Expert: Oscar G. - 11/29/2006

Question
Hi, my name is Steve. I am a 29 year old submissive male who's into soft bondage only. I am not into pain and the usual BDSM activities. I just like to be bound and tape gagged, etc, in more passive roles. I am interested in going to soft bondage parties and meeting any mistress's/dominatrix's who cater for such passive roles and possibly bind several people in the same room for observation by others. Are there such events/parties out there? I am in the south east of the UK.

Answer
Hi Steve:

BDSM is a big umbrella term and realm that cover a lot of stuff. It is nice to know you have defined tastes and know your limits, however you will have to find places that while named "BDSM" they may cover other tastes and topics that are of less interest to you. But i would encourage you to go to them, get to observe the scenes (even if not participate right away), mingle socially, put your best foot forward and get to know the Ladies. Some of them could cater to your tastes, while some others, are quite into their own ways, and you may not get that much of what YOU want, since it is service for/toward them <smile>. But whne you find a decent person, it is a balanced  compromise.  It is all a question of getting to know people and matching ideas and personalities.

About places to find such parties i ould only suggest to surf the WWW  for more local detailed resources. One global site I like is Alt.com and Bondage.com. I would suggest that you give both sites a look over and see if they have people and groups in your area. Only UK group i know maybe The Spanner Trust, but not sure who host events and or parties locally.
My advice is once you find out organization that host seminars or classes venture out and know people and ask around there if you cannot find it online. Eventually you will hit it. ATtimes it is only face to face interactions that will help you find exactly what you need and get more advice along the way.

Best wishes in your search. Be informed, be careful and have fun.
Oscar G.