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About Oscar G.
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Expertise
From simple curiosity to elaborate scene set up and planning as well as technique, gear, link, advice, opinion, facts and reference among other colleagues. Social, spiritual, romantic and emotional issues related to BDSM Bondage being my focus and specialty, but love the sensual aspects of these arts.

Experience
15 years researching, reading, interacting, dating and playing in the BDSM lifestyle actively as a Dom, used to be sub.
BDSM, Bondage, gags, blindfolds, knots, ropes, restrains and roleplaying

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Assorted loose organizations in Southern CA

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Engineering & Military

Awards and Honors
Military and respect from my peers in the BDSM community

   

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Questions Answered By Expert  Oscar G. 
In Category  BDSM

SubjectDate Asked

Someone who understands8/31/2008
  Q: ..this is much appreciated!!!!! Background: I am a male master, 55 yrs old The slave I am talking ...
  A: Pardon my delay, yet I had to give the matter some thought. Regarding # 1: Perhaps she was not a ...
BDSM7/7/2008
  Q: I like to be claimed by men. I am a lesbian but really enjoy the danger of being taken! Where could ...
  A: The fact of your gender orientation might either turn off or entice too much certain guys. But the ...
grin6/12/2008
  Q: At school, everyone knows me as a sweet, innocent, kind, friendly, fun girl. I'm also a virgin. So ...
  A: I am not sure this qualifies as a BDSM type question. And it barely fits within the realms of dating ...
How a person become interested in BDSM?5/1/2008
  Q: How a person become interested in BDSM? From Birth? Environment? or Both of them? In my case. I did ...
  A: That is a "chicken or the egg" issue, since many people will tell you they had the drive and ...
Unruley sub/babygirl4/1/2008
  Q: "This is more like a issue I'm having rather then a question , I'm going to explain as much as i can ...
  A: Subs and even other Dominants forget we are all human and we are not perfect. Some Dominants like ...
Unruley sub/babygirl3/31/2008
  Q: "This is more like a issue I'm having rather then a question , I'm going to explain as much as i can ...
  A: Sir Dean: Your story strikes close to home since I had a situation similar to yours at some point. ...
confusion3/25/2008
  Q: I am a 24 year old male from England. I am quite a good looking lad and don't really have any ...
  A: Even if you like and fantasize about submission and service to a strong woman, that does not mean ...
new to being a slave3/18/2008
  Q: I am new to this, my partner has been in this lifestyle for 11 years and desires to make me the best ...
  A: Attitude is everything, but also acting and showing your attitude in the right proper ways. You ...
Hola pregunta de marca!3/4/2008
  Q: Hola Oscar G. Espero estes bien, tengo una pregunta y la hago en espaņol por que dice que puedes ...
  A: Saludos Carlos: La pregunta deberia ser mas a ella que a mi, ya que la que sabe es ella y yo solo ...
virgin Master?2/26/2008
  Q: Is being collared by a virgin is as rare as it feels to U/us? He is 22 and i am 19. When i was ...
  A: Virginity is a double edged sword. In one hand is something to be treasured and appreciated by the ...
Armbinders/Singlegloves/Monogloves2/20/2008
  Q: I have been searching the web high and low for a place I can purchase an arm binder such as the one ...
  A: While I had not seen the site for a while now, I remember Ledermeister as high end high quality ...
I want to make my wife my slave2/16/2008
  Q: i Want to have my wife at my feet beging to let her lick my feet. How can i do that
  A: As simple as asking her. But then again the dynamics must be established about who is in charge and ...
Armbinders/Singlegloves/Monogloves2/10/2008
  Q: I have been searching the web high and low for a place I can purchase an arm binder such as the one ...
  A: I have seen several of these on different models and I happen to own one in spandex (very ...
online bdsm and christians2/5/2008
  Q: i am a 51 yr ole married female and i have been in online bdsm for past 12 yrs...my hubbie is ...
  A: I would be the last person judging you on having fun and exploring new feelings and sensations. If ...
spanking1/29/2008
  Q: Que bueno que usted habla espanol que es mi primer lenguage. Recientemente he estado experimentando ...
  A: Querida Gabriela: Cada cabeza es un mundo y realmente lo que le gusta a algun dominante maduro, no ...
bdsm question1/23/2008
  Q: i was invovled with the lifestyle for some time now i am deeply in love with a vanella woman and i ...
  A: I am not sure about the whole story and how it relates to her, another domme and the guardian. But I ...
Punishment at a Distance12/1/2007
  Q: Alright... Here's the basic situation. My sub (I would describe her as a Gorean slave) has recently ...
  A: Sorry for the delay with the holidays. Humiliation is a very relative thing for each individual. ...
Figging11/3/2007
  Q: i am a gay sub my dom wants to try figging he has tried figging with a ginger , but he want to pur ...
  A: It is my first rule of play for it to be safe. Some people are hardcore play very hard. But even ...
Dating a Sub girl10/16/2007
  Q: I recently met a girl who I like quite a bit and she is a bisexual sub into pain and bondage. I'm ...
  A: If you feel you are capable of being on the dominant role without being against your nature, by all ...
Where to begin?10/1/2007
  Q: I find myself attracted to the idea of BDSM. I want to be a Dom, but have absolutely no idea where ...
  A: The main subdivisions are within the abbreviation "BDSM" itself:Bondage & Discipline (B&D), ...
Where to begin?9/28/2007
  Q: I find myself attracted to the idea of BDSM. I want to be a Dom, but have absolutely no idea where ...
  A: All valid questions and need to be addressed. The thing is to go by parts and answer a few questions ...
master & slaves9/1/2007
  Q: i just found out that my wife is wanting to seperate and is talking very heavly with a master she ...
  A: The issue is a bit muddled since i do not have too many details. But from what I gather she has ...
bdsm, Dominate to Dominate protocol8/27/2007
  Q: i am a 43 year old, straight, female submissive, fairly new to the lifestyle, still learning i am ...
  A: There are no hard and fast rules in how to deal in a circumstance like this. But "common sense" ...
submission8/25/2007
  Q: I've been with my husband for ten years. In the last three years I've realized that I have a need to ...
  A: Having those more specific details I could say that perhaps a 3rd person could work, specially if ...
submission8/25/2007
  Q: I've been with my husband for ten years. In the last three years I've realized that I have a need to ...
  A: It is indeed a complex situation. And there are no easy answers. 24/7 is an all-encompassing ...
Switch day8/23/2007
  Q: i am and have been in a long distance relationship with a Dom in the UK for the last 3 years. ...
  A: To elaborate a bit more on some points: 1.-If you want to make him squirm: Dress him with your ...
Switch day8/23/2007
  Q: i am and have been in a long distance relationship with a Dom in the UK for the last 3 years. ...
  A: Just of the top of my head. Ideas to play with: -Make him dress up to you liking (not his) while ...
single, kinky, and going nuts II8/17/2007
  Q: While there is a fetish community in my area, I am averse to joining. Even if nobody actually has ...
  A: Often enough venting out and letting stuff out is the first step in a fresh point of view or a break ...
single, kinky, and going nuts8/15/2007
  Q: Maybe this is more of a cry of frustration than a question... I'm a 27 year old girl. I have known ...
  A: There is always room for compromise. But takes time and patience to find not what we want but what ...
age and D/s8/2/2007
  Q: I am in the first month of a D/s relationship.. I am collared, and we're in love. I gave up most of ...
  A: Not all relations have that big of a gap in age. Some have worked and others have not. And other ...
a question on protocol7/6/2007
  Q: I have been a Sir for some time now but have never followed many of the formal rules of M/s protocol ...
  A: First I must apologize about my delay to contact you, since the holidays got on the crossfire. While ...
New to BDSM, but my fiancee is new to sex entirely!6/21/2007
  Q: . I've been interested in BDSM for as long as I can remember and only had one small experience in ...
  A: The only way to do it depends on his personality and temperament. If he is intellectual and ...
submission6/19/2007
  Q: Do they have actual places you can go to to learn/explore/train/grow in submission? I am new to ...
  A: I am aware of the limitation of BDSM workshops and outlets outside larger cities. It is somewhat ...
diarrhea after anal play?6/17/2007
  Q: i've recently started to like anal play -- butt plugs, fingers, and my partner's very large and ...
  A: It is not uncommon that happens specially with such larger object inserted. After all it stretches ...
ageplay5/31/2007
  Q: Im a 20 year old female and after a long seperation from my paartner who is a 24 year old male- we ...
  A: It is a complicated mater. But i will give you my own opinion. It all depends on what he needs to do ...
D/s Protocol5/17/2007
  Q: I am a 61 y/o collared sub to a Dom 21 years my junior who was a sub for over 20 years. We are not ...
  A: The military background is useful and at times flattering to those who have not been in the ...
beginning bdsm5/10/2007
  Q: i'm 23 and recently realized that bdsm might be what i'm looking for out of a sexual relationship. ...
  A: You are quite perceptive in your questions and i will try to give you the best advice to get you in ...
S&M, noise and location.5/7/2007
  Q: I am a novice Domme and I am going to engage in some noisy activity very soon... and I don't have a ...
  A: Greetings Ms. Emma: At times we do not have much control of some situations as we would like to ...
Complicated BDSM relatiion5/4/2007
  Q: I will bless you and thank you a lot to have your advice So here it is: About Me: I am 25 ...
  A: Complex question indeed. My best assessment is not to give her ultimatums and chose a good time to ...
BSDM4/29/2007
  Q: I have a husband who I can't satisfy, the more I dominate him the more he wants. He is the dominate ...
  A: You need to dig into his mind and see what limits (if any) he has. If you want to please him and ...
hot oil or cream4/18/2007
  Q: I've been instructed to purchase or, preferably, make a hot oil or cream that intensifies in heat or ...
  A: Usually the best stuff, non chemical would be Capsaicin based creams. Basically stuff with the stuff ...
Long Distance4/10/2007
  Q: My girlfriend likes to be dominated and is into pain. I now lie on the other side of the country and ...
  A: Well, having dealt with distance at times myself I have found out that chat on line helps a lot, but ...
long term bondage4/8/2007
  Q: my wife/mistress and i live the bdsm lifestyle 24/7. my wife/mistress wants to keep me in tight long ...
  A: Any tingling sensation or numbness from limbs or extremities after tied and/or immobile for a while, ...
Homemade BDSM Gear Project4/6/2007
  Q: I recently read where a guy made a homemade Sybian type vibrating fuck machine out off a 15,000 rpm ...
  A: Although I can imagine that there might be some techie type out there who could build their own ...
How can a sub train her dom?3/23/2007
  Q: I am a sub in a loving, fulfilling, stable relationship with a dom-at-heart. Even though not all ...
  A: The best way to intellectually/mentally make him see your point of view , id that you are pleasing ...
What is she up to/how to prepare for it?2/28/2007
  Q: Every Weekend for the past three months (just about), I have been helping my girlfirend with ...
  A: I am assuming certain things,such as enjoying bondage as a sub, and you enjoying your situation. My ...
need help11/30/2006
  Q: i hope u can help me, could u tell me names of movies which have bdsm,domination theme, prefrebly ...
  A: Here are the most notable films in the last 3 decades, some are documentaries. I may have missed a ...
question11/29/2006
  Q: my name is Steve. I am a 29 year old submissive male who's into soft bondage only. I am not into ...
  A: BDSM is a big umbrella term and realm that cover a lot of stuff. It is nice to know you have defined ...
Can one do both?11/29/2006
  Q: Oscar Thank you for taking the time to answer my question. My boyfriend and I have been together a ...
  A: I always love experimental couple finding each other through their lovers. Here is your situation: ...
duct tape11/28/2006
  Q: i love to use duct tape for bondage, but when i use duct tape to gag, it rips off your hair. how do ...
  A: There are couple ways to use tape without rips. One is to wrap the tape over clothing, handkerchief, ...
Female Submissive for a BDSM Couple9/14/2006
  Q: I met my master/lover recently. I have never practiced the BDSM lifestyle before and so I have some ...
  A: I am so happy you have a loving partner and you want to please him in such ways. There is a lot of ...
Technique9/14/2006
  Q: I been looking on the internet alot and see alot of pictures of girls breast with rope around the ...
  A: The best rope technique you can use is SHibari, or japanese bondage. They do concentrate a bit on ...
sexual issue9/3/2006
  Q: my name is dana.i find out lately sexual needs from my boyfriend that he is crazy about my feet ...
  A: At thsi point you need a whole book on the mind, technique and psychology or BDSM. If you search ...
need to know8/31/2006
  Q: , pls give me some advic thank youhaloo my name is alma iam a happy girl with my boyfreind and our ...
  A: Re Hi ALma: the best way to make feet smell is sneakers, sweat and closed shoes. What to do with ...
need to know8/30/2006
  Q: haloo my name is alma iam a happy girl with my boyfreind and our relation is perfect, it just ...
  A: Nothing is wrong with these type games as long as you remember pee/urine is ineherently clean and ...
advice8/30/2006
  Q: "hi,,i wish you can help me ,, how to make my boyfreind happy or satisfied his desire if he have a ...
  A: Make him get you the type of shoes he likes you to wear. That will clue you in the styles he likes ...
advice8/29/2006
  Q: its it weird my boyfrind ask me to test my pee and how do deal or do that and he is crazy about my ...
  A: Nothing is wrong with these type games (also called golden showers) as long as you remember ...
advice8/29/2006
  Q: ,plss i need to knowhi my name is mag iam just a normal girl i think i have an problem or an issue ...
  A: Re Hi Mag: As I said before... for feet let him buy you some shoes he likes for you and from ...
advice8/27/2006
  Q: , i notes he is not fully satisfied with me on the bed and he always mention and talk about my feet ...
  A: Well Mag, you seem to describe your boyfriend having a serious foot fetish. ANd do not worry it is ...
being spanked7/17/2006
  Q: I'm a 28 year old male. I have done some spanking play before but nothing that would be called ...
  A: It is a very interesting question to rise, but a valid one. But i would say experiment and find ...
Re:Spanking7/1/2006
  Q: do you know anything about spanking girls? what are some spanking techniques that work well?
  A: Once you have a willing partneryou have to decide what style an form of spanking would be ...
Age and slave issues6/10/2006
  Q: Well as an intro, I'm a 20 year old dom, bi male that lives with his best friend and ex-boyfriend. ...
  A: I can really relate with what you write. When I started learning BDSM with a girlfriend and my own ...
sitting pee5/24/2006
  Q: do you know any way to make a male have to sit to pee. for example harnesses or hoses. do you know ...
  A: Took me a while to find them, but look on the web under male Chastity devices and you may find what ...
scenerios5/23/2006
  Q: sorry to be blunt about this but i have a BDSM session with my boyfriend on saturday. could u give ...
  A: Blunt is Ok. <smile> Feminization can be fun if yo both enjoy it. But newer scenarios depend on more ...
BDSM5/17/2006
  Q: Im 18 years old and my bf is 16. Well we love BDSM, we use all sorts of things and are pretty ...
  A: The best way to find other BDSM people is the same source that sometimes is used to find BDSM ...
master week5/3/2006
  Q: i would love to find out when master's week is?
  A: The only Master's week I know is golf related in Augusta GA. BDSM wise I am not informed of any ...
questions for a potential master2/24/2006
  Q: I am new to the scene and I dont want to make any hasty choices or jump into something i am not ...
  A: I was considering your question, when I realized you have to answer a few questions yourself before ...
Long Distance Consideration1/24/2006
  Q: I am under consideration at this time. i like to show my Master my loyalty, my honesty, my heart. It ...
  A: If the communication between you and your potential master is good you should find out his desires ...
spanking11/10/2005
  Q: I am a 45 yr old female that has always wanted to be put over someones knee and spanked or whipped ...
  A: Finding men is easy for women, but then again finding good men is harder. Yet even more so to find ...
There's a man i'm interested...9/13/2005
  Q: There's a man i'm interested in. actualy a lot of women are intested in him. But I'm tons cooler ...
  A: Well... about dancing around each other it if up to you who will take the first step. About ...
leather ball gags2/10/2005
  Q: I have a young lady who is eager to wear a ball gag but women usually have small mouths and most ...
  A: Sorry for my delay. Here is a good link you might find useful for all kind of nice gags, some ...
chloroform porn1/23/2005
  Q: Oscar, Thanks for your help. It really helped talking to someone who has a kink to assure that ...
  A: Sorry for the delay I had to work out of town. Just to be clear. His kink is ok, just his refusal to ...
chloroform porn1/21/2005
  Q: ------------------------- Oscar, Thanks for your reply. I did not know he was into BDSM. I am ...
  A: Sorry for not being faster onmy follow up, but here I am. You have very valid concerns and good ...
chloroform porn1/21/2005
  Q: I accidently discovered a hogtied membership on my boyfriend's computer four months ago. He was ...
  A: There are multiple items that have to be questioned independently and from there try tomake sense of ...
Spirituality and BDSM11/26/2004
  Q: Hey Oscar, I'm currently writing a short film revolving around spirituality and BDSM, but I want ...
  A: I am not too aware about specific sites devoted about the religious aspects of BDSM. But there are ...
hypnosis9/9/2004
  Q: With all modesty, I consider myself to be good at oral sex (I've been told that I am by other people ...
  A: Here is some info I found that could help you. Some people are uncomfortable performing fellatio ...
hypnosis9/8/2004
  Q: Recently I chatted with someone in a chat room, and he said he is into control via hypnosis, and ...
  A: TAKE any claims of anyone in a web chat room with a grain of salt <smile>. While it is is possible ...
Keeping Girlfriend Safe8/25/2004
  Q: My best friend, who covered my back in a couple of wars overseas already, is the man we have talked ...
  A: Not much thought needed here and i happened to be on line to reply faster. My best advice is to ...
Keeping Girlfriend Safe8/23/2004
  Q: I am 32 male, with 26 Female. Bother of us are heterosexual. I am 6'3" 225 pounds, she is 5'2" 115 ...
  A: Sorry about the delay, but your answer required a bit of thought on my part. It is nice to see a ...
slipknots8/8/2004
  Q: what exactly is one how are they tied and are they more difficult to escape from than other knots?
  A: Sorry about the delay. Moving a household here... Slip knots are usually referering to knots that ...
Beginner...7/18/2004
  Q: I've always been really interested in bondage, but I've never experimented much with it. I told my ...
  A: Good for you guys! I love new couples exploring with bondage. ALways romantic and fun. My answer ...
therapist ??6/13/2004
  Q: I am looking for a licensed, professional counselor, therapist, or psychologist that is familar, and ...
  A: If you absolutely require to have a face to face counseling I would suggest to join any of the local ...
Meeting a partner for BDSM9/28/2003
  Q: and thanks in advance for reading this question! I'm a 17-year-old guy who is a high school ...
  A: I apologize before hand for my delay to answer your question. I am twice your age and still your ...
bonnadge6/29/2002
  Q: i want to thank you for your help i just want to know when i tie her in silk what should i use to ...
  A: I apologize I was delayed on my answer to you. I was getting ready for the holiday weekend and did ...
bonadge6/26/2002
  Q: hello i have ben tieing a women up she seems to like it she will go to sleep then i will do it i ...
  A: If she is talking about what you do is good for her, keep doing it. But do you want to add more? ask ...
how to find in-houseslave girl5/5/2002
  Q: i am looking for an in-house slavegirl, and have tried many sites to locate one, or to put an ad for ...
  A: James: Sorry for my delay answering. I have had mixed results with alt.com. That site like man ...

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