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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Confused | 1/7/2012 |
| Q: Omg, I gave u the wrong email the first time so someone out in this world is going to get a a ... A: Okay your English is just fine....And secondly I am not a Sir I am a female sub, but it is okay I am ... | |
| sub searching for answers | 12/28/2011 |
| Q: I'm not real sure were to start except by saying all my life I knew I was missing something that I ... A: yes learning about yourself can be a long journey, but one that will allow you to grow and to learn ... | |
| sub searching for answers | 12/16/2011 |
| Q: I'm not real sure were to start except by saying all my life I knew I was missing something that I ... A: Please forgive me for the delay, as I was out of town. You sometimes are scared of what deep inside ... | |
| I Want My Husband To Piss On Me | 12/15/2011 |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for quite a while now and we have a very healthy sex life. ... A: Julie, Okay from a sub's standpoint I do not think this is strange at all I find it exciting. That ... | |
| BDSM and Pregnancy | 12/7/2011 |
| Q: I'm a very sexually energetic person. I want sex all the time. I think about it constantly. And even ... A: that can be hard work on both sides. I would tell you to join www.fetlife.com where you can join ... | |
| How should I tell my vanilla fiance I want to do BDSM with him? | 12/4/2011 |
| Q: I'm going to go ahead and apologize for such a long story, it's crucial for myI've been in a ... A: Okay it might help to find him some like minded others, and attend munches and such where he can see ... | |
| Help please | 12/2/2011 |
| Q: I Have been married now for 21 years to a man I truly love, we have just gotten into the swingers ... A: Victoria, I do not know how to get him interested, but it might help to find others in your area ... | |
| M/s relationship and collaring | 11/15/2011 |
| Q: my name is Morgan and I recently entered a Master/slave relationship with my boyfriend. We have been ... A: Sorry for my delay. i went looking for things before i answered this question. I found at Macy's ... | |
| new Domme | 11/10/2011 |
| Q: I'm sort of new to all this. My husband, we have been together 3 years, introduced me to D/s. My ... A: Angel, It sounds a lot like topping from the bottom. It is not about his wants, it is about his ... | |
| Age Gap | 11/2/2011 |
| Q: i have found a master that is teaching me slowly about the bdsm world, my mentor had told me i would ... A: I would ask him why it would be okay to like him but not to fall in love or even to be in love with ... | |
| Confused | 11/1/2011 |
| Q: I am a new Dom trying to establish a relationship with an experienced sub. I should mention that we ... A: If he is your sub should he not be trying hard to meet your expectations? To make and keep you ... | |
| period | 10/30/2011 |
| Q: . and how to know what type of slave i am..( pleasure, pain..etc.) I do like some pain but not a ... A: Vanessa, First off you need to try things out and see if you like pain or if just pleasing your Dom ... | |
| New to this | 8/29/2011 |
| Q: I'm new to the whole BDSM scene and I happen to be a female Dom. My thing is this: my male sub (my ... A: "The Loving Dominate" is a great book as well " s and M 101" you can get them both of amazon. That ... | |
| Sub-space | 8/24/2011 |
| Q: I am a switch women, but mostly enjoy submission. I enjoy pain and have been striving to enter "sub ... A: well for one you need to relax and just allow it to happen, it does not always happen for everyone. ... | |
| lovin a vanilla man | 8/18/2011 |
| Q: So my husband and i have been together for almost six years, married for one of those years. He ... A: maybe you need to join www.fetlife.com and sit with him and read some of the groups, and allow him ... | |
| new here | 8/7/2011 |
| Q: i am completely new on this scene and really i feel like a dear in headlights so to speak. my ... A: for some people it helps to write it allows you a different avenue for communication. Not in any ... | |
| new here | 7/30/2011 |
| Q: i am completely new on this scene and really i feel like a dear in headlights so to speak. my ... A: okay lets give this a try. Maybe write each other little notes about different things that are your ... | |
| Is this just me? | 6/24/2011 |
| Q: If I end up asking 15 different questions or refraise one questions 15 different ways, I'm sorry. I ... A: Sorry for my delay but my daughter just had a baby so I was there helping out. I do not think you ... | |
| BDSM relationships | 6/21/2011 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and I'm very interested in BDSM. I've been interested since I was about 15 and ... A: I could not agree with your feelings more on building the relationship and then adding sex to it. I ... | |
| subspace | 6/12/2011 |
| Q: have felt for a few months now that my MASTER has been upset with me but didn't know why till today. ... A: I do not know much of a way that a sub can control this at all. I know of others that have had the ... | |
| a slave with no dom? | 5/21/2011 |
| Q: So me and my husband for 5 years have gotten into bdsm. And it was going great for about two years. ... A: I can understand both your sides in this. maybe you need to join fetlife.com if you are not there ... | |
| Giving my Dom a gift | 5/12/2011 |
| Q: just looking for some ideas or maybe some sites that may have some gift ideas. i have been serving ... A: here are a fee places I know of. Have you thought of getting a D/s gift and well then maybe it give ... | |
| Master and Mistress | 5/5/2011 |
| Q: Greetings, Thankyou for reading first off. I have been with my master for almost 9 months in a ... A: well have you talked to him about this? You need to be open to him and let him know how you feel. ... | |
| Serving and surprises | 4/30/2011 |
| Q: Hey there dear i am a female slave who is recently 18 but i have 4 years of experience in BDSM but ... A: touty, Okay why not try to ask for some play time with him? Bring some feathers and different ... | |
| Punishment Games | 4/30/2011 |
| Q: I am looking for ideas on punishment games to play with my female submissive.Over the years we have ... A: Jake, Bring some feathers and different things and put them in a large bag, have her be blind ... | |
| Serving and surprises | 4/24/2011 |
| Q: Hey there dear i am a female slave who is recently 18 but i have 4 years of experience in BDSM but ... A: okay I am not sure if your R/time or how much time you spend together. But make sure his drink is ... | |
| Want our D/s relationship back | 4/19/2011 |
| Q: I'm happily married in a relationship that started with D/s, but family, stress, and ... A: I would say it is something you need to talk with him about. Also maybe for you it might help to ... | |
| contract signed | 4/13/2011 |
| Q: my wife has signed a very lengthy D/s contract. She cannot complete tasks I set for her. says she is ... A: Dutch, Hello once again. I have two questions after reading this over and over again. 1. Why is ... | |
| contract signed | 4/13/2011 |
| Q: my wife has signed a very lengthy D/s contract. She cannot complete tasks I set for her. says she is ... A: As for the task....you give them to her and when they are to be finished by, it is her job then to ... | |
| Loss of Master | 4/3/2011 |
| Q: I'm very new to the lifestyle. For 6 months I had an online master in a virtual world, it was my ... A: Sometimes you make mistakes that you can not go back and correct. that is what makes them the steps ... | |
| wife wants master outside of marriage | 3/15/2011 |
| Q: my wife and I have been together for 18 years. Within the last year she has been playing an online ... A: I feel for you as I am finding a lot of people that play Second Life that are taken with the BDSM ... | |
| dom name | 3/12/2011 |
| Q: my dom has only just named and collared me he has ask me to pick a name to call him by but i dont ... A: The only other thing I can think of would be Sir. I do not know if he allows pet names or some ... | |
| greeting | 3/11/2011 |
| Q: I am new to this lifestyle and my new owner is also. We are both lesbians and she currently is ... A: if your Dominant is loaning you out to another then you would address them the same way you would ... | |
| marking | 3/10/2011 |
| Q: I have been in some scenes of late and well i can get a real nice red bottom and nice marks from ... A: well maybe your body has grown a custom to that since of play and you need to step it up and well ... | |
| wife wants master outside of marriage | 3/7/2011 |
| Q: my wife and I have been together for 18 years. Within the last year she has been playing an online ... A: Griffin, First and foremost I do not feel that someone should demand that much of her, if he really ... | |
| Begining a D/s relationship | 3/3/2011 |
| Q: I've been interested in D/z relationships for a while now and the more I look into it the more I ... A: well maybe attending some munches in your area or getting him to talk with others would help him see ... | |
| names. | 2/25/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are interested in the M/s lifestyle and have been for awhile. Its been 2 years ... A: Many people have trouble with the word Master as they find it awkward for one reason or another. ... | |
| protocal | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: i have been in a D/s relationship for over a year now. HE expressed to me today that i need to ... A: I would ask for permission to speak freely. Before that I would do some work I would write out what ... | |
| Dom/sub relationship conflict | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: We have been together less than 4 months. We live in different states; however we see each other two ... A: Okay you need to talk with him. He is the only one that can tell you if you did something wrong. I ... | |
| BDSM/Virgin | 2/18/2011 |
| Q: I have always been into the BDSM lifestyle. I was the 'weird' kid who enjoyed being tied up, touched ... A: I tried to answer this question this last week but got an error message. So I am trying to do this ... | |
| Confused | 2/14/2011 |
| Q: I've demonstrated interest in the bondage aspect of BDSM for 2 years now. But for the last week or ... A: You might be a switch, and that is not a bad thing. Maaybe give it a try and see what happens, ... | |
| am i a sub? | 2/11/2011 |
| Q: i have no experience in this lifestyle since where i am from the society don't take it lightly about ... A: I Do not think you are a coward, but more about finding yourself. Maybe you need to jsut give it a ... | |
| A question about being a sub. | 2/9/2011 |
| Q: This is probably too long to print but if you could read this and maybe answer this question I have ... A: Okay sorry for the delay I had to read this and think about it. I can not tell you if just wanting ... | |
| Am I wrong? | 1/28/2011 |
| Q: well me and my bf/dom met april2009. we met up actually met met july 2009. we of course ... A: okay you took the first step, you wrote for help. it is ah rd to sometimes leave and move on from ... | |
| Lost | 1/28/2011 |
| Q: I am college student who needs so help, I apologize in advance for the length. My current girlfriend ... A: well then maybe just sit her down and make some rules and tell her how you wish her to behave and ... | |
| getting into local scene | 12/12/2010 |
| Q: I have been interested and have learnt more and more about bdsm since 12 (i know... blame the ... A: oh no we have a lot of younger people in our local group I know that. Please do not let age be a ... | |
| Can BDSM boyfriend still fall in love with me? | 12/8/2010 |
| Q: I met my current boyfriend on a popular dating website, completely outside the BDSM scene. While I ... A: okay I am lost I have not been in a D/s relationship that is not about love and romance. I do not ... | |
| losing my little | 12/8/2010 |
| Q: I am in a 24/7 D/s Daddy/girl relationship and have been for a few years. It has been wonderful and ... A: well okay I have a friend i went to talk over this, as I do not know a lot about little's. Well she ... | |
| obediance | 12/7/2010 |
| Q: does being over kind hurt in the long run how do you stop your pet from jumping u[ A: yes being over kind can hurt. As to how to stop them from jumping you. Most want it more not :-) ... | |
| hey | 12/1/2010 |
| Q: do u enjoy being a sub. i love bdsm, i dnt know if i am sub or dom. like both, confused, can you ... A: I enjoy being a sub. And many people are both it is called being a switch. Nothing wrong with ... | |
| Boyfriend wants BDSM | 11/25/2010 |
| Q: I am interested in BDMS to satisfy a boyfriends want I have no expirence in it. It there a good ... A: First off BDSM is more then sex. And there are a number of good places to learn more about it. You ... | |
| how to be a mistress | 11/25/2010 |
| Q: I've never been a mistress before but i meet this guy who want me to be his mistress i have no clue ... A: okay the only think i can tell you is go to www.fetlife.com and join it is free there are mentor ... | |
| nipple weights | 11/22/2010 |
| Q: Try as I might, I am unable to locate a decent online suppler of nipple weights and clamps. Can you ... A: http://www.amazon.com/Spartacus-Alligator-Nipple-Clamps-Adjustable/dp/B002JVWZSS ... | |
| new to dom/sub | 11/13/2010 |
| Q: Ive been married for 9 months. I have been fantasizing about being dominated for probably about a ... A: Both of you need to join www.fetlife.com and get mentors and get into groups as well find others in ... | |
| Don't know where to start??? | 11/9/2010 |
| Q: I've recently met a sub male online/webcam and he asked for me to be his mistress. up until now, ... A: Give him a routine to do each time you log on line with him as well before he logs off each ... | |
| newbie question | 11/5/2010 |
| Q: i am very new to the scene and new nothing until a few weeks ago when i met a new parter who was ... A: you need to take small steps outside the bedroom and some are never comfortable with it at all, it ... | |
| Confused submissive type? | 11/3/2010 |
| Q: i hope i can articulate this well enough without making it confusing. i have been with my husband ... A: Honestly I am not sure how to direct you. Part of the acting out is to see if he still cares enough ... | |
| Curiosity | 10/28/2010 |
| Q: I've been curious about BDSM for a while now. I've finally turned 18, and really would like to get ... A: okay well you can join WWW.fetlife.com and learn through groups as well see if you can find others ... | |
| How to "claim" an available slave | 10/21/2010 |
| Q: I am new to this and need to know the proper way to "claim" an available slave. Is it agreeing to a ... A: You do not just clam a slave, they allow you to be there master. You just get to know people and ... | |
| Being a gentle top | 10/12/2010 |
| Q: I have just started dating a woman who is interested in the BDSM scene. I have no experience in it, ... A: I do not know of any, you can gather information and just play with lighter toys and it is not all ... | |
| new to this | 10/8/2010 |
| Q: I must say I have so many questions I really have no idea where to start. This isn't the first time ... A: A collar is like a wedding ring it is the commitment that you have and make for each other. Most ... | |
| Restarting w/ D/s | 10/5/2010 |
| Q: my ex-girlfriend and I have recently decided to enter a relationship again with a slight twist. We ... A: Names are each to it's own you call each other what works for you. some use different names when at ... | |
| New to being a Dom and the lifestyle | 10/2/2010 |
| Q: Ok so i have been with my girl for a month and she is into the whole D/S relationship which is fine ... A: Well you can get some good D/s information on line as well you might want to join www.fetlife.com ... | |
| vanilla wife | 9/25/2010 |
| Q: sir i stay in india and im most likely to have an arrange marriage my que is if i get married 2 a ... A: BDSM is becoming more of a main stream then it once was. And more people are marring into it I would ... | |
| Just Curious | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: I am not currently involved in the BDSM Lifestyle, but I am very curious about it. I read a lot of ... A: Okay a lot are into humiliation but that is not for everyone. Erotica is not real life and yes it ... | |
| new to lifestyle | 9/12/2010 |
| Q: I hope this e-mail finds you well. I have just recently went through a divorce and never really had ... A: Okay being in a Master Slave relationship does not mean that you or the master are not human. We all ... | |
| wanna know weather i'm dom sub or a switch | 9/3/2010 |
| Q: I'm shifu from india. I'm 20 year old. I wanted to know if i'm a dom or a sub or a switch. I've been ... A: well I would get to know here chat with her and so on. meet up even for coffee and let you know you ... | |
| wanna know weather i'm dom sub or a switch | 9/2/2010 |
| Q: I'm shifu from india. I'm 20 year old. I wanted to know if i'm a dom or a sub or a switch. I've been ... A: Well sometimes a sub had a little bit of a Dom side in them, they are not a true switch, as they do ... | |
| availability | 8/23/2010 |
| Q: I am not even sure of the subject matter here. I have been in a relationship, new to bdsm, for a ... A: you can join collarme.com or fetlife.com or maybe both. You can find people in your area as well ... | |
| D/s Relationship | 8/20/2010 |
| Q: I am looking to collar my sub who currently lives on the other side of the US until she relocates ... A: Okay the best thing to do here is to go to a nice jewelery store and get a necklaces and matching ... | |
| d/s relationship | 8/17/2010 |
| Q: I have an opportunity to enter into a d/s relationship with a sub woman. I'm new to this and need ... A: I can give you some links to sites where you can learn. ... | |
| Something different for aftercare! | 8/9/2010 |
| Q: I am a married wife to my Dom/Hubby/Top/Protector..Etc. We have been together for 10 years but only ... A: Okay it is all different for each person. some just like to be warped in a blanket and help, other ... | |
| Wanting to see if this lifestyle is for me. | 7/31/2010 |
| Q: I am wanting to explore the lifestyle I have read books and books about it I have been told I need ... A: Do not give us, I have sent your area out to my list and we will see what comes back it might take a ... | |
| choosing a style | 7/30/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my wife for four years now and married for just over one but recently she has ... A: First each Dom trains for what they wish to have done with the sub, so a Dom training her is for her ... | |
| Partner no longer wants bdsm in our relationship | 7/26/2010 |
| Q: I’ve been in a relationship for almost 2 years now. When we first met and starting dating he told me ... A: hang in there and well just keep trying. I feel for you and your in a very hard and painful place. ... | |
| Getting your Dom interested again | 7/25/2010 |
| Q: My Boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. We met on a type of personal site under ... A: well I am not sure what to tell you, this is not the normal questions that I receive. I would look ... | |
| Confused | 7/25/2010 |
| Q: I have only been in the lifestyle for almost a year. My partner/Dom has been active for 20 yrs. ... A: I am not sure what to tell you other then sit down and talk with him. Even write to him and let him ... | |
| Partner no longer wants bdsm in our relationship | 7/23/2010 |
| Q: I’ve been in a relationship for almost 2 years now. When we first met and starting dating he told me ... A: Okay you might try sending him an e-mail and let him now how you feel. Sometimes guys talk better ... | |
| How to serve my master online | 7/21/2010 |
| Q: I recently became an online slave. This morning, I received an e-mail from my master saying this: ... A: do you see yourself meeting to make time for him and his needs? I am not sure how the whole on line ... | |
| Vanilla guy w/ sub girlfriend + mixed signals | 7/2/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend recently told me she's a submissive. She wanted me to try putting her in sub-space, ... A: Sub-space is a place of great joy for a sub. The Dom has fun sending here there. I am not sure how ... | |
| Who am I? | 6/30/2010 |
| Q: I have uncovered a side of myself that seems to have lay dormant for the beginning years of my life. ... A: Well why do you not print out the letter that you sent to me and then talk with him about it? Or ... | |
| pain | 6/24/2010 |
| Q: I am heading to playdate #2 and I am anticipating (in a good way) that it will be very intense. I ... A: Sorry but I know of no ways, you try it and either you like and enjoy the pain or you do not. Some ... | |
| I am unsure what to do | 6/22/2010 |
| Q: This might be a problem that comes about often or not very often at all. I am young 16 years old and ... A: It is not bad that you know your a submissive at this age at all. You are very enlightened as well ... | |
| help | 6/21/2010 |
| Q: I'm submissive male and a foot & boot fetishist.Please help me explore myself for my kinky desires ... A: Ricky, I can not tell you why you enjoy the fetishes that you have. No one can ever explain them ... | |
| newbie floundering | 6/19/2010 |
| Q: I am wondering if it is considered polite/appropriate to ask a Dom/Mentor to be your Master, or if ... A: Many Doms, like it if a sub comes and ask if they can become his, so I would say it just depends on ... | |
| Open marriage/wife sharing/BDSM masters | 6/18/2010 |
| Q: Background: We're a white couple, I'm 43, wife is 39, well off financially - I run 2 businesses. ... A: Okay, this does bring on some concerns. Have you told her how you feel about this? You need to ... | |
| Castlerealm and Roissey | 6/11/2010 |
| Q: actually I have 3 questions. is there a "Roissey" in the U.S.? i know it was mentioned in Story of O ... A: Castlerealm has been gone for a while not sure why, it has been sad to no longer have that great ... | |
| We're+both+new | 6/10/2010 |
| Q: I'm+extremely+independant+and+strong-willed+in+everyday+life+but+find+submitting+in+bed+amazingly+fr ... A: I am not sure what the question is...but if it is working for you both live on it is all about what ... | |
| should i dump him? | 6/10/2010 |
| Q: I met this guy, really nice, sweet and handsome. Dressed well, in graduate school, has a good job ... A: I think it is something that you need to sit down with him and talk about. Okay sometimes people do ... | |
| Never tried but asked to start a BDSM relationship. | 6/9/2010 |
| Q: I have been approached by a submissive woman. She said she has only been doing it for a short while ... A: Okay first off you are going to find somethings out on your own a sub telling you it all is called ... | |
| help me understand | 6/5/2010 |
| Q: my husband used to be a switch in bdsm lifestyle i know nothing of this life and he wants me to ... A: okay start searching the internet there are a lot of great site out there that will give you ... | |
| submissive and confused. | 6/2/2010 |
| Q: I have always been interested in BDSM, especially D/s, humiliation and pain. I identify as a ... A: okay some thing that might help....make out a list of all the tings you want and need from a Dom. ... | |
| Marry A Dominant Woman | 6/2/2010 |
| Q: Please i need your help, is there any website or directory that i can search for a dominant woman ... A: I am sorry I do not know of any and that is not right off, I can ask around but I know of none, ... | |
| How to avoid Topping from the bottom | 6/1/2010 |
| Q: Stephen, I have been a submissive as long as I can remember, and for the past 3 years it has been ... A: part of that is his job to help you learn and not to allow you to Top from the bottom. you need to ... | |
| A passive dominant | 5/30/2010 |
| Q: I am a sub and I have been involved in bdsm since I was 19 (30 now). I essentially introduced my ... A: Have you considered taking him to the Doctor to see if he is depressed? That sound more like it ... | |
| Names/How to help my bf | 5/16/2010 |
| Q: I'm a fairly new sub but I know enough to live the lifestyle to it's fullest. And my current ... A: you just have to wait for him, and when the time is right he will act. But he might not as well, it ... | |
| not sure where to start | 5/5/2010 |
| Q: Master Shadow, I'm and always have been interested and had masochistic tendencies. Until quite ... A: I am not Master Shadow but I will try to help you some if I can. You might need to get into a ... | |
| seeking bdsm | 5/2/2010 |
| Q: I I am a Dominant seeking bdsm chat rooms for a possible sub or slave, do you have any ... A: I do not really know of any chat rooms I know of a few discussion boards where you might meet ... | |
| Stockholm syndrome | 5/1/2010 |
| Q: i am a submissive trannie pain slut and i recently found a clip called Stockholm Syndrome by ... A: I do not know where you can buy it but I found three place where you can download it through. I ... | |
| bdsm | 4/11/2010 |
| Q: Whe me and my husband were together only a few months a noticed he had been on amateurmatch and ... A: okay I am not sure how I can help...but you need to tell him just what you told me. Talk with him. ... | |
| new dom | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: I grew up with the idea to treat woman like women. My question is I met a sub and we played a few ... A: you need to ask her what her needs are, then do things to show her you can meet the needs that she ... | |
| outside dom | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: Not sure how to approach this question , but here goes.My wife and I have been married for 9 tears ... A: well, I am not sure what help you need. I know of a lot of people that do just what your ... | |
| A female sub's psyche | 3/12/2010 |
| Q: I'm just getting in to this lifestyle as a dominant male and I'm curious about what might make a ... A: I can not give you a lot of down sides to this lifestyle at all. I can tell you that part of what ... | |
| daddy/babygirl | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my daddy for 19 months and we are madly deeply in love. We dated ... A: Not sure I can help. But I can tell you to just take it slow, if you have been doing it all this ... | |
| Comming out to family | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: i have a real problem here, at least in my eyes. i've been a slave for over a year now and that's ... A: I know that my family is all Baptist and from the mid-west, so telling them some things they just ... | |
| BDSM Punishments | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: I am recently married, and throughout our dating we have done many master/slave or pet ... A: Well the punishment box can work some times the punishments do not always fit the crimes. You need ... | |
| new relationship | 3/4/2010 |
| Q: I'm a new submissive with a new Dom. We both have virtually no experience and are feeling our way. ... A: The lifestyle is a two way street if your not happy you need to tell him and talk to him about it. ... | |
| How do I get over my fear of having sex with my Master? | 2/19/2010 |
| Q: I am nineteen years old, and a virgin. I have been with my Master for about six months now, and love ... A: I am not sure how to answer this one at all. For myself personal I would say to just have sex with ... | |
| New and trying to understand | 2/19/2010 |
| Q: I have always been very submissive and have not been able to have that satisfied in previous ... A: You need to sit down and talk with your Dom as to what he receives from the sessions with you. Each ... | |
| i want my wife to cane me | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: i have been married for two years and with my wife for ten, i want to submit to her in the bedroom ... A: this is not weird at all. You need to maybe show her some web sites of such things and see how she ... | |
| Age Play | 2/14/2010 |
| Q: I have been wondering about age play. I am not sure alot about it, so I am not sure how or what to ... A: Well Age play is different for each couple. The sexual aspects are not to be done during the time ... | |
| new to bdsm | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: hi my husband and i have been married for 20 yrs im 38 and hes 45 weve always been kinky in the ... A: I think it could be something to help you both learn...also I would say to look for a local area ... | |
| how do i tell my fiance im into bdsm? | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: I am a 23 year old male and i just started dating a girl I like a lot. As long as I can remember I ... A: okay maybe just bring up something about the lifestyle and talk with her about it and see what it ... | |
| Names | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: I have just entered a D/s relationship and im acually new to the whole thing. I am the Dominant of ... A: Rules as in bed time what days to clean what...How to great you when you arrive home each day. What ... | |
| Differences | 1/27/2010 |
| Q: A: well there is a lot. Face to face you can read the other persons expressions, feel the touch and ... | |
| Third Person | 1/24/2010 |
| Q: I am seeking a sub opinion (although if a D/M wants to also shed some light, that would be welcomed ... A: You are free to send me any of your questions. I think the Third person way of speaking comes in ... | |
| I'm pregnat | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: I should start by saying I'm a collard Sub and Master and I have been together for just under 2 ... A: no you need to go to him and sit down and tell him now. And that is not all your fault it takes to ... | |
| My husbands online BDSM relationship | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 18 years. We have recently entered into a D/s relationship with each ... A: Claudia, I would be more then upset I would be PISSED! That is not okay in any since of any ... | |
| d/s interchangeable | 1/9/2010 |
| Q: I only recently really discovered how much of the d/s - bdsm I have in me sexually and was almost in ... A: yes it is as it is your relationship and it is about what works for you both and nothing more. ... | |
| how can I become more dominant | 1/6/2010 |
| Q: I have recently found out that my wife of 7yrs. is very unhappy in our relationship. She desires to ... A: yes it is and that does not need to be just sexually, but over all. Try joining www.fetlife.com you ... | |
| curiuous... | 1/3/2010 |
| Q: .. I have a couple of questions if you don't mind. I have recently got back in touch with a friend ... A: First off join www.fetlife.com and look for local munches in your area and get to know others. You ... | |
| Relearning to Trust | 12/11/2009 |
| Q: i'm afraid my question is kind complex. For almost ten years i lived openly in the lifestyle. my ... A: rainie: I changed the title of you email because I doubt you ever left the lifestyle. I believe ... | |
| Finding a Master | 12/8/2009 |
| Q: Me and my fiancee have a slightly unusual situation, and we're both feeling stuck as what to do. ... A: I can tell you to attend local munches and try sites like www.Collarme.com or www.fetlife.com to see ... | |
| Punishment rubrics/Appropriate punishments | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm new to the group and new to the community. I'm a male Dom and up until now I have tried to stay ... A: Sir, First off how is it getting tougher? I am not sure I understand what your needing? Is it that ... | |
| Confused submissive married to vanilla man | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: Greetings Sir, i hope that You are well. i stumbled upon Your profile while seeking answers for my ... A: have you told your husband? Does he know about the lifestyle? First you need to be honest with ... | |
| Adressing in public. | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: I am going to my first public bdsm event on New years eve. I have studied and researched the ... A: The question is a good one, and no you do not address everyone as Sir. I have never attended a ... | |
| im trying to find a female submissive. | 11/9/2009 |
| Q: i am a female switch and i am trying to fine myself a female submissive. i have a Master and i have ... A: you might wish to try theses www.collarme.com www.fetlife.com i wish you luck, I do not know more ... | |
| Guilt | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: i have written a couple of questions to you before and your advice has been helpful. i am new to the ... A: okay, in my book he can always masturbate all on his own. I do not think it was right to make you ... | |
| Top drop | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: I have been involved in a D/s relationship for 5 years. It has been extremely rewarding in a ... A: Sometimes life just gets to busy and the Dom caring so much on his plate just needs a brake from it ... | |
| help !!!!! | 11/4/2009 |
| Q: what should i do my wife has ben a sub 4 years!!! i am new to this she wants to be a slave slut in ... A: I would say to set up your rules, how and when you wish her to do things for you. Work with her on ... | |
| advice | 11/4/2009 |
| Q: .seems to be that i am getting a girl here soon who calls herself a sub but refers to me online as ... A: not sure what to tell you, and as to her calling you Master...well subs use that term as well. This ... | |
| Unsure about a lot | 11/1/2009 |
| Q: this really isn't about BDSM but about ABDL. I'm sorry to ask it here but you seem to be the only ... A: well I would go out with him and then deal with the issues directly. Giving it a try might be the ... | |
| dealing with a break-up | 10/24/2009 |
| Q: About 10 months ago I entered my first bdsm relationship as a sub - with my then boyfriend of ... A: I would say to stop pushing it give him the time that he needs...work on things together, and see ... | |
| His or mine? | 10/23/2009 |
| Q: My Dom and i were talking on the phone the other day and because W/we are trying to get me moved the ... A: yes you can have a contract that keeps your money as yours. And only a slave has that to worry ... | |
| Poly | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: i am in a D/s online relationship right now, W/we are going to go real life soon. He has been open ... A: poly is not for e everyone. And he should never be upset if you can not get into it. As a sub you ... | |
| Submissive | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: What exactly does submission mean? What doea it entail. By my question u can tell im new to this. I ... A: We define Dominant / submissive (D/s) as: Dominance (also called Domination) - In terms of ... | |
| Erotic Humilation | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: Six months ago I hired a 26 year old young women to work at my company (Maryam) and over the past ... A: David, Wow that was a lot and sorry but it has been a lot to think over. Yes some marriages are ... | |
| i need to please my master | 9/16/2009 |
| Q: I have been a Sub for going on 5 years now but I have a new Dom and I have NOT had any pleasure ... A: I think you need to sit down and talk with your Master and see what else there is he might like as ... | |
| Bed times | 9/16/2009 |
| Q: I have been a BDSM dom for some time now but have recently entered my first relationship with an age ... A: I would say that the bedtime needs to be at a time that fits into both of your days. When it is ... | |
| Online tasks | 9/7/2009 |
| Q: I am a sub in what is mostly an online relationship. I am IT skilled and to help my owner I have ... A: here are a few places I know of, that you may know of or not, but maybe one will help you out some. ... | |
| New Confusion | 8/26/2009 |
| Q: I just met a man online who is very into BDSM, and particularly the D/s relationship. I have never ... A: no it is not normal to be punished for things you have not done. And the freezing thing I fear is ... | |
| Dom and vanilla Relationship | 8/13/2009 |
| Q: I'm a vanilla guy in long term relationship with a Dom woman. For years it seemed that a vanilla ... A: there is a book out there you can order on line it is called When you love someone who is kinky. ... | |
| New Ideas or Tips | 8/13/2009 |
| Q: Can you advise about new tips or guide for Husband / Wife relation where the wife is domminant and ... A: I know of a couple of good websites that can help you explore this some better and I think they ... | |
| jealouy with my Master | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: i am having major jealousy issues dealing the my Master having others please him. i am still ... A: well sometimes it is just how you look at it. Look at others serving him and you all sharing so no ... | |
| dont know what to do | 8/4/2009 |
| Q: before he was with he he was very heavly into this life style and just shortly before he started ... A: I am sorry that your feeling lost and hurt, but I not do not deal much at all with sex. I find it a ... | |
| switch and a strong sub | 8/2/2009 |
| Q: I am a highly intelligent and confident person, I will stand for what I believe in and can be ... A: Well it might help for you to attend munches and have time with like minded others. That way you ... | |
| hard limits | 8/1/2009 |
| Q: how difficult is it to find a submissive 24/7 slave that has no hard limits,i mean someone who would ... A: It can be very hard I do not know of a single person that does not have some hard limits. Be it ... | |
| An ab/dl and poly dilema... | 7/28/2009 |
| Q: Apologies this isn’t in the 'fetish' section, but there’s no one appropriate to answer. If anyone ... A: As they say, the way forward, is through. Do we: a) save up for professional 'treats' for him? b) ... | |
| I would like to pursue a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle. | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: This is actually a two-part question. 1) My husband and I are currently bedroom BDSM practitioners. ... A: I am not sure of any sites other then just general D/s ones. And it sounds like you are already for ... | |
| D/s ethics | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: i am very new to the whole BDSM thing, and honestly, very naive about it. About 3 months ago, i met ... A: 1.) How many submissives is it common for a Master to have? Well that is hard to answer, some have ... | |
| Effects | 7/16/2009 |
| Q: which effects one bottom would feel after a long period (4 months) without D/s sessions? Some ... A: There is no syndrome per say. But a Sub can be all out of sorts if they have regular sessions and ... | |
| new sub | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: I have known I am sub for a long time, but have not acted upon it. I recently met a Dom who seems ... A: To lean on him and allow him to teach and guide you. To have communication...communication and ... | |
| new to BDSM | 7/11/2009 |
| Q: I am happily marred to my wife of 17 years,I just found out that she has been in to BDSM for some ... A: I would say to look for munches in your local area where you can grow and learn and have others to ... | |
| forceing ?????? | 7/10/2009 |
| Q: ok me and my sub are some what new to bdsm ..andi know that she likes to be forced into doing ... A: I would have to say this is something the two of you need to negotiate on and then draw the lines on ... | |
| How to be a sub | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 14 years and I have always been the one in control of my marriage, kids, and ... A: The testing is normal and something that needs to happen, the more he sets limits and holds you to ... | |
| crying | 7/8/2009 |
| Q: First a little bit about us….into what some would call soft bdsm, fun mainly reserved for the ... A: Sometime it is hard for a sub to ever have a release that crying can give, I would have to say that ... | |
| Dealing with the outside world's view of me | 7/4/2009 |
| Q: I will start with a little background on my relationship before asking my question. I met my Daddy ... A: I will try to give this a try with you. How about you just tell them that this is how you want the ... | |
| Long Distant Punishments | 7/1/2009 |
| Q: I am writing to you today to ask you if you could suggest some punishments that I could use over a ... A: I will give this a try I am a sub and I think that DarkDivah, is not available at this time. Have ... | |
| daddy dom's | 6/30/2009 |
| Q: my question is what exactly is expected of a daddy dom in that kind of relationship,and why are ... A: you are to act more as a Daddy with your little one. I am active in the lifestyle and I have never ... | |
| i'm afraid we're both subs. | 6/27/2009 |
| Q: i have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. Before him i was collared to a very abusive ... A: okay can you think on something as well have him think on this? What if you both have the same Dom ... | |
| when to coller | 6/27/2009 |
| Q: how long does a Master usually talk to a sub before he collars her and is there any rules what to ... A: a collar is like a wedding ring there is no set time in which a Dom will give one to a sub, it will ... | |
| I have a Daddy's Little Girl Fetish and I want my husband to FOR REAL discipline spank me | 6/22/2009 |
| Q: I have a Daddy's Little Girl fetish. To make a long story short, I want my husband to discipline me ... A: Jennifer A lot of Dom's can not punish the ones they love. It is hard to be stern with them. It ... | |
| help cb 6000 | 6/21/2009 |
| Q: Welcome Please help. I am Lukas 28 years old and I have come from Polish. A few days ago I bought ... A: okay, I went on line and have researched all I can find on this device. I did not find that any ... | |
| 24/7 Slaves | 6/7/2009 |
| Q: I'm looking to Take a Slave 24/7. Im trying to find a way to talk to my Family & Friends about this. ... A: As to telling your family, you know them best I was just open and honest with mine as to my place in ... | |
| husband willing to Dom, but new... | 5/29/2009 |
| Q: my husband and I have been discussing his domination of me for awhile (several years) and He feels ... A: your most welcome, and if you e-mail me off list I can send you some links as well that might help ... | |
| husband willing to Dom, but new... | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: my husband and I have been discussing his domination of me for awhile (several years) and He feels ... A: Okay I can try to help you some. There are a couple of good books out there that you both can read. ... | |
| Anal training with butt plugs. | 5/26/2009 |
| Q: My slave and I have been together for 6 months and I feel like it is time to start her Anal ... A: Okay I am a sub and I can tell you how I was trained it might help who knows. I was to wear a small ... | |
| finding a slave | 5/9/2009 |
| Q: .maybe you can assist here. after a long time on collar me site and finding idiots and scammers, I ... A: You might try www.fetlife.com but for the most part all the sites have a great number of players sad ... | |
| being a switch! | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: Until fairly recently I always thought of myself as a submissive. I have been with a Dom for ... A: well I just finished a great book, called Female Domination by Elise Sutton, it was a great book and ... | |
| Telling My Boyfriend | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend very seriously for 2.5 years now. He is very conservative and naive ... A: First off let me say that I am sorry for my delay in getting back with you. Here is a good site to ... | |
| goals | 4/8/2009 |
| Q: I saw your Q and A on how to keep the d/s relationship alive with a family to take care of and i ... A: what type of things do you what your girl to become? You need to set up the things you wish to ... | |
| D/s relationships | 3/15/2009 |
| Q: little bit of background 1st, i have been with my master for nearly 2 years he is someone i have ... A: okay can you tell me some more information please? So is or was the relationship D/s or more M/s or ... | |
| mono sub seeking advice for poly relationship | 2/11/2009 |
| Q: I am a 20 year old American submissive in a long distance relationship with my 21 year old dominant ... A: Okay sorry for my delay. But I would seek out munches and activities here near you and attend. Get ... | |
| shocked | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I've recently started dating a man and we've really hit it off. He's handsome, smart, funny, rich ... A: So now I have some questions. 1. Do you think I should have a discussion with him and ask him about ... | |
| relationship help/ BDSM | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: background: I have been in a 5 year relationship with a sub/pain slut. She introduced me to the ... A: I know of two places on line does relationship counseling. They are ... | |
| Boy role | 1/14/2009 |
| Q: I keep hearing talk amongst folks in the gay BDSM world talk about their "boy". Can you help me to ... A: Basically it's just a way of saying "submissive" or "bottom" or anything else. It's just a synonym ... | |
| Black day | 1/14/2009 |
| Q: I would like to know what is a black day in the D/s lifestyle. This was a suggestion that was ... A: Okay to the best that I know Black day is the same as wearing white in the D/s world. Black Day is ... | |
| castation | 12/25/2008 |
| Q: I am 45 year old man that is slave to my wife. I am wearing chastity devices all the time and never ... A: But I am not a Dr you would need to ask one to get the answers that you need. O would think that ... | |
| Find a Dominate | 12/21/2008 |
| Q: I have did all the research i can on this lifestyle and now i think that i am ready to be apart of ... A: you need to find and start attending munches in your local area and meeting people that are in the ... | |
| anal sex on daily basis | 12/19/2008 |
| Q: I am a submissive gay man and have sex with my "master" on a daily basis. He will put me on the ... A: From what I have hard over the years that no it is not good to have anal sex daily. Most often I ... | |
| std's and kink | 12/11/2008 |
| Q: I have a STD, I take medication for it and seem to have it under control. I'm owned and my Owner is ... A: No I think you need to tell them about it but also give them information so that they understand and ... | |
| new to bdsm | 12/5/2008 |
| Q: i have reciently been visiting bdsm web pages and found them a real turn on, i went to visit a ... A: welcome to the world of kinky sex. there is nothing wrong with you at all many are just like you ... | |
| Calling my Boyfriend "Sir"? | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i have been together for over a year - in what i guess is called a "vanilla" ... A: Fist let me apologize for taking so long to answer this as my pc went down and I have not been able ... | |
| My wife being a submission for a Master | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: We are new to the life style and decided to try a session with a older dom who seems experinced and ... A: Well I can tell you that many do just what your wanting to do and that is watch well your wife is ... | |
| Submissive in a vanilla marriage | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: I have been a sexual submissive my entire life - 42 now but remember having D/s fantasies from age ... A: May I say that you need to talk with him about the overall sex life you have. And work on that as ... | |
| Where to start. | 10/30/2008 |
| Q: Ok so here is some back ground info. Im a sub and so if my live in boyfriend. For the last 4 years ... A: I would first off say that you might want to join some on line group where you can find others in ... | |
| D/s - relationships | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: I have known my Master for a number of months now. Its been well over a year since my submission to ... A: First off you can not get past the hurt until you both sit down and talk about it and you are able ... | |
| i want to become a daddy, but i dont want to scare girlfriends away | 10/26/2008 |
| Q: i want to be a daddy and go all the way with it, i'm an AB/DL and i used to be a sub, but now i've ... A: I think you need to join places like www.Collarme.com where you can post what it is you’re looking ... | |
| my Master | 10/17/2008 |
| Q: Just some background on Master and i. my Master/hubby and i have been married almost 2 years but ... A: First off I would find out if there are munches in your area, and make it a point to get you both ... | |
| Wanted my husband to be my Master | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: OK- long story short- I have been asking my husband to dominate me for 3 years. I wasn't very ... A: You should never hide anything at all from your husband that is just wrong but then that is just my ... | |
| D/s real life | 9/11/2008 |
| Q: My Master and I have been together of 7 yrs, married for 6. Our relationship began as full on- ... A: Well this is a hard one. think you might need to look at some things and make the time to be ... | |
| Ideas | 9/8/2008 |
| Q: I am wondering, what could I do for my husband which would inspire him to become more dedicated to ... A: Your more then welcome, maybe you need to find another couple there and invite them over and spend ... | |
| information | 9/6/2008 |
| Q: I am new to the BDSM scene and new to Raleigh... How do I go about meeting people in the BDSM ... A: First off look for munches in your area, they are times to meet in public so that you can get to ... | |
| conflicting feelings | 9/2/2008 |
| Q: I'm a sub and I have been for almost 4 years now. When I was 16, I met the man that has since become ... A: Well fist off I feel your pain in all of this. I know for myself it was hard to have a partner and ... | |
| Husband learning from Domme, Wife freaking out | 8/28/2008 |
| Q: I'm not sure this is so much of a question, more a seeking of someone who can point me in the right ... A: Have you looked in to local munches that you can attend? It is a good way to have people that are ... | |
| the real stupid world | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: Why should one trust the people who sponsor munches or scenes? Who are those people? Government ... A: Most of the time the people that do go out of there way to make the munches happen are people that ... | |
| Is my b/f ashamed of me? | 8/14/2008 |
| Q: I have been seeing my b\f for over a year. We have a vanilla relationship as wel as a D/s ... A: First off talk with him on this and how you feel, there might be some underline reason for this. As ... | |
| Dom leaving | 7/8/2008 |
| Q: I just started training with a Dom late last summer, he lives in another state and we got to see ... A: Good day, sorry for my delay in writing back on this, but I have been mauling this around in my head ... | |
| confuzed | 5/16/2008 |
| Q: Ive been with my current boyfriend for just over 2 yrs now. I have always known he is into BDSM ... A: I can try but each relationship is different. Never feel stupid to talk to him that is what a large ... | |
| developing relationship with dominant wife | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: I've recently introduced my wife to the idea of spanking me to help me behave more to her liking. ... A: Well you can find local groups in your area, and attend munches and events so you both can learn and ... | |
| sub married to a sub | 5/7/2008 |
| Q: In the course of our BDSM odyssey, my husband and I have both switched. We both find a long term D/s ... A: Well I can understand your points made it would be hard to deal with. Might I suggest something you ... | |
| How do I get my husband to make me his slave? | 4/26/2008 |
| Q: I am a newlywed and have always had fantasies about my husband tying me up and having complete ... A: I do not think you can make another person turn into something that they are not. You can talk with ... | |
| Does Being a "Sub" Change Who I am? | 4/4/2008 |
| Q: My name is Aimee, and I'm 18 years old. You can say that I've always been a bit of a feminist. I'm ... A: Aimee, It is a great question, thank you for asking it. For myself when I am a sub is my time to ... | |
| confusion | 3/25/2008 |
| Q: I am a 24 year old male from England. I am quite a good looking lad and don't really have any ... A: Ok, I am some confused now as well here. “Since i was about 15 I have fantasied about silk and ... | |
| Girlfriend into BDSM | 3/9/2008 |
| Q: Awhitecloud I have recently got a girlfriend who is really into BDSM, she does needle and edge ... A: Well first off I would think you might want to wish to start attending the parties with her. Attend ... | |
| ask a question | 2/27/2008 |
| Q: i want to know why im interested to be a beuty woman's pet? and it was in my mind since i was a ... A: I can not tell you why you are interested in being a women's pet. I do not know you and I have no ... | |
| spanking and pregnancy | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: While pregnant, I avoided all spankings and any sort of pain play, out of fear it might harm the ... A: Sorry for my delay I have been working out of town and it is hard to get on line when I am on the ... | |
| Very Confused | 2/19/2008 |
| Q: I have been interested in bondage, torture, tickling, etc. as long as I can remember (probably pre ... A: First off, there is no age at all for getting into BDSM, it is what works for you and what you both ... | |
| fantasy to reality sub | 1/25/2008 |
| Q: how do you know if the reality is really for you. I've only had vinalla relationships. I'm always ... A: I am not sure where you live but it might be worth while for you to find a local group and attend ... | |
| my bf wants to be a Dom | 12/31/2007 |
| Q: what can he do to become a Dom A: yes he can if he wants to do the work and it is what you both want in your relationship. He should ... | |
| taking it to a serious level in my life | 12/16/2007 |
| Q: I am wanting to know how to learn how to take this from a bedroom thing to a level above all and not ... A: you might want to read a book called "The Loving Dominate" you can get it on line as well at any ... | |
| bdsm in marriage | 12/9/2007 |
| Q: i am new to this site but i am glad that i have finally found a place to ask my questions. i am ... A: you need to get the book "the loving Dominate" and have him read it and you can get it at an local ... | |
| everyday life | 12/3/2007 |
| Q: I am a sew submissive, and so may not fully understand things. I work every day to please my dom and ... A: I think your right on target with what you want so many want it and long for it as well. Life is ... | |
| levels of pain | 12/1/2007 |
| Q: Can you have D/s without high levels of pain. I have been with my Master for a year and I thought ... A: some like a little more sensual and less pain. And have you hard of poly? Sometime it is nice to ... | |
| Smoking | 11/11/2007 |
| Q: my Master has told me that i am not to smoke, yet it is so hard not to go behind his back and do ... A: Alisha, First off both things are hard to over come and the cutting alone you should be seeing ... | |
| my girlfriend works as a sub. I want to know more. | 11/7/2007 |
| Q: I have met a wonderful girl who makes me very happy. She works as a submissive in a well known ... A: Sorry to say that I do not have much experience with dungeon’s in the LA area. With what I know of ... | |
| Entering a poly relationship | 10/3/2007 |
| Q: What can i expect from a poly D/s relationship if i am the third? i am new to the lifestyle and have ... A: here are some links that might help! http://community.livejournal.com/polybdsm ... | |
| becoming a dom | 9/5/2007 |
| Q: In just this past week my boyfriend of 9 months with whom I live admitted he would like to try out a ... A: I would look for area munches to start attending so that you make friends with like minded people ... | |
| top/bottom vs. dom/sub | 9/3/2007 |
| Q: Can a top be a sub? Though I am a bottom in the bedroom, I have the desire to have someone to ... A: Okay it is not a Top being a sub….it would be more like a Dom being also a sub at times….they are ... | |
| Collar | 9/3/2007 |
| Q: I am kind of been in a Dom/Sub relationship for 3 years. In the last two months we have defined it ... A: First off a Dom/sub and D/s are the same type of relationship. Now the second part of your question ... | |
| Getting started... | 8/30/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend has been interested in bondage for some time now and I'm the first girl that will do ... A: You might wish to sit down and talk with him on this. Find out if there are munches in your local ... | |
| Sex after a session | 8/10/2007 |
| Q: I'm glen 25 years old, i am 24\7 submissive for a 40 years old mistress, its my first time being a ... A: First off that was something to read! Now I know many with this problem and well many do not have ... | |
| am I wrong? | 8/9/2007 |
| Q: I met and fell inlove with my Master online. We live in two different countries, but he will be ... A: First off I think that most subs feel this way from time to time in all D/s relationships, we all ... | |
| How to punish 2 girls | 8/7/2007 |
| Q: I'm going to be having a 3-sum soon with my gf and her mate and they've both agreed that i can ... A: Why would you first off think that they would both be bad at the same time? And I would say it ... | |
| is he for me? | 8/5/2007 |
| Q: I encountered a man online who is "sexually submissive". He has years of experience, I have only ... A: http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/chk_main.php3 This link is for a checklist you should both do and ... | |
| 24/7, real-life complete with kids and exhaustion | 8/4/2007 |
| Q: I have an issue I'd love some help with (as opposed to a single question). My master and I have ... A: Minx, Your most welcome and I will try to help some if I can. I have been there and done that with ... | |
| master-------ing?? | 7/21/2007 |
| Q: A: awhitecloud This can be a hard place to begin the walk of life. It is nice to see you so committed ... | |
| masochists that is starting | 4/24/2007 |
| Q: I am a masochists that is starting to explore my sadists side of my lifestyle but I am a very heavy ... A: You need to talk with her, have her do a check list of things she has done and likes to do or does ... | |
| How to surprise my master | 4/14/2007 |
| Q: I want to do a surprise to my master, but i have runed out of ideas so please help A: I am not Master Shadow, but I will try to help you out. You might want to wear something lace and ... | |
| How to become a master | 4/10/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I want to become master of a 24/7 subgirl...we only know what that means from reading ... A: What most of us live 24/7 is something that is ingrained into us. As to just learning it so you can ... | |
| Question | 11/29/2006 |
| Q: my name is Steve. I am a 29 year old submissive male who's into soft bondage only. I am not into ... A: To find things in your area you might want to start searching on the net for activities and groups ... | |
| need to know | 8/30/2006 |
| Q: haloo my name is alma iam a happy girl with my boyfreind and our relation is perfect, it just ... A: you can have him lay in between your legs and have him suck the pee as you release it. There are ... | |
| advice | 8/27/2006 |
| Q: , i notes he is not fully satisfied with me on the bed and he always mention and talk about my feet ... A: Ask him what it is that he wishes to do and talk with him on this. I am sorry no one has answered ... | |
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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.
Experience
I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.
Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot
Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com
Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.
Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.
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