Expert: awhitecloud - 12/1/2007

Question
Can you have D/s without high levels of pain. I have been with my Master for a year and I thought that we were developing well together but recently discovered that he craves to inflict more levels of pain then I can tolerate

Answer
Hello and not all of us like pain, some like a little more sensual and less pain.

And have you hard of poly?  Sometime it is nice to pick up a play partner that likes and enjoys the pain that is past what you wish and or can handle.  It can be fun to watch as well to know and see your Dom able to unleash what is inside of him and be happy, but you’re not on the receiving end.  It does not mean you have to share him for anything other then that time of play, no sex or service.  You talk it all out and do what works for you both.  For me it was a relief he could unleash it all, and I was happy to know it was not me, as well that I had made him happy with allowing this out.  It made me feel more like a sub even in some ways that I had helped to serve him in a much deeper way.

I know this does and will not work for everyone but it helped us as there was that time of release for him and I got to watch and love him and have sex with him as soon as it was over it drew us together in a different way even.  And I am happier in knowing that he has the ability to try things for himself that are past what I can handle.  That does in no way say nothing bad about myself or you, some like it some do not, and that is where it stands.

I hope this helped and sorry for the delay we where out of town.