Expert: arani_CsA - 3/20/2007

Question
Hi
can you tell me where online that i can find out about how a slave prepares her body.my Master wants me to read up on it.any help would be greatly appreciated. thanks

Answer
Hello...

This question is more complex than it may seem.  Each Master will have His own preferences on how He wants His slavae to prepare herself.  And this can also vary depending on what she is preparing herself for, whether that be for sexual usage, or a lifestyle gathering, or going out in the vanilla world.  This is part of what makes up a slave's training in what is pleasing for a particular Master.  i will try to give you some ideas for further consideration, however.

First i'll address preparing yourself for His private use, whether it be sexual services or just cooking Him dinner or doing His laundry.  Most Masters like their slaves to be shaven in the nether regions, and there are different ways of accomplishing this.  Some slaves use razors and some use creams or waxing; it really depends on what works for you.  Most Masters like their slaves to be attired in a certain way around the house (or even to be totally naked), and to wear their hair in a particular fashion.  Or you may be commanded to wear your collar at all times when at home, or ask permission before leaving the room.  Again, it all depends on what your Master's personal preferences are in this.

Then there are different ways in which you can train yourself to serve Him better, by taking cooking classes or losing weight or reading up on topics that are of interest to Him, or many other ways.  This involves paying attention to what your Master likes to do, or enjoys, and then changing yourself so that you can meet those needs better.  i like to say that a submissive DOES what her Master wants, whereas a slave BECOMES what her Master wants.  Sometimes you can learn these things by speaking with former slaves or acquaintances of your Master, sometimes you can ask Him directly, sometimes you just need to use your powers of observation.

As for going out among others of the lifestyle, you really need to know what kind of protocol the particular group requires.  Some are very informal, others are very strict about how submissives and slaves must behave.  But, here again, part of this depends on your Master's preferences.  In my case, i am required to address all men as Master or Sir, and all women as Mistress or Ma'am, unless they give me permission to do otherwise or inform me that they are submissives or slaves.  Often, a slave is not allowed to address a Dominant without permission, but likewise a Dominant should not address a slave without first asking her Master if He may do so.  You can learn more here by doing a web search on "BDSM, protocol."

As for going out into the vanilla world, again this varies.  i knew one slave whose Master put her on a collar and leash whenever they went out, even if it was to the local mall.  My own Master has a problem with this, as it forces our lifestyle on people who may not have consented to be a part of it.  i do have a public collar, which is basically a choker-length chain, that i wear out in public to remind myself of my station.  To everyone else who may see it, it's just a pretty necklace.  Or, your Master may require you to go without panties in public, again to be a constant reminder to you of who and what you are.

A couple of good websites that speak to slavery issues are:
www.leathernroses.com
www.rlslavery.com
www.esodom.com
edgeliving.blogspot.com

i also run a Yahoo group for slaves to discuss matters pertaining to life as a slave.  If you like, i can send you an invite.

i would also strongly encourage you and your Master, if you have not already done so, to become active in a lifestyle group in your area.  There you can speak with other Masters and slaves, and observe how they interact with each other.  You can find a listing of groups, by state, at www.drkdesyre.com

If you have any more questions, feel free to send them my way.

Good luck, and be safe,
arani_CsA,
devoted property of Clampius_Arelius