Expert: Oscar G. - 9/13/2005

Question
There's a man i'm interested in. actualy a lot of women are intested in him. But I'm tons cooler than them. and better looking. Just kidding!

anyway we are taking a neuroscience and anatomy/physiology course together. we are both neurobiology majors. he was sitting next to me today and asked me what profession i was interested in going into in the neuropsychology field, and without thinking, i said sex therapy (whoops!) he threw back his head and laughed uproariously, winked, and nudged me with his elbow. he grins and winks at me whenever he sees me now. he asked me for my number and invited me to a school party a few months ago but i couldnt attend. i let him borrow a textbook last month for his quiz in another course and he still hasnt given the textbook back to me.

i asked him about it and he said he'll try to bring it, but he was acting very very verrrry strange and staring at his feet. he lives next building to me, he said for me to call him to make sure he is at home so i can come over and get it whenever i want (?) yeah. uh huh. why can't he just knock on my door to drop it off? he's less than 10 feet away and obviously knows where i live because he's friends with my roomate. i'm wondering if he's doing that on purpose so i'll have to keep hanging around him and talking to him? or is he trying to get me over to his place LOL.

the other day he was sitting next to me, and when class ended, i was still talking to this other person behind me, so he said goodbye and patted my knee with his hand (and got a lot of leg, dont know if that was intentional, but i didn't really mind)

ok is he hitting on me now or what?!? is he trying to like ask me out or something but doing a bad job of it? he doesn't seem like a player or a sleazeball. my friends all really like him so he has their approval.

and what should i do about the textbook thing. keep bugging him?

yeah ok. i'll be honest - yes yes i want him. but i dont want to be too easy cuz he has all the girls slobbering all over him. he has to earn me.

it's exams week now though, so he's really stressed. after this week is over, should i start bugging him again? ;-) he's ignoring me now. grr! argh!

Answer
Hi:

Well... about dancing around each other it if up to you who will take the first step.

    About the book, ask your roomate to get it for you. And maybe send a note with your roomie for him. You can send th enote saying or inviting him to talk over coffee and see how he reacts in stress free environment OUTSIDE from classes. Or get him into inviting you, but the trick is to get him  outside the class environment and see how he behaves toward you face to face. From there you can find out if he is really intesrested or just being ackward and a bit over friendly and improper in mixed company to impress  his buddies or make someone jealous? <but then again, it might a weird scenario>

Take your time, meet and talk and decide from there. If he is shy, ackward, but honest and nice, help him along. Otherwise be careful and step back if you do not feel comfortable.

Be careful, but have fun.

Oscar G.