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| Punishment rubrics/Appropriate punishments | 11/18/2009 |
Q: I'm new to the group and new to the community. I'm a male Dom and up until now I have tried to stay ...
A: Sir, First off how is it getting tougher? I am not sure I understand what your needing? Is it that ...
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| Confused submissive married to vanilla man | 11/16/2009 |
Q: Greetings Sir, i hope that You are well. i stumbled upon Your profile while seeking answers for my ...
A: have you told your husband? Does he know about the lifestyle? First you need to be honest with ...
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| im trying to find a female submissive. | 11/9/2009 |
Q: i am a female switch and i am trying to fine myself a female submissive. i have a Master and i have ...
A: you might wish to try theses www.collarme.com www.fetlife.com i wish you luck, I do not know more ...
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| Guilt | 11/7/2009 |
Q: i have written a couple of questions to you before and your advice has been helpful. i am new to the ...
A: okay, in my book he can always masturbate all on his own. I do not think it was right to make you ...
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| Top drop | 11/5/2009 |
Q: I have been involved in a D/s relationship for 5 years. It has been extremely rewarding in a ...
A: Sometimes life just gets to busy and the Dom caring so much on his plate just needs a brake from it ...
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| help !!!!! | 11/4/2009 |
Q: what should i do my wife has ben a sub 4 years!!! i am new to this she wants to be a slave slut in ...
A: I would say to set up your rules, how and when you wish her to do things for you. Work with her on ...
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| advice | 11/4/2009 |
Q: .seems to be that i am getting a girl here soon who calls herself a sub but refers to me online as ...
A: not sure what to tell you, and as to her calling you Master...well subs use that term as well. This ...
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| Unsure about a lot | 11/1/2009 |
Q: this really isn't about BDSM but about ABDL. I'm sorry to ask it here but you seem to be the only ...
A: well I would go out with him and then deal with the issues directly. Giving it a try might be the ...
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| dealing with a break-up | 10/24/2009 |
Q: About 10 months ago I entered my first bdsm relationship as a sub - with my then boyfriend of ...
A: I would say to stop pushing it give him the time that he needs...work on things together, and see ...
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| His or mine? | 10/23/2009 |
Q: My Dom and i were talking on the phone the other day and because W/we are trying to get me moved the ...
A: yes you can have a contract that keeps your money as yours. And only a slave has that to worry ...
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| Poly | 10/16/2009 |
Q: i am in a D/s online relationship right now, W/we are going to go real life soon. He has been open ...
A: poly is not for e everyone. And he should never be upset if you can not get into it. As a sub you ...
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| Submissive | 10/7/2009 |
Q: What exactly does submission mean? What doea it entail. By my question u can tell im new to this. I ...
A: We define Dominant / submissive (D/s) as: Dominance (also called Domination) - In terms of ...
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| Erotic Humilation | 10/6/2009 |
Q: Six months ago I hired a 26 year old young women to work at my company (Maryam) and over the past ...
A: David, Wow that was a lot and sorry but it has been a lot to think over. Yes some marriages are ...
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| i need to please my master | 9/16/2009 |
Q: I have been a Sub for going on 5 years now but I have a new Dom and I have NOT had any pleasure ...
A: I think you need to sit down and talk with your Master and see what else there is he might like as ...
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| Bed times | 9/16/2009 |
Q: I have been a BDSM dom for some time now but have recently entered my first relationship with an age ...
A: I would say that the bedtime needs to be at a time that fits into both of your days. When it is ...
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| Online tasks | 9/7/2009 |
Q: I am a sub in what is mostly an online relationship. I am IT skilled and to help my owner I have ...
A: here are a few places I know of, that you may know of or not, but maybe one will help you out some. ...
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| New Confusion | 8/26/2009 |
Q: I just met a man online who is very into BDSM, and particularly the D/s relationship. I have never ...
A: no it is not normal to be punished for things you have not done. And the freezing thing I fear is ...
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| Dom and vanilla Relationship | 8/13/2009 |
Q: I'm a vanilla guy in long term relationship with a Dom woman. For years it seemed that a vanilla ...
A: there is a book out there you can order on line it is called When you love someone who is kinky. ...
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| New Ideas or Tips | 8/13/2009 |
Q: Can you advise about new tips or guide for Husband / Wife relation where the wife is domminant and ...
A: I know of a couple of good websites that can help you explore this some better and I think they ...
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| jealouy with my Master | 8/7/2009 |
Q: i am having major jealousy issues dealing the my Master having others please him. i am still ...
A: well sometimes it is just how you look at it. Look at others serving him and you all sharing so no ...
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| dont know what to do | 8/4/2009 |
Q: before he was with he he was very heavly into this life style and just shortly before he started ...
A: I am sorry that your feeling lost and hurt, but I not do not deal much at all with sex. I find it a ...
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| switch and a strong sub | 8/2/2009 |
Q: I am a highly intelligent and confident person, I will stand for what I believe in and can be ...
A: Well it might help for you to attend munches and have time with like minded others. That way you ...
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| hard limits | 8/1/2009 |
Q: how difficult is it to find a submissive 24/7 slave that has no hard limits,i mean someone who would ...
A: It can be very hard I do not know of a single person that does not have some hard limits. Be it ...
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| An ab/dl and poly dilema... | 7/28/2009 |
Q: Apologies this isn’t in the 'fetish' section, but there’s no one appropriate to answer. If anyone ...
A: As they say, the way forward, is through. Do we: a) save up for professional 'treats' for him? b) ...
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| I would like to pursue a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle. | 7/21/2009 |
Q: This is actually a two-part question. 1) My husband and I are currently bedroom BDSM practitioners. ...
A: I am not sure of any sites other then just general D/s ones. And it sounds like you are already for ...
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| D/s ethics | 7/20/2009 |
Q: i am very new to the whole BDSM thing, and honestly, very naive about it. About 3 months ago, i met ...
A: 1.) How many submissives is it common for a Master to have? Well that is hard to answer, some have ...
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| Effects | 7/16/2009 |
Q: which effects one bottom would feel after a long period (4 months) without D/s sessions? Some ...
A: There is no syndrome per say. But a Sub can be all out of sorts if they have regular sessions and ...
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| new sub | 7/14/2009 |
Q: I have known I am sub for a long time, but have not acted upon it. I recently met a Dom who seems ...
A: To lean on him and allow him to teach and guide you. To have communication...communication and ...
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| new to BDSM | 7/11/2009 |
Q: I am happily marred to my wife of 17 years,I just found out that she has been in to BDSM for some ...
A: I would say to look for munches in your local area where you can grow and learn and have others to ...
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| forceing ?????? | 7/10/2009 |
Q: ok me and my sub are some what new to bdsm ..andi know that she likes to be forced into doing ...
A: I would have to say this is something the two of you need to negotiate on and then draw the lines on ...
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| How to be a sub | 7/9/2009 |
Q: I have been married for 14 years and I have always been the one in control of my marriage, kids, and ...
A: The testing is normal and something that needs to happen, the more he sets limits and holds you to ...
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| crying | 7/8/2009 |
Q: First a little bit about us….into what some would call soft bdsm, fun mainly reserved for the ...
A: Sometime it is hard for a sub to ever have a release that crying can give, I would have to say that ...
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| Dealing with the outside world's view of me | 7/4/2009 |
Q: I will start with a little background on my relationship before asking my question. I met my Daddy ...
A: I will try to give this a try with you. How about you just tell them that this is how you want the ...
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| Long Distant Punishments | 7/1/2009 |
Q: I am writing to you today to ask you if you could suggest some punishments that I could use over a ...
A: I will give this a try I am a sub and I think that DarkDivah, is not available at this time. Have ...
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| daddy dom's | 6/30/2009 |
Q: my question is what exactly is expected of a daddy dom in that kind of relationship,and why are ...
A: you are to act more as a Daddy with your little one. I am active in the lifestyle and I have never ...
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| i'm afraid we're both subs. | 6/27/2009 |
Q: i have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. Before him i was collared to a very abusive ...
A: okay can you think on something as well have him think on this? What if you both have the same Dom ...
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| when to coller | 6/27/2009 |
Q: how long does a Master usually talk to a sub before he collars her and is there any rules what to ...
A: a collar is like a wedding ring there is no set time in which a Dom will give one to a sub, it will ...
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| I have a Daddy's Little Girl Fetish and I want my husband to FOR REAL discipline spank me | 6/22/2009 |
Q: I have a Daddy's Little Girl fetish. To make a long story short, I want my husband to discipline me ...
A: Jennifer A lot of Dom's can not punish the ones they love. It is hard to be stern with them. It ...
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| help cb 6000 | 6/21/2009 |
Q: Welcome Please help. I am Lukas 28 years old and I have come from Polish. A few days ago I bought ...
A: okay, I went on line and have researched all I can find on this device. I did not find that any ...
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| 24/7 Slaves | 6/7/2009 |
Q: I'm looking to Take a Slave 24/7. Im trying to find a way to talk to my Family & Friends about this. ...
A: As to telling your family, you know them best I was just open and honest with mine as to my place in ...
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| husband willing to Dom, but new... | 5/29/2009 |
Q: my husband and I have been discussing his domination of me for awhile (several years) and He feels ...
A: your most welcome, and if you e-mail me off list I can send you some links as well that might help ...
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| husband willing to Dom, but new... | 5/27/2009 |
Q: my husband and I have been discussing his domination of me for awhile (several years) and He feels ...
A: Okay I can try to help you some. There are a couple of good books out there that you both can read. ...
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| Anal training with butt plugs. | 5/26/2009 |
Q: My slave and I have been together for 6 months and I feel like it is time to start her Anal ...
A: Okay I am a sub and I can tell you how I was trained it might help who knows. I was to wear a small ...
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| finding a slave | 5/9/2009 |
Q: .maybe you can assist here. after a long time on collar me site and finding idiots and scammers, I ...
A: You might try www.fetlife.com but for the most part all the sites have a great number of players sad ...
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| being a switch! | 5/6/2009 |
Q: Until fairly recently I always thought of myself as a submissive. I have been with a Dom for ...
A: well I just finished a great book, called Female Domination by Elise Sutton, it was a great book and ...
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| Telling My Boyfriend | 4/30/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend very seriously for 2.5 years now. He is very conservative and naive ...
A: First off let me say that I am sorry for my delay in getting back with you. Here is a good site to ...
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| goals | 4/8/2009 |
Q: I saw your Q and A on how to keep the d/s relationship alive with a family to take care of and i ...
A: what type of things do you what your girl to become? You need to set up the things you wish to ...
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| D/s relationships | 3/15/2009 |
Q: little bit of background 1st, i have been with my master for nearly 2 years he is someone i have ...
A: okay can you tell me some more information please? So is or was the relationship D/s or more M/s or ...
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| mono sub seeking advice for poly relationship | 2/11/2009 |
Q: I am a 20 year old American submissive in a long distance relationship with my 21 year old dominant ...
A: Okay sorry for my delay. But I would seek out munches and activities here near you and attend. Get ...
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| shocked | 2/9/2009 |
Q: I've recently started dating a man and we've really hit it off. He's handsome, smart, funny, rich ...
A: So now I have some questions. 1. Do you think I should have a discussion with him and ask him about ...
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| relationship help/ BDSM | 2/4/2009 |
Q: background: I have been in a 5 year relationship with a sub/pain slut. She introduced me to the ...
A: I know of two places on line does relationship counseling. They are ...
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| Boy role | 1/14/2009 |
Q: I keep hearing talk amongst folks in the gay BDSM world talk about their "boy". Can you help me to ...
A: Basically it's just a way of saying "submissive" or "bottom" or anything else. It's just a synonym ...
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| Black day | 1/14/2009 |
Q: I would like to know what is a black day in the D/s lifestyle. This was a suggestion that was ...
A: Okay to the best that I know Black day is the same as wearing white in the D/s world. Black Day is ...
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| castation | 12/25/2008 |
Q: I am 45 year old man that is slave to my wife. I am wearing chastity devices all the time and never ...
A: But I am not a Dr you would need to ask one to get the answers that you need. O would think that ...
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| Find a Dominate | 12/21/2008 |
Q: I have did all the research i can on this lifestyle and now i think that i am ready to be apart of ...
A: you need to find and start attending munches in your local area and meeting people that are in the ...
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| anal sex on daily basis | 12/19/2008 |
Q: I am a submissive gay man and have sex with my "master" on a daily basis. He will put me on the ...
A: From what I have hard over the years that no it is not good to have anal sex daily. Most often I ...
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| std's and kink | 12/11/2008 |
Q: I have a STD, I take medication for it and seem to have it under control. I'm owned and my Owner is ...
A: No I think you need to tell them about it but also give them information so that they understand and ...
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| new to bdsm | 12/5/2008 |
Q: i have reciently been visiting bdsm web pages and found them a real turn on, i went to visit a ...
A: welcome to the world of kinky sex. there is nothing wrong with you at all many are just like you ...
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| Calling my Boyfriend "Sir"? | 11/22/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and i have been together for over a year - in what i guess is called a "vanilla" ...
A: Fist let me apologize for taking so long to answer this as my pc went down and I have not been able ...
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| My wife being a submission for a Master | 11/4/2008 |
Q: We are new to the life style and decided to try a session with a older dom who seems experinced and ...
A: Well I can tell you that many do just what your wanting to do and that is watch well your wife is ...
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| Submissive in a vanilla marriage | 11/4/2008 |
Q: I have been a sexual submissive my entire life - 42 now but remember having D/s fantasies from age ...
A: May I say that you need to talk with him about the overall sex life you have. And work on that as ...
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| Where to start. | 10/30/2008 |
Q: Ok so here is some back ground info. Im a sub and so if my live in boyfriend. For the last 4 years ...
A: I would first off say that you might want to join some on line group where you can find others in ...
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| D/s - relationships | 10/28/2008 |
Q: I have known my Master for a number of months now. Its been well over a year since my submission to ...
A: First off you can not get past the hurt until you both sit down and talk about it and you are able ...
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| i want to become a daddy, but i dont want to scare girlfriends away | 10/26/2008 |
Q: i want to be a daddy and go all the way with it, i'm an AB/DL and i used to be a sub, but now i've ...
A: I think you need to join places like www.Collarme.com where you can post what it is you’re looking ...
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| my Master | 10/17/2008 |
Q: Just some background on Master and i. my Master/hubby and i have been married almost 2 years but ...
A: First off I would find out if there are munches in your area, and make it a point to get you both ...
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| Wanted my husband to be my Master | 10/13/2008 |
Q: OK- long story short- I have been asking my husband to dominate me for 3 years. I wasn't very ...
A: You should never hide anything at all from your husband that is just wrong but then that is just my ...
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| D/s real life | 9/11/2008 |
Q: My Master and I have been together of 7 yrs, married for 6. Our relationship began as full on- ...
A: Well this is a hard one. think you might need to look at some things and make the time to be ...
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| Ideas | 9/8/2008 |
Q: I am wondering, what could I do for my husband which would inspire him to become more dedicated to ...
A: Your more then welcome, maybe you need to find another couple there and invite them over and spend ...
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| information | 9/6/2008 |
Q: I am new to the BDSM scene and new to Raleigh... How do I go about meeting people in the BDSM ...
A: First off look for munches in your area, they are times to meet in public so that you can get to ...
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| conflicting feelings | 9/2/2008 |
Q: I'm a sub and I have been for almost 4 years now. When I was 16, I met the man that has since become ...
A: Well fist off I feel your pain in all of this. I know for myself it was hard to have a partner and ...
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| Husband learning from Domme, Wife freaking out | 8/28/2008 |
Q: I'm not sure this is so much of a question, more a seeking of someone who can point me in the right ...
A: Have you looked in to local munches that you can attend? It is a good way to have people that are ...
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| the real stupid world | 8/19/2008 |
Q: Why should one trust the people who sponsor munches or scenes? Who are those people? Government ...
A: Most of the time the people that do go out of there way to make the munches happen are people that ...
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| Is my b/f ashamed of me? | 8/14/2008 |
Q: I have been seeing my b\f for over a year. We have a vanilla relationship as wel as a D/s ...
A: First off talk with him on this and how you feel, there might be some underline reason for this. As ...
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| Dom leaving | 7/8/2008 |
Q: I just started training with a Dom late last summer, he lives in another state and we got to see ...
A: Good day, sorry for my delay in writing back on this, but I have been mauling this around in my head ...
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| confuzed | 5/16/2008 |
Q: Ive been with my current boyfriend for just over 2 yrs now. I have always known he is into BDSM ...
A: I can try but each relationship is different. Never feel stupid to talk to him that is what a large ...
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| developing relationship with dominant wife | 5/12/2008 |
Q: I've recently introduced my wife to the idea of spanking me to help me behave more to her liking. ...
A: Well you can find local groups in your area, and attend munches and events so you both can learn and ...
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| sub married to a sub | 5/7/2008 |
Q: In the course of our BDSM odyssey, my husband and I have both switched. We both find a long term D/s ...
A: Well I can understand your points made it would be hard to deal with. Might I suggest something you ...
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| How do I get my husband to make me his slave? | 4/26/2008 |
Q: I am a newlywed and have always had fantasies about my husband tying me up and having complete ...
A: I do not think you can make another person turn into something that they are not. You can talk with ...
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| Does Being a "Sub" Change Who I am? | 4/4/2008 |
Q: My name is Aimee, and I'm 18 years old. You can say that I've always been a bit of a feminist. I'm ...
A: Aimee, It is a great question, thank you for asking it. For myself when I am a sub is my time to ...
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| confusion | 3/25/2008 |
Q: I am a 24 year old male from England. I am quite a good looking lad and don't really have any ...
A: Ok, I am some confused now as well here. “Since i was about 15 I have fantasied about silk and ...
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| Girlfriend into BDSM | 3/9/2008 |
Q: Awhitecloud I have recently got a girlfriend who is really into BDSM, she does needle and edge ...
A: Well first off I would think you might want to wish to start attending the parties with her. Attend ...
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| ask a question | 2/27/2008 |
Q: i want to know why im interested to be a beuty woman's pet? and it was in my mind since i was a ...
A: I can not tell you why you are interested in being a women's pet. I do not know you and I have no ...
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| spanking and pregnancy | 2/22/2008 |
Q: While pregnant, I avoided all spankings and any sort of pain play, out of fear it might harm the ...
A: Sorry for my delay I have been working out of town and it is hard to get on line when I am on the ...
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| Very Confused | 2/19/2008 |
Q: I have been interested in bondage, torture, tickling, etc. as long as I can remember (probably pre ...
A: First off, there is no age at all for getting into BDSM, it is what works for you and what you both ...
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| fantasy to reality sub | 1/25/2008 |
Q: how do you know if the reality is really for you. I've only had vinalla relationships. I'm always ...
A: I am not sure where you live but it might be worth while for you to find a local group and attend ...
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| my bf wants to be a Dom | 12/31/2007 |
Q: what can he do to become a Dom
A: yes he can if he wants to do the work and it is what you both want in your relationship. He should ...
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| taking it to a serious level in my life | 12/16/2007 |
Q: I am wanting to know how to learn how to take this from a bedroom thing to a level above all and not ...
A: you might want to read a book called "The Loving Dominate" you can get it on line as well at any ...
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| bdsm in marriage | 12/9/2007 |
Q: i am new to this site but i am glad that i have finally found a place to ask my questions. i am ...
A: you need to get the book "the loving Dominate" and have him read it and you can get it at an local ...
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| everyday life | 12/3/2007 |
Q: I am a sew submissive, and so may not fully understand things. I work every day to please my dom and ...
A: I think your right on target with what you want so many want it and long for it as well. Life is ...
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| levels of pain | 12/1/2007 |
Q: Can you have D/s without high levels of pain. I have been with my Master for a year and I thought ...
A: some like a little more sensual and less pain. And have you hard of poly? Sometime it is nice to ...
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| Smoking | 11/11/2007 |
Q: my Master has told me that i am not to smoke, yet it is so hard not to go behind his back and do ...
A: Alisha, First off both things are hard to over come and the cutting alone you should be seeing ...
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| my girlfriend works as a sub. I want to know more. | 11/7/2007 |
Q: I have met a wonderful girl who makes me very happy. She works as a submissive in a well known ...
A: Sorry to say that I do not have much experience with dungeon’s in the LA area. With what I know of ...
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| Entering a poly relationship | 10/3/2007 |
Q: What can i expect from a poly D/s relationship if i am the third? i am new to the lifestyle and have ...
A: here are some links that might help! http://community.livejournal.com/polybdsm ...
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| becoming a dom | 9/5/2007 |
Q: In just this past week my boyfriend of 9 months with whom I live admitted he would like to try out a ...
A: I would look for area munches to start attending so that you make friends with like minded people ...
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| top/bottom vs. dom/sub | 9/3/2007 |
Q: Can a top be a sub? Though I am a bottom in the bedroom, I have the desire to have someone to ...
A: Okay it is not a Top being a sub….it would be more like a Dom being also a sub at times….they are ...
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| Collar | 9/3/2007 |
Q: I am kind of been in a Dom/Sub relationship for 3 years. In the last two months we have defined it ...
A: First off a Dom/sub and D/s are the same type of relationship. Now the second part of your question ...
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| Getting started... | 8/30/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend has been interested in bondage for some time now and I'm the first girl that will do ...
A: You might wish to sit down and talk with him on this. Find out if there are munches in your local ...
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| Sex after a session | 8/10/2007 |
Q: I'm glen 25 years old, i am 24\7 submissive for a 40 years old mistress, its my first time being a ...
A: First off that was something to read! Now I know many with this problem and well many do not have ...
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| am I wrong? | 8/9/2007 |
Q: I met and fell inlove with my Master online. We live in two different countries, but he will be ...
A: First off I think that most subs feel this way from time to time in all D/s relationships, we all ...
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| How to punish 2 girls | 8/7/2007 |
Q: I'm going to be having a 3-sum soon with my gf and her mate and they've both agreed that i can ...
A: Why would you first off think that they would both be bad at the same time? And I would say it ...
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| is he for me? | 8/5/2007 |
Q: I encountered a man online who is "sexually submissive". He has years of experience, I have only ...
A: http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/chk_main.php3 This link is for a checklist you should both do and ...
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| 24/7, real-life complete with kids and exhaustion | 8/4/2007 |
Q: I have an issue I'd love some help with (as opposed to a single question). My master and I have ...
A: Minx, Your most welcome and I will try to help some if I can. I have been there and done that with ...
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| master-------ing?? | 7/21/2007 |
Q:
A: awhitecloud This can be a hard place to begin the walk of life. It is nice to see you so committed ...
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| masochists that is starting | 4/24/2007 |
Q: I am a masochists that is starting to explore my sadists side of my lifestyle but I am a very heavy ...
A: You need to talk with her, have her do a check list of things she has done and likes to do or does ...
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| How to surprise my master | 4/14/2007 |
Q: I want to do a surprise to my master, but i have runed out of ideas so please help
A: I am not Master Shadow, but I will try to help you out. You might want to wear something lace and ...
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| How to become a master | 4/10/2007 |
Q: My husband and I want to become master of a 24/7 subgirl...we only know what that means from reading ...
A: What most of us live 24/7 is something that is ingrained into us. As to just learning it so you can ...
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| Question | 11/29/2006 |
Q: my name is Steve. I am a 29 year old submissive male who's into soft bondage only. I am not into ...
A: To find things in your area you might want to start searching on the net for activities and groups ...
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| need to know | 8/30/2006 |
Q: haloo my name is alma iam a happy girl with my boyfreind and our relation is perfect, it just ...
A: you can have him lay in between your legs and have him suck the pee as you release it. There are ...
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| advice | 8/27/2006 |
Q: , i notes he is not fully satisfied with me on the bed and he always mention and talk about my feet ...
A: Ask him what it is that he wishes to do and talk with him on this. I am sorry no one has answered ...
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