Expert: Oscar G. - 2/24/2006

Question
I am new to the scene and I dont want to make any hasty choices or jump into something i am not ready for. what are some good questions to ask a potential new dom? are there somethings that are important to know up front that i might not think of on my own?

thank you

Answer
Hi Donna:

I was considering your question, when I realized you have to answer a few questions yourself before you ask them some stuff. You gotta define your limitations, meaning knowing what stuff you KNOW you will never do, or interested in. Be aware that being a woman, men usually are the ones who pursue you, just like in regular relationships; but even more so  from Doms, pseudo-doms and just plain posseurs/fakers.
So read as much info you can in the topics of BDSM. There are many sites full of useful information, to  know yourself  and keeping yourself safe. But i would say learn and define who you are and what do you want out of this, and be sure to express that. And do not concede to pressure from anyone telling you  have  to try something else that you are against.

Good  questions would be ask them for references and level of experience in BDSM. Their specialties and how much do they push limits and their level of discipline. Also the level of commitement they seek, if they needa submissive or a slave (define which one you are before they answer).

I think that covers the basics <smile>. In case you feel you need more specific details, write back. Be well, have fun, but be safe.

Oscar G.