Expert: arani_CsA - 11/29/2006

Question
Hi, my name is Steve. I am a 29 year old submissive male who's into soft bondage only. I am not into pain and the usual BDSM activities. I just like to be bound and tape gagged, etc, in more passive roles. I am interested in going to soft bondage parties and meeting any mistress's/dominatrix's who cater for such passive roles and possibly bind several people in the same room for observation by others. Are there such events/parties out there? I am in the south east of the UK.

Answer
Hello...

Going to a "munch," or a meeting of folks who are part of the BDSM lifestyle, is an excellent way of meeting like-minded friends, and also learning about the lifestyle.  Here is a good listing of groups who hold munches, play parties, and other gatherings:  http://www.drkdesyre.com  Groups are listed by state (for those of us from the U.S.), and also by country.  Most groups also have an on-line message board where you can meet the members and find out if you want to get to know them on a more personal level.  It will also help them get to know you, and learn if you are trustworthy enough to be invited to an event.  When you do attend group functions, be sure you watch others a bit before you jump in and attempt such things yourself.

I hope that you take into consideration safety issues, and that you get to know a little about a Mistress before you either engage in some casual scening or accept a collar.  She will quite literally have your life in her hands, especially if you are tied up or otherwise incapable of escape.  I also hope that you have done some research into the lifestyle; some excellent sources for that can be found at www.castlerealm.com, www.leathernroses.com, and www.steel-door.com/Chamber.

Good luck to you, and if you have any further questions I will be happy to try and help you.

arani_CsA,
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