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| Subject | Date Asked |
| I Want My Husband To Piss On Me | 12/15/2011 |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for quite a while now and we have a very healthy sex life. ... A: You're going to be married to him for a long time presumably. Don't tell me what you want. Tell him ... | |
| wire hangers | 12/2/2011 |
| Q: I think this counts as a "gear" issue. My husband and I have been slowly entering the world of BDSM ... A: You're basically treating bruising and lacerations here, and you shouldn't treat them any ... | |
| Fucking Machine | 10/9/2011 |
| Q: My Master and I have a question for you today. We are a tight budget family and have been trying to ... A: I'd highly recommend a reciprocating saw based fucking machine. You can get a very cheap ... | |
| D/s online relationsip | 7/28/2011 |
| Q: I wonder if anyone can help me please. I have been in an online D/s relationship with my married ... A: There isn't one set of established rules for kinky relationships. Different people have different ... | |
| Beginners Toolkit | 7/4/2011 |
| Q: So I've been interested in the BDSM lifestyle for a long time, but am just starting with my ... A: Hey Chuck, I'd be glad to help you out and shamelessly plug some Extreme Restraints products. If ... | |
| 17 and submissive | 6/10/2011 |
| Q: I am 17 and I know I am Submissive but I also know no one wants a 17 year old because of the laws. ... A: There are relationships with those your own age. Surely you can get through a year before looking ... | |
| puppy/dog tails | 5/23/2011 |
| Q: im fairly new to the life and was looking for tails to complete and make my master happy prefer no ... A: I'm going to suggest a fox tail plug like this one: ... | |
| My Masters gone soft. | 5/21/2011 |
| Q: My master used to be very strict and had a temper. but for the past couple months he's been very ... A: The obvious answer is communication. Why can't you tell him what you just told me? You and your ... | |
| Looking for a type of prop | 4/2/2011 |
| Q: I'm fairly new to BDSM, and so far my partner and I have been moving pretty slowly, which is good, ... A: Pretty much the prevailing rule here is light and thin tipped for the maximum stinginess. You might ... | |
| HUMBLER | 3/26/2011 |
| Q: Where can I find plans for The Humbler in english? I really want to suprise Mistress with one of ... A: Building a humbler isn't really a technical challenge. When you buy a good humbler retail, you're ... | |
| Tails | 3/11/2011 |
| Q: I am a Master who is currently training a puppy boy! He also happens to be my boyfriend. As a doggy ... A: Honestly, no, the best I can find are fox tails like this one: ... | |
| breast bondage | 2/15/2011 |
| Q: i'm known as distance and have recently begun to explore into breast bondage. i was hoping you would ... A: There's not much to say on breast bondage. We carry a few breast bondage pieces like this breast ... | |
| Living the lifestyle | 1/1/2011 |
| Q: I am wanting to live the life of a slave and master relationship. We have been married for 16 years ... A: You really need to talk to her about this and read a lot of books together. You need to negotiate, ... | |
| Ball stretchers | 12/20/2010 |
| Q: i was @ a sex toy shop 2 weeks back and bought a 1.5" ball stretcher, im am really enjoying the ... A: I'm guessing that you're talking about this kind of ball stretcher: ... | |
| Being a submissive? | 10/3/2010 |
| Q: I am seeing a professional Mistress who I went to see originally with a very naive view of what I ... A: Hey John, I can't tell you what your Mistress does or doesn't see in your eyes, but I can tell you ... | |
| getting into BDSM. | 8/21/2010 |
| Q: Where do I and my wife find a starting place, to get into BDSM.I am the more sexual one in the ... A: You really need to talk, a lot. You need to discuss what turns you both on, and what you might enjoy ... | |
| Vacuum cleaner question | 7/15/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend enjoys being tied up and having me use a vacuum cleaner on her genitals. We want to ... A: At eXtremeRestraints.com we sell a lot of pumping gear. Generally the idea is that pumping erogenous ... | |
| curious for broadening my knowledge about various BDSM toys | 6/25/2010 |
| Q: I'm a submissive/masochistic male, still single and recently been introduced to the world of BDSM ... A: This just might possibly be the broadest question ever. Fully answering it would involve writing a ... | |
| can u help? | 6/24/2010 |
| Q: my wife is interested in performing some femdom acts. we need a free pdf book where we can find over ... A: When it comes to exploring femdom ideas, Google is you friend. You need to discuss with your wife ... | |
| chastity. | 1/1/2009 |
| Q: i've been interested in chastity for quite a while now (both self chasting and with a partner) and ... A: There's a reason that commercial chastity devices like the CB6000 are as pricey as they are. There ... | |
| castration | 12/25/2008 |
| Q: I am 45 year old man that is slave to my wife. I am wearing chastity devices all the time and never ... A: Here's my problem with you getting castrated... That's going to mess up your hormonal balance in a ... | |
| collar | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: i am looking for a collar/necklace to be worn in public that to the untrained eye would be ... A: This is purely an aesthetic question, so my opinion is no better than any others and it depends on ... | |
| Strap That Ejaculates | 11/29/2008 |
| Q: I Seen That You Answered A Female Question About Straps That Ejaculate But They Are All White The ... A: Alright, so you're looking for a black ejaculating cock. I'd like to say that I have exactly what ... | |
| dildos, electro and HIV risk | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: Recently I saw a dominatrix who I had seen before. I have read some things about dildos and HIV ... A: Unfortunately, electrosex and safe sex don't go hand in hand. You can't put a condom over an ... | |
| chastity belts- maintanance | 11/14/2008 |
| Q: ok, i'v been searching online for days trying to find an answer weather its possible to go to the ... A: Sorry for the late response. In short, no, female chastity belts aren't a good choice for long ... | |
| Leather and Latex Care | 9/15/2008 |
| Q: I have a couple of new leather and latex/rubber toys. The leather ones are fist mits and a muzzle ... A: I hate to say it that leather and latex aren't known for ease of cleaning. There are half a ... | |
| c/b devise question | 9/15/2008 |
| Q: XR hello: Are you familiar with an item by Bareback Underwear known as the Meat Packer? I ask as I ... A: You are so freakin' lucky. I checked all the usual kinky suspects for the meat packer, and they all ... | |
| When Master wants me to switch and Domme Him... | 9/12/2008 |
| Q: i am currently a sub in training to my Dom who is a bi/switch. For His pleasure, He wants me to ... A: This is a tough question. You can't perhaps check his browser history to see what he might be into, ... | |
| Fucking machine for my life partner | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: I am a 24 yearold man who wishes to please my boyfriend. He likes it when I hook up 9volt batteeries ... A: I'd go toy shopping, and try to find some new and interesting things to do together. New is always ... | |
| Buying sex toys in India | 7/15/2008 |
| Q: How do you manage to supply toys to India? what if I order online and the toys are confiscated by ... A: Unfortunately, eXtremeRestraints.com doesn't have the leverage to instill a reasonable attitude in ... | |
| focusing | 5/26/2008 |
| Q: How or where does one go to learn to focus? Master said that i need to learn to focus soley on him,i ... A: Yeah, you could go look this up on your own, but perhaps your master needs to give less vague ... | |
| How a person become interested in BDSM? | 5/4/2008 |
| Q: How a person become interested in BDSM? From Birth? Environment? or Both of them? In my case. I did ... A: I'm fairly certain that you can't change a person's sexuality. You can draw out what's already there ... | |
| How a person become interested in BDSM? | 5/1/2008 |
| Q: How a person become interested in BDSM? From Birth? Environment? or Both of them? In my case. I did ... A: Simple, you just have to be bit by someone who's already into BDSM, and like it. Seriously ... | |
| ball gag | 3/25/2008 |
| Q: My Dom and I bought a ball gag, which I am VERY excited to try out when I see him next (we do the ... A: My first thought on the proper wear of ball gags is that the strap is going to migrate to the ... | |
| 3D poser art bdsm frame | 3/22/2008 |
| Q: i saw a cool x shaped bdsm frame design in a computer generated 3d poser art picture, it was like a ... A: The truth about the fetish equipment industry is that much of it is made by craftsmen. The materials ... | |
| Strap-on dildo's | 3/16/2008 |
| Q: i have a question, my girlfriend and I have been trying ou different attachmentd for her strap-on, ... A: Actually, at our store we sell several ejaculating dildos. As they have balls they should be harness ... | |
| Armbinders/Singlegloves/Monogloves | 2/10/2008 |
| Q: I have been searching the web high and low for a place I can purchase an arm binder such as the one ... A: Honestly, I was stumped. Then I switched around my search terms and found the people I believe to be ... | |
| injections | 1/26/2008 |
| Q: is it safe to inject water into my penis A: I am not a doctor. I'm going to discourage this. I could be wrong, but I see some issues. There's ... | |
| penis bondage | 1/25/2008 |
| Q: i bind my penis with elastic hair bands.how long should i leave my penis bound up A: Have you ever heard the story about how some kids put a rubber band around a cat's tail and a week ... | |
| butt plug | 1/13/2008 |
| Q: I recently started dating someone. Last night he told me it was time for me to experience what turns ... A: I don't know the exact plug you were using and how it's shaped which can have a lot to do with how ... | |
| Switches and the sharing of toys | 1/10/2008 |
| Q: I realize I have left this rather late but I was hoping I could get your input on something. My ... A: This is a little late. Sorry, I've been away from the computer for a while. I can't give you a ... | |
| Knife play | 1/4/2008 |
| Q: I had this girlfriend for 6 weeks, and we were pretty good friends before we entered into a sexual ... A: The S&M community people that I know would have a fit if they heard about the behavior of your ... | |
| nipple clamps | 12/3/2007 |
| Q: My husband is my submissive and I love to use nipple clamps as punishment. I use devices like Binder ... A: Being that this is your husband's nipples in question, a bit more recklessness might be permissible, ... | |
| anal penetration | 11/2/2007 |
| Q: Recently my partner has been using dildo's or dong's on me it seems that the larger as in thicker ... A: I was really glad to get your question. Since eXtremeRestraints.com sells a lot of huge dildos, and ... | |
| homemade male chasitity | 10/30/2007 |
| Q: I always wanted a chastity devise for myself but never wanted to spend the money for one. I was ... A: I'm gonna say no. You can look at some designs in our store at eXtremeRestraints.com, and then try ... | |
| locking ankle braclet | 10/2/2007 |
| Q: i want a ankle braclet for my husband that locks with a small lock. I also want a custome engraving ... A: Over at eXtreme Restraints, we sell locking cuffs and collars, but not locking bracelets. This is ... | |
| chastity belts | 9/13/2007 |
| Q: Is there a store i can go into to buy a chastity belt? I really don't like buying over the internet. ... A: I don't really know. Something so specialized is hard to sell in a particular geographic location. ... | |
| Online?!! | 9/9/2007 |
| Q: I have constraints which do not allow me to have an rl BDSM life. The best I can think of is an ... A: Sorry for taking so long to answer your question. I'm going to refer you to collarme.com. It's free ... | |
| Butt plugs | 8/31/2007 |
| Q: I take a antidepresant called CELEXA - unfortunately, one of the main side effects is that it ... A: Alright, I'm an employee of www.eXtremeRestraints.com. We carry a number of products intended for ... | |
| Collar Necklaces | 8/10/2007 |
| Q: My master wants to collar me & has asked that I look for a necklace online for which we will ... A: This is a crazy hard question. There are a million different vanilla jewelry sites selling necklaces ... | |
| traveling with a collar | 7/27/2007 |
| Q: This will be my first time to travel wearing a collar, apart from my SIR. It's a metal collar. I ... A: I don't know the particulars of your travel plan, and I'd say that you should treat it as a fashion ... | |
| Cupping | 7/23/2007 |
| Q: I received a cupping set as a gift, and I would like to know where I can get info on its use in BDSM ... A: I'd check here first: http://www.extremerestraints.com/cupping-set_72.html. Check the product ... | |
| butt plugs,dildos and other toys | 6/29/2007 |
| Q: so can u suggest any alternative household thing that can be used as a butt plug and also suggest ... A: First, off. We ship sex toys to India. I'm with www.eXtremeRestraints.com, and it looks like we've ... | |
| Advice! | 6/3/2007 |
| Q: I want something to play with! My boyfriend isn't very interested in sex - I assume we've just been ... A: So he's 25 or older, you're 18, and you've been together so long that it's possible he might be ... | |
| Welting | 5/5/2007 |
| Q: after some scene play last night with my Master I have been left with some very prominent welts and ... A: I ran this question past a switch who has a lot of experience on both sides of the spanking bench... ... | |
| Dominant to a "pay pig"? | 4/24/2007 |
| Q: . My new man has admitted he would like me to take on a dominant bossy role, and use him as my pay ... A: Did he say "pay pig" or "pain pig" there is a huge difference. A pay pig is someone who buys things ... | |
| sitting pee | 5/24/2006 |
| Q: do you know any way to make a male have to sit to pee. for example harnesses or hoses. do you know ... A: francine, I first want to assure you it is entirely possible for a male to sit to pee. Second, I ... | |
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If it involves gear I can answer it. Whether you're talking basic sex toys, restraints(leather, steel, etc....), electrosex, fucking machines, butt plugs, or any other kinky practice that involves gear. I can answer it.
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I'm here representing www.eXtremeRestraints.com, we're one of the biggest bondage gear and fetish supply retailers on the internet. We spend a lot of effort looking for the right products to carry in our store, so we should be able to answer any questions. In short, we have a big warehouse full of just about any equipment you might want to ask about.
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