Expert: Master Shadow - 8/23/2007

Question
i am and have been in a long distance relationship with a Dom in the UK for the last 3 years. Recently i've been instructed to provide Him with a switch day. Where He is the submissive and i am the Domme. The purpose is for Uus both learn what it's like to be on the other end. And to help keep Himself in check so as He doesn't ever ask too much of me. Knowing a Dom should never ask His sub to do something if He Himself would never try to do. i'm having a problem. Although i've been an on line sub for 3 years and i've done this "switch" before,i need new ideas. i have to write 3 essays of 3 different scenes with exact instructions and net links or pictures to match, along with reasons why i'd have Him do these things. i need a fresh brain.. Can You please help me? He has been in the lifestyle for 20 years living it 24/7 for the better part of His adult life. His limits are no children, animals, deceased, blood, needles, or fisting. i can't think of any other hard limits. i'd like to incorporate humiliation, bondage and control. i'm very open to your ideas and if you have any helpful Internet links i'd welcome them.
Sincerely,
becky

Answer
I would write the three essays, two where He is Dominant, and one where You are Dominant. Use Y/your fantasies for this. Try to keep it as realistic as possible, and remember that Y/you will be writing about a real scene, not an online one where what Y/you do can be anything at all, cyber being what it is. Explain how Y/you have fantasised about this, and why. Does it turn Y/you on? Is it something Y/you have wanted to try, but never had the nerve to mention it? Things on that order.

Try to be as descriptive as possible. Make it come to life in H/his mind. Make it as real as possible, to the point where H/he can actually see it in H/his mind.

Start out with a draft, where Y/you write down the key points, then flesh it in once Y/you have gotten everything down on paper. I'm seeing something like tying H/him to the cross, and doing a bdsm scene on H/him while having something like an E-Stim (Electronic orgasm machine) hooked up to H/him during the entire scene, and see how many times Y/you can make H/him get off during the scene. He could do likewise to Y/you as well.

I know a Domme who tied Her slave to a table securely, then hooked him to an E-Stim, and kept him there all night while She watched. She lost count on how many times he came, but She did state that he slept for three days afterwords.

I will state this though. Never, and I mean NEVER leave a sub or slave who is bound or restrained alone for any reason. There is too many chances of something wrong happening. Remember, the object of this is to do something B/both of Y/you enjoy, and not to injure each other.

If Y/you need further information, or have other questions, please feel free to contact me here, and I will endeavor to help any way I can. Also, please forgive the lateness of this answer. I lost internet for a while due to recent storms in the area tearing down the internet cables.
I hope this helps.


                                    SINcerely in Leather,
                                    Master Shadow,
                                    House of Dragon.