Expert: Mrs. Priscilla Lyons - 9/26/2004

Question
hi
im 14 with a ? on manners  do adlts expect to hear yes or yes maam when being answered? is it important? does it matter how old? when do you really expect it if u do? sorry to bug u just moved to south and hear it more  thanks
april

Answer
Hi, April.  Thanks for writing and for caring about this subject.  As a Christian we do want to do whatever we can to be a good representative for Christ.  I'm from the north and even I am impressed when people use the terms "sir" and "ma'am."  To not use those terms in the south may be considered by some people to be disrespectful, and so lose some credibility as a Christian witness.  If I were you, I would really notice when and where those terms are used by others, then try to fit in using the highest standard.
   Along with age, you might consider using the terms to indicate a non-familiarity, or safe distance from others unless specifically welcomed to drop the formality.  I'm sure it would not be out of line to give a formal answer to anyone who is in an adult supervisory position.  
   Such manners often open doors to connect well with others, besides helping your Christian witness.  Best wishes on your new life in the south.
   Love,
   Priscilla Lyons