Expert: arani_CsA - 8/27/2006

Question
hi i know this has not much to do with the category you are involved in but you sound like possibly an experienced person in this so i hope you can help me as i am too embarrassed, i love my girlfriend to much but she is so soft on the bed and iam not iam into foot fetish and dirty stuff but she is not i try in different ways to tell her that but no result , i wish to try with her all what i love be her slave and to be my mistress , i wish to try by force to she pee in my mouth i wanna tastet i never do it befor but i dont mind ,, lick her shoes ,, but as i told you she is not into this thing ,, please advice as i cant stop thinking of this and its affect our sex relationship but sure she dont know becouse i dont show her as i said i dont want to freak her out .... plss help me  

Answer
After reading this question and the one following it, I have a suspicion that they were written by the same person based on a similar style of writing.  I'm not sure this person is serious or not.  However, I will give him the benefit of the doubt and try to answer.

Not everyone in the world enjoys such activities as what you describe.  The BDSM lifestyle encompasses a wide variety of activities, ranging from a little kinky play in the bedroom to a full-time Master/slave relationship such as I have.  One of the most basic principles of this lifestyle is that of consent.  In other words, you can't force a person to do what he/she doesn't want to do.  In some circles this is called rape.

That said, what I would suggest is to read about the lifestyle, along with your girlfriend.  There are some good books out there, and some excellent websites.  Two good ones can be found at www.castlerealm.com and www.leathernroses.com.  Rent a couple of movies, "Nine and a Half Weeks" and "The Secretary."  Discuss with her why you are drawn to this lifestyle, and also why she is not.  Try out some light play, such as having her put handcuffs on you and assume the woman-on-top position during sex.  Or have her spank you for some transgression, or serve her breakfast in bed.

In the end, though, it may simply be that this relationship is not meant to be.  Compatibility in bed is not the most important thing, but without it a relationship will have a lot of trouble.

Good luck to you both.