Expert: arani_CsA - 8/30/2006

Question
haloo my name is alma iam a happy girl with my boyfreind and our relation is perfect, it just recently start to find out some interest of my boyfreind by asking me to make him smell my feet or my shoes and even he ask me to pee in his mouth i wanna know if this wrong and what is it mean make him submissive and me being Domination and how with some example i can do that to make him happy as i dont mind ,, i just dont know that why i resort to experts and how to make him addictet to me and my feet and my shoes and my pee ,, how i can pee in his mouth i mean in sexy way in the bed just a little few drops time by time until he get use to and addicted to ,, just plsssssssss help me to do this i want him to be submissive and soo hapy as he love it  

Answer
Well, I'm not sure what I could tell you that I didn't tell your boyfriend yesterday, but I'll give it a shot.

People who are into the BDSM lifestyle are neither sick nor wrong.  They simply enjoy a different kind of activities than others.  Some say that it is a genetic or biological difference, others say it is a learned response to life experiences.  I would strongly encourage you to read more about the lifestyle, and the two websites that I gave your boyfriend are excellent ones for beginners.  You can find them at www.castlerealm.com and www.leathernroses.com.

The lifestyle can encompass a wide spectrum of tastes, ranging from just a little kinky play in the bedroom and going up to a full-time Master/slave relationship such as I am involved in.  There are literally hundreds of different kinds of fetishes, or activities that cause sexual stimulation.  I am not personally into watersports or foot worship, which you mention, but I do enjoy a good flogging or rope bondage.  There are literally hundreds of other activities that various people engage in.  Again, I would encourage you to do some research into the different play practices out there, before deciding what you would like to do.

The key is to start out slowly.  Don't dive into the lifestyle head-first, without experimenting a little.  Find a group in your area that has events, where you can meet and learn from others face-to-face.  A search at www.drksdsyre.com will lead you to a list of groups by state.

Good luck, and have fun.  But, most of all, be safe.