity very soon... and I don't have a ...
A: Greetings Ms. Emma: At times we do not have much control of some situations as we would like to ...
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| Complicated BDSM relatiion | 5/4/2007 |
Q: I will bless you and thank you a lot to have your advice So here it is: About Me: I am 25 ...
A: Complex question indeed. My best assessment is not to give her ultimatums and chose a good time to ...
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| BSDM | 4/29/2007 |
Q: I have a husband who I can't satisfy, the more I dominate him the more he wants. He is the dominate ...
A: You need to dig into his mind and see what limits (if any) he has. If you want to please him and ...
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| hot oil or cream | 4/18/2007 |
Q: I've been instructed to purchase or, preferably, make a hot oil or cream that intensifies in heat or ...
A: Usually the best stuff, non chemical would be Capsaicin based creams. Basically stuff with the stuff ...
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| Long Distance | 4/10/2007 |
Q: My girlfriend likes to be dominated and is into pain. I now lie on the other side of the country and ...
A: Well, having dealt with distance at times myself I have found out that chat on line helps a lot, but ...
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| long term bondage | 4/8/2007 |
Q: my wife/mistress and i live the bdsm lifestyle 24/7. my wife/mistress wants to keep me in tight long ...
A: Any tingling sensation or numbness from limbs or extremities after tied and/or immobile for a while, ...
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| Homemade BDSM Gear Project | 4/6/2007 |
Q: I recently read where a guy made a homemade Sybian type vibrating fuck machine out off a 15,000 rpm ...
A: Although I can imagine that there might be some techie type out there who could build their own ...
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| How can a sub train her dom? | 3/23/2007 |
Q: I am a sub in a loving, fulfilling, stable relationship with a dom-at-heart. Even though not all ...
A: The best way to intellectually/mentally make him see your point of view , id that you are pleasing ...
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| What is she up to/how to prepare for it? | 2/28/2007 |
Q: Every Weekend for the past three months (just about), I have been helping my girlfirend with ...
A: I am assuming certain things,such as enjoying bondage as a sub, and you enjoying your situation. My ...
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| need help | 11/30/2006 |
Q: i hope u can help me, could u tell me names of movies which have bdsm,domination theme, prefrebly ...
A: Here are the most notable films in the last 3 decades, some are documentaries. I may have missed a ...
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| question | 11/29/2006 |
Q: my name is Steve. I am a 29 year old submissive male who's into soft bondage only. I am not into ...
A: BDSM is a big umbrella term and realm that cover a lot of stuff. It is nice to know you have defined ...
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| Can one do both? | 11/29/2006 |
Q: Oscar Thank you for taking the time to answer my question. My boyfriend and I have been together a ...
A: I always love experimental couple finding each other through their lovers. Here is your situation: ...
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| duct tape | 11/28/2006 |
Q: i love to use duct tape for bondage, but when i use duct tape to gag, it rips off your hair. how do ...
A: There are couple ways to use tape without rips. One is to wrap the tape over clothing, handkerchief, ...
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| Female Submissive for a BDSM Couple | 9/14/2006 |
Q: I met my master/lover recently. I have never practiced the BDSM lifestyle before and so I have some ...
A: I am so happy you have a loving partner and you want to please him in such ways. There is a lot of ...
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| Technique | 9/14/2006 |
Q: I been looking on the internet alot and see alot of pictures of girls breast with rope around the ...
A: The best rope technique you can use is SHibari, or japanese bondage. They do concentrate a bit on ...
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| sexual issue | 9/3/2006 |
Q: my name is dana.i find out lately sexual needs from my boyfriend that he is crazy about my feet ...
A: At thsi point you need a whole book on the mind, technique and psychology or BDSM. If you search ...
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| need to know | 8/31/2006 |
Q: , pls give me some advic thank youhaloo my name is alma iam a happy girl with my boyfreind and our ...
A: Re Hi ALma: the best way to make feet smell is sneakers, sweat and closed shoes. What to do with ...
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| need to know | 8/30/2006 |
Q: haloo my name is alma iam a happy girl with my boyfreind and our relation is perfect, it just ...
A: Nothing is wrong with these type games as long as you remember pee/urine is ineherently clean and ...
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| advice | 8/30/2006 |
Q: "hi,,i wish you can help me ,, how to make my boyfreind happy or satisfied his desire if he have a ...
A: Make him get you the type of shoes he likes you to wear. That will clue you in the styles he likes ...
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| advice | 8/29/2006 |
Q: its it weird my boyfrind ask me to test my pee and how do deal or do that and he is crazy about my ...
A: Nothing is wrong with these type games (also called golden showers) as long as you remember ...
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| advice | 8/29/2006 |
Q: ,plss i need to knowhi my name is mag iam just a normal girl i think i have an problem or an issue ...
A: Re Hi Mag: As I said before... for feet let him buy you some shoes he likes for you and from ...
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| advice | 8/27/2006 |
Q: , i notes he is not fully satisfied with me on the bed and he always mention and talk about my feet ...
A: Well Mag, you seem to describe your boyfriend having a serious foot fetish. ANd do not worry it is ...
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| being spanked | 7/17/2006 |
Q: I'm a 28 year old male. I have done some spanking play before but nothing that would be called ...
A: It is a very interesting question to rise, but a valid one. But i would say experiment and find ...
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| Re:Spanking | 7/1/2006 |
Q: do you know anything about spanking girls? what are some spanking techniques that work well?
A: Once you have a willing partneryou have to decide what style an form of spanking would be ...
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| Age and slave issues | 6/10/2006 |
Q: Well as an intro, I'm a 20 year old dom, bi male that lives with his best friend and ex-boyfriend. ...
A: I can really relate with what you write. When I started learning BDSM with a girlfriend and my own ...
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| sitting pee | 5/24/2006 |
Q: do you know any way to make a male have to sit to pee. for example harnesses or hoses. do you know ...
A: Took me a while to find them, but look on the web under male Chastity devices and you may find what ...
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| scenerios | 5/23/2006 |
Q: sorry to be blunt about this but i have a BDSM session with my boyfriend on saturday. could u give ...
A: Blunt is Ok. <smile> Feminization can be fun if yo both enjoy it. But newer scenarios depend on more ...
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| BDSM | 5/17/2006 |
Q: Im 18 years old and my bf is 16. Well we love BDSM, we use all sorts of things and are pretty ...
A: The best way to find other BDSM people is the same source that sometimes is used to find BDSM ...
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| master week | 5/3/2006 |
Q: i would love to find out when master's week is?
A: The only Master's week I know is golf related in Augusta GA. BDSM wise I am not informed of any ...
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| questions for a potential master | 2/24/2006 |
Q: I am new to the scene and I dont want to make any hasty choices or jump into something i am not ...
A: I was considering your question, when I realized you have to answer a few questions yourself before ...
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| Long Distance Consideration | 1/24/2006 |
Q: I am under consideration at this time. i like to show my Master my loyalty, my honesty, my heart. It ...
A: If the communication between you and your potential master is good you should find out his desires ...
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| spanking | 11/10/2005 |
Q: I am a 45 yr old female that has always wanted to be put over someones knee and spanked or whipped ...
A: Finding men is easy for women, but then again finding good men is harder. Yet even more so to find ...
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| There's a man i'm interested... | 9/13/2005 |
Q: There's a man i'm interested in. actualy a lot of women are intested in him. But I'm tons cooler ...
A: Well... about dancing around each other it if up to you who will take the first step. About ...
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| leather ball gags | 2/10/2005 |
Q: I have a young lady who is eager to wear a ball gag but women usually have small mouths and most ...
A: Sorry for my delay. Here is a good link you might find useful for all kind of nice gags, some ...
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| chloroform porn | 1/23/2005 |
Q: Oscar, Thanks for your help. It really helped talking to someone who has a kink to assure that ...
A: Sorry for the delay I had to work out of town. Just to be clear. His kink is ok, just his refusal to ...
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| chloroform porn | 1/21/2005 |
Q: ------------------------- Oscar, Thanks for your reply. I did not know he was into BDSM. I am ...
A: Sorry for not being faster onmy follow up, but here I am. You have very valid concerns and good ...
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| chloroform porn | 1/21/2005 |
Q: I accidently discovered a hogtied membership on my boyfriend's computer four months ago. He was ...
A: There are multiple items that have to be questioned independently and from there try tomake sense of ...
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| Spirituality and BDSM | 11/26/2004 |
Q: Hey Oscar, I'm currently writing a short film revolving around spirituality and BDSM, but I want ...
A: I am not too aware about specific sites devoted about the religious aspects of BDSM. But there are ...
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| hypnosis | 9/9/2004 |
Q: With all modesty, I consider myself to be good at oral sex (I've been told that I am by other people ...
A: Here is some info I found that could help you. Some people are uncomfortable performing fellatio ...
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| hypnosis | 9/8/2004 |
Q: Recently I chatted with someone in a chat room, and he said he is into control via hypnosis, and ...
A: TAKE any claims of anyone in a web chat room with a grain of salt <smile>. While it is is possible ...
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| Keeping Girlfriend Safe | 8/25/2004 |
Q: My best friend, who covered my back in a couple of wars overseas already, is the man we have talked ...
A: Not much thought needed here and i happened to be on line to reply faster. My best advice is to ...
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| Keeping Girlfriend Safe | 8/23/2004 |
Q: I am 32 male, with 26 Female. Bother of us are heterosexual. I am 6'3" 225 pounds, she is 5'2" 115 ...
A: Sorry about the delay, but your answer required a bit of thought on my part. It is nice to see a ...
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| slipknots | 8/8/2004 |
Q: what exactly is one how are they tied and are they more difficult to escape from than other knots?
A: Sorry about the delay. Moving a household here... Slip knots are usually referering to knots that ...
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| Beginner... | 7/18/2004 |
Q: I've always been really interested in bondage, but I've never experimented much with it. I told my ...
A: Good for you guys! I love new couples exploring with bondage. ALways romantic and fun. My answer ...
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| therapist ?? | 6/13/2004 |
Q: I am looking for a licensed, professional counselor, therapist, or psychologist that is familar, and ...
A: If you absolutely require to have a face to face counseling I would suggest to join any of the local ...
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| Meeting a partner for BDSM | 9/28/2003 |
Q: and thanks in advance for reading this question! I'm a 17-year-old guy who is a high school ...
A: I apologize before hand for my delay to answer your question. I am twice your age and still your ...
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| bonnadge | 6/29/2002 |
Q: i want to thank you for your help i just want to know when i tie her in silk what should i use to ...
A: I apologize I was delayed on my answer to you. I was getting ready for the holiday weekend and did ...
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| bonadge | 6/26/2002 |
Q: hello i have ben tieing a women up she seems to like it she will go to sleep then i will do it i ...
A: If she is talking about what you do is good for her, keep doing it. But do you want to add more? ask ...
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| how to find in-houseslave girl | 5/5/2002 |
Q: i am looking for an in-house slavegirl, and have tried many sites to locate one, or to put an ad for ...
A: James: Sorry for my delay answering. I have had mixed results with alt.com. That site like man ...
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