Expert: Oscar G. - 7/17/2006

Question
I'm a 28 year old male. I have done some spanking play before but nothing that would be called severe and enjoy it a lot. Just once I would like to get a spanking that was so severe I couldn't stand it  and couldn't sit for days. Easy enough to try once...but would an experience like that kill the thrill of of playful spankings I do now?  

Answer
Hi Kurt:

It is a very interesting question to rise, but a valid one.
But i would say experiment and find out. It is all a question of how are the spankings delivered (even if intense/hard) and by how and and in what context. If you really want to test your limits you are exploring your  threshold physically. But you do not want to loose the joy of it.
You may be more masoquistic than you realize and perhaps seek a more intense endorphine high. Or while you may want a more intense /hard spanking you still want to be loved/cared/respected by the dominant you play with.

But may love it even more, or you may be turned off out of it for a bit if you really dislike it. But if really like it and love it now, but will come back to it and find a level that you will feel comfortable with. A good dominant could increase you level of punishment slowly until you figure out your real boundaries, emotionally and physically.
Just be safe choosing your spanker, and that whoever does it will take of you.

Because after all what you enjoy is the experience and delivery and the ritual, but maybe not the pain per se. But It is good to try and figure out at least what you do NOT want, even if you are not quite sure what you want.

Be safe and have fun.

Oscar G.