Expert: awhitecloud - 8/30/2007

Question
My boyfriend has been interested in bondage for some time now and I'm the first girl that will do that for him.  I've done light stuff - I've tied up and blindfolded my last bf and he loved it - and we tried that one night.  He really liked it because he wanted it to happen for so long.  I want to know what else we can do.  He's more submissive than me, but I think he has some dominate traits he just doesn't realise.  I've never really researched the topic until recently, but I do want to know more.  Also, I need to know who to get him to reciprocate sometimes.  Would that possibly happen if I order him to do something?  I would just like some good advice on how to step into a sex life involving some D/s.  Can you help me out?

Answer
You might wish to sit down and talk with him on this.  Find out if there are munches in your local area and start attending them, it is a good way to meet others and for you both to grow.  You could find skilled people in bondage and have them teach you both some things, it can be a good ice breaker.  Once you attend a munch you would then get invited to attend play parties and that could be a great way to meet others that do a lot of bondage work in there play time.  

You might wish to also try looking up on the Internet and to see if you can find some pict of things you might enjoy or think you might enjoy and then ask him to try it on you, and see where that goes.

You might try different night where you top each other in the bedroom and tie each other up, and top each other.  I would print a lot of things and begin reading together and learning together.  Here is a good place to have a look http://www.castlerealm.com/tours.shtml

If you wish to know more and have more questions please feel free to ask me more questions I will be happy to try and answer them for you.