Expert: David Lynch - 11/6/2008

Question
QUESTION: My boyfriend is in a wheelchair (he has use of his upper body however) and I am able bodied. How would we be able to swing dance? Please help.

ANSWER: Hayley:
    
1. YOU DANCE AWAY FROM HIM WITH HIS L OR RT OR BOTH HANDS HOLDING YOURS.
2. YOU DANCE TOWARD HIM THE SAME.
3. YOU CIRCLE L AND RT AROUND HIM.
4. YOU TRAIL/TOUCH/MASSAGE HIM AS YOU GO AROUND HIM, LIKE SHOULDERS, ARMS HEAD, FACE, ARMS, ETC.
5. AS YOU GO AROUND HIM YOU ALLOW/HELP HIM TOUCH, ,MASSAGE, TRAIL HIS HANDS/FINGERS ON YOUR SKIN ARMS, HANDS, BODY, ETC.
6. YOU STAY AT ARMS LENGTH AND DANCE FOR HIM AND TO HIM- FLIRT, PLAY, MAYBE EVEN TEASE A LITTLE, AND THEN:
7.  YOU SIT ON HIS LAP AND DO A LAP DANCE, OR PUT LEGS OVER HIS
LEGS OR ARMS, HUG HIM, HOLD HIS FACE ETC.  
8. HE ROTATES IN A CIRCLE WHILE YOU DO THE ABOVE.
9. YOU MOVE HIM IN CHAIR IN CIRLES AND  FIGURE 8 S AND TIP HIM/
10 HE TIPS HIMSELF  DURING THE ABOVE.

11.  YOU DANCE WITH THE CHAIR WHICH IS,  REMEMBER, AN EXTENSION OF HIM -BUMP IT TOUCH IT RUB IT, ETC. SIT BETWEEN HIS LEGS AND MOVE WITH YOUR HEELS,ETC.  

12. FINALLY, YOU LEAN ON HIM OR THE CHAIR, AT SONG END. SUCH AS BENDING OVER BACKWARD ON TO HIS LAP, OR IN HIS ARMS.  

HE IS A GREAT GUY AND WORTHY OF YOUR ATTENTION, AFFECTION, PASSION, DANCE AND PLAY. AND YOU ALSO ARE GREAT. LOVE HIM , PLAY, MAKE UP YOUR OWN ROUTINES, DANCES, AND DRAMAS.  PUT ON MODEL OR VIDEO SHOWS FOR HIM. AND INVOLVE HIM IN THE PLAY. YOU 2 MAKE A GREAT COUPLE. ENJOY THE SPECIAL RELATIONSHIP. i KNOW YOU WILL NOT BE COMFORTABLE YET WITH ALL THESE SUGGESTIONS SO MODIFY THIM TO SUIT BOTH YOUR NEEDS AND PREFERENCES.  WALKING, ROCKING STEPPING STEPS SEEM THE EASIEST. TRY DIF TYPES OF MUSIC.
I SUGGEST A TANGO, SWING OR INTERPERETIVE DANCE CLASS.FOR YOU BOTH.  ENJOY.
LET ME KNOW IF YOU WANT FOOTWORK.
YOUR FAN, DAVE


---------- FOLLOW-UP ----------

QUESTION: Appropriate swing dancing. This is a FORMAL dance. No dirty dancing, just traditional swing dancing.

Answer
and more appropriately.
I thought you were 2 adults dancing at home.

 FIRST, AT THE START OF THE MUSIC, HE CAN ROLL INTO A OPEN SPACE ON THE DANCE FLOOR AND YOU CAN REST A HAND ON HIS SHOULDER OR ARM OR ARM OF THE CHAIR.  WHEN HE GETS TO A GOOD OPEN SPOT HE CAN STOP AND YOU GO TO THE FRONT OF THE CHAIR.  
1. YOU STEP BACK OR DANCE AWAY FROM HIM WITH HIS L OR RT OR BOTH HANDS HOLDING YOURS. YOU CAN STEP TO YOUR RT SIDE WITH YOUR RT FOOT AND THEN BACK TO YOUR L SIDE WITH YOUR L FOOT.  YOU COULD ALSO STEP BACK FROM HIM WITH YOUR RT FOOT AND LIFT YOUR LEFT FOOT SLIGHTLY AS 2 QUICK BEATS OF THE MUSIC. THESE 4 MOVES TO THE RT, LEFT , RICHT BACK AND THEN L STEP FWD IS A BASIC HUSTLE/SWING STEP WITH 4 SLOW BEATS. EACH STEP IS LIKE A QUARTER NOTE OR IF YOU GO TWICE AS FAST SO MOVES ARE LIKE EIGHTH NOTES.
2. YOU  STEP OR DANCE TOWARD HIM THE SAME.
3. YOU CIRCLE L AND RT AROUND HIM HOLDING HIS L OR RT HAND OR BOTH HANDS- ALL SLOW BEATS.
4. YOU TOUCH HIM AS YOU GO IN A CIRCLE  AROUND HIM, LIKE  TOUCH THE SHOULDERS, ARMS HEAD,ARMS, ETC.   
5. HE ROTATES IN A CIRCLE WHILE YOU DO THE ABOVE.
6. YOU MOVE HIM IN THE CHAIR IN  L AND RT CIRCLES AND  FIGURE 8 S AND TIP HIM BACK IF HE IS NOT TOO HEAVY.
7. HE TIPS HIMSELF BACK WARDS DURING THE ABOVE.
8. AT SONG END YOU CAN WHISPER IN HIS EAR OR TAKE HIM OVER TO GREET AND MEET A FRIEND OR GET SOME PUNCH, ETC. IF YOU ARE COOL AND QUIET SOON OTHERS WILL RELAX AND CALM DOWN AND ALL WILL BE OK.    

12. FINALLY, YOU LEAN ON HIM OR THE CHAIR, AT SONG END. SUCH AS BENDING OVER BACKWARD ON TO HIS LAP, OR IN HIS ARMS.  

HE IS A GREAT GUY AND WORTHY OF YOUR ATTENTION, AFFECTION, AND DANCE.    YOU ALSO ARE GREAT.  ENJOY THE DANCE.   PLAY, MAKE UP YOUR OWN MOVES. YOU 2 MAKE A GREAT COUPLE. ENJOY THE SPECIAL RELATIONSHIP. i KNOW YOU WILL NOT BE COMFORTABLE YET WITH ALL THESE SUGGESTIONS SO MODIFY THIM TO SUIT BOTH YOUR NEEDS AND PREFERENCES.  WALKING, ROCKING STEPPING STEPS SEEM THE EASIEST. TRY DIF TYPES OF MUSIC.
I SUGGEST A TANGO, SWING OR INTERPRETIVE DANCE CLASS.FOR YOU BOTH.  ENJOY.
LET ME KNOW IF YOU WANT FOOTWORK.
YOUR FAN, DAVE