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Expert: - 9/3/2007


Question
Can a top be a sub?  Though I am a bottom in the bedroom, I have the desire to
have someone to serve me, devot himself to me and my desire.  I am very
intrigue by the conversations here because it has been perplexing for me,
wondering if a top could be a submissive.

Answer
Okay it is not a Top being a sub….it would be more like a Dom being also a sub at times….they are called switches.  Meaning they are a Dom for part of the time and play and a sub for the other parts.  A lot of people do both aspects of the roles and it works for them.  I find it hard to define with some the Dom and sub times ad places.  But it is all about what ever works for you and in your relationship.

I hope this helps you even in a small way, if you have any more questions please send them I will try my best to answer them for you.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

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I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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