Expert: Dr. Tim Gladu - 7/26/2007

Question
I came back from work one day and my wife was gone. She refuses to pick the phone and does not reply text messages. No one that I know seems to know where she is. Not even her mother. If I sleep with another woman under this condition, is she not to blame?

Answer
Sunny,

If you sleep with another woman other than you wife then it is adultery. If divorce her under the circumstances then you could re-marry in the eyes of God you would be justified. You can not blame anyone for your actions, we all have to answer to God for our sin and He does not blame others for what we do. Look at it this way. Remember a guy named Adam, he tried really hard to blame his wife for his actions, and I think you can remember what God told him. I can not imagine what you are going through. You just need to remember that you are responsible for your own sin and no one else.